Can you be in a relationship with someone you’ve been friends with for years? Why would you suddenly find them attractive after years?
Why wouldn't you? People change over time.I've been friends with my boyfriend for 3 years before we became a couple. We're in a relationship since 6 years so far so yes, it does work out just nicely.
Was he a close friend before though? Did you ever hang out with him one on one?
We did hang out more after both of us realized that we like each other. Beforehand, we mostly met with other friends aside from a few occasions.
And did you tell each other before you started hanging out one on one? Or was there a period when you were just hanging out one on one and trying to guess each other’s feelings because neither of you said anything?
We did hang out more one on one about 4 months before talking about feelings or anything.But even before we started, pretty much our whole group noticed that there's something between us. We were just too dense to notice it earlier. So yea we both started to hang out more because we liked each other more but we didn't talk about it.
That’s interesting. I’m in this situation now but I’ve pretty much just assumed she’s friend zoned me by now.
What did others notice?
And did you bring up the conversation about feelings? Or did he?
Apparently we acted differently towards each other than we used to, at least that's what my bestfriend told me. It must have been pretty obvious for others but we were completely unaware.I do not believe in the friend zone by the way. It always sounds like an excuse to me.And for the feelings... He pretty much just randomly decided to kiss me on one evening when I was at his place to watch a movie. We've been a couple from then on.
So did you know you had the feelings for him before the kiss? And was the vibes just friendly before the kiss?
Kind of, but not from him. He told my bestfriends husband, that way my bestfriend knew it and she told me.I couldn't really believe it though 😅 seemed too good to be true. But I'd consider us as just friends up until the kiss.
But I obviously knew about my own feelings yea xD I've misread your question.
So you knew about the feelings and gave him flirty vibes which he obviously picked up on?
No, I didn't gave him flirty vibes. at least not as far as I am aware.
So he didn’t know and just had to take a risk?
And make that bold move? Did he give hints before? Did you acknowledge them?
Both of us have been really oblivious to any possible hint, just like I said xD
Wow. But you were both wondering about each other’s feelings. That’s so cute. But unfortunately your situation is probably quite rare. I was convinced a friend liked me after 2 other people said they think she likes me and I started liking her too but I think she only sees me as a friend.
I never liked her before that. We’ve known each other about 3 years but only occasionally met in a group before. Recently we started meeting alone every week. And have been doing so for about 3 months.
Did you not even touch him in the 3 months you were hanging out alone before becoming a couple?
Not really, no.
Or make eye contact with him? Are you shy? Is he shy?
We're both introverts. But like yea eye contact is kinda normal between friends
Oh I see. You 2 seem similar to me and my friend. Even the situation seems similar except I don’t know if she likes me and I keep switching between assuming she likes me and as shining she only sees me as a friend.
Before you became a couple, were you both mutually arranging to meet up alone with you or was it more him? We’re you texting him a lot and we’re you initiating this or more him?
Umm he was the one who mostly initiated texting me through steam after I added him there. Mostly I had a message from him just seconds after I started my computer xDI think both of us initiated meeting alone about equally. I more or less invited myself over to his place on the night he kissed me xD to "watch Hobbit 2". Haven't finish the movie to this day.
Lol. That’s interesting.
So do you think if meeting alone isn’t being initiated equally, it means they’re not that into you?
Not necessarily. Some women have the mindset of not wanting to "annoy" others and therefore only rarely initiate meeting or conversations despite actually wanting to. So it's impossible to tell by that alone.Does she happily agree to meet you when you ask, or does she look for excuses?
She always says yes and normally says that sounds good or something too. She very rarely says no - only when she has a genuine excuse.
That sounds promising.
And we help each other with little things. But we sometimes disagree on things. Is this a bad sign?
It'd be kind of boring to have the same opinion about everything, don't you think?
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