Yep all good points !
Yeah I agree.
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Wow that’s cray cray!
That is definitely a way to go. What if they say no?
Then I'll tell my friend
That has the potential to backfire because if they have a heads up they may say you tried to come on to them and are making it up out of jealousy. One of my friends actually went through this.
@Capricornunicorn I think telling your friend about something like this is a lose lose situation. I realize there is the I'm loyal to my friend and they were canoodling over lunch with wine and such, but should you be in the middle of your friend's relationship? Maybe she knows? Maybe they have open relationship? And THAT is none of anyone's business either... You have no idea what kind of foot in mouth situation you'd be getting into. Which is why I'd say, UNLESS YOUR FRIEND ASKS YOU IF YOU SAW HER HUSBAND SOMEWHERE WITH X ON A PARTICULAR DAY AND YOU COULD REPORT YES, you should say NOTHING. If she asks why you didn't say anything, your saying it was none of your business and you didn't know the whole story are both truthful and realistic statements.This is such a can of worms you risk being shot down for being the messenger, as several have said.
@Screenwriter I think it boils down to how close you are to the person. If it were your brother or sister would your answer be any different?
No. It's not my marriage. And, again. What do I know about my brother's marital arrangement? He might have an open marriage I know nothing about. The two of them might be swingers. Stuff I don't WANT to know about. It all gives me the creeps. TOO MUCH INFORMATION I should not have.
@Screenwriter So really it comes down to you not knowing any of these people very well. So I agree with you 100%. Stay out of it. If you do know them though however much better then what you have described then I am going for it each and every time.
@Screenwriter I've already discussed it with my BFF and she already said she would want to know and would believe me and vice versa. I wouldn't say anything if it wasn't my BFF (we tell each other everything so I would know if she is in an open relationship). Maybe hint at it but I know that it is definitely a lose lose situation if you're not that close with them or haven't discussed it.
I know my brother VERY well. But I know nothing about his personal marriage. This is between two people and private. I've seen them relating together and I surmise from what I've seen. They don't live close anyway.But I'd feel invasive and, again, not my business.I'd be angry if my brother or friend came carrying tales to me about what they thought they saw my husband doing with some other woman somewhere. OK, a very close friend said she never knew about the multiple affairs her husband had been having since their 20-something year marriage began. HOWEVER, the affairs were no surprize and fit in perfectly with his devious personality and lies of all kinds. They didn't hurt any more than the 20000+ dollars in tax debt and other debts he left her with after their divorce and the fact that he didn't pay child support for his remaining son. Here's where it could make a difference. IF YOU ARE THE MAN'S FRIEND and you see him out with someone else. You could approach him and ask him, "Who did I see you with at lunch at Bayona?" If he tells you he's having an affair, THEN you have the wherewithal to discuss it with him.HE is the only person who can tell you what is going on. If you know him well enough to determine if he's lying, then and only then do you have ammunition. But it should only be AIMED AT HIM. All you can do is encourage him to STOP and try to solve his marital problems. If he won't, there's nothing you can do. It is not your place to report to his wife.This is all very sad, but I think it is a harsh reality.
Would you just tell them what you saw and let them take it from there?
Maybe a bit more. Tell them what I saw and start connecting the dots a bit for them, so they have a solid place to start. Most of my friends are a bit clueless that way. Lol
What up player?
@coachTanthony chillin.. you
Having some bourbon... serving the people!
There ya go!
Why punish the dude tho? He might believe she's single because of the lies she tells him? It's the girl with whom you agreed to stay monogamous with you should scold
@AdorableLilo true! But my rage does not see reason.