My boyfriend gave me herpes! I don’t want to be with him any longer but scared that I will never be accepted by anyone else because of my status?

Question

I love my boyfriend but don’t think we are compatible for a lifetime relationship. I rather be with my ex but can’t any longer because I have herpes so I feel so stuck.
My boyfriend can be emotional abusive (getting better) and sexually has undesirable requests that I don’t what to partake in. I submit to his desires and demands because I don’t think no body else would want me. I’m very attractive, smart, and a kind women but because I have herpes how will I be able to find love anywhere else. So I vailed to make this relationship work but it’s so hard. Please advise. What would you do?

Answer 1

Screenwriter | 255 opinions shared on Relationships topic.

Yoda

If you don't want to BE with someone, you need to cut ties. Any kind of Emotional abuse is unacceptable. So are undesirable requests.
Stop this unhealthy behavior. There are suppressive drugs you can take to deal with herpes. It is not a life ender or relationship ender.
Leave and work on your self esteem. See a counselor and discuss these issues to resolve them.
It's better to be alone and work on yourself than with someone abusive.

Asker

12 d
Thanks I truly appreciate your advice. I’ve been so depressed and really been feeling so unworthy. I feel so dirty. I told my ex who wants to get back together and he totally reject me which I understand. No ones wants to get herpes willingly. So after that I just told myself that I’ll stay with my boyfriend and work hard to make our relationship work.

I’m so scared of being lonely for the rest of my life. Always been a relationship type of girl and desire to have children one day. It’s so unfortunate that my trust for a men ruin potential possibilities. But like you said, I will seek a counselor because I need help. Before I cause further damage to my self worth and esteem.

Thanks :)
Screenwriter

12 d
And see your medical doctor. There are drugs to help you through herpes and ones that help suppress it. Uses condoms is safer also. You have to learn to be aware of herpetic symptoms. Kick that dud to the curb and be happy.

Answer 2

Asker

Thanks I truly appreciate your advice. I’ve been so depressed and really been feeling so unworthy. I feel so dirty. I told my ex who wants to get back together and he totally reject me which I understand. No ones wants to get herpes willingly. So after that I just told myself that I’ll stay with my boyfriend and work hard to make our relationship work.

I’m so scared of being lonely for the rest of my life. Always been a relationship type of girl and desire to have children one day. It’s so unfortunate that my trust for a men ruin potential possibilities. But like you said, I will seek a counselor because I need help. Before I cause further damage to my self worth and esteem.

Thanks :)

Answer 3

Screenwriter

And see your medical doctor. There are drugs to help you through herpes and ones that help suppress it. Uses condoms is safer also. You have to learn to be aware of herpetic symptoms. Kick that dud to the curb and be happy.

Answer 4

WesBrewer | 308 opinions shared on Relationships topic.

Xper 7

Since you have an STD, you are essentially hopeless, I say this because if someone else is with you and they get it, they can die from it, unless you marry a guy and live in a platonic relationship, then you will have to adopt to have kids, and finding someone who will marry you and live platonically is quite difficult, whatever you do, you should leave your current boyfriend since he is a bag of trash, I feel really bad for you, but you can also become a national influencer because of your experience, you can go out and get people to understand the possible consequences of FWBs and casual sex, you have both been cursed and gifted, you might never be able to have a boyfriend again but you can help other people to not go through what you did, and maybe get the US out of the gutter. I'm here to help you if you need me. have a hug <(^_^<) it won't do much but I hope you are able to decide on what you will do and make a well thought out decision.

Asker

12 d
Thanks for the encouragement. However, I do know that you can’t die from herpes lol. It’s not a death sentence. It’s the stigma of the virus that is causing me depression and overwhelming thoughts of unworthiness. I’m not a person that has not had casual sex and only had 3 partners. So for someone like me to get an std is traumatic. But, honestly your view is the reason why I’m scared to be alone for ever because people do think like you.

Thanks
WesBrewer

12 d
You are welcome! just for some clarification I am not opposed to marrying a person that has had STD's, I don't require them to be a virgin, I just won't date you if you have an STD that would kill me, but since you are saying it wouldn't kill me, then I would marry or date someone with a safe STD, so I would not worry as much if its safe, if I was you at least.

Answer 5

Asker

Thanks for the encouragement. However, I do know that you can’t die from herpes lol. It’s not a death sentence. It’s the stigma of the virus that is causing me depression and overwhelming thoughts of unworthiness. I’m not a person that has not had casual sex and only had 3 partners. So for someone like me to get an std is traumatic. But, honestly your view is the reason why I’m scared to be alone for ever because people do think like you.

Thanks

Answer 6

WesBrewer

You are welcome! just for some clarification I am not opposed to marrying a person that has had STD's, I don't require them to be a virgin, I just won't date you if you have an STD that would kill me, but since you are saying it wouldn't kill me, then I would marry or date someone with a safe STD, so I would not worry as much if its safe, if I was you at least.

Answer 7

Inexpensivefurniture | 168 opinions shared on Relationships topic.

Xper 7

Herpes isn't a deal breaker for a lot of people. Hell, I dated someone for a year who has herpes and I never caught it because we knew how to work around it.
Don't stay with someone you aren't happy with just because you're scared no one else will want you. I promise that someone will. If you're unhappy, leave.

Answer 8

JuliaStyles

Xper 5

Lesson to be learned here. Get tested before sex if you don't want to use a condom or other birth control, although I doubt anyone will listen. Otherwise you will have to deal with it. You will have to tell everyone you have sex with that you have it. You can only catch Herpes from another if you have open sores, although on the female you may not see them all the time. So therefore you will at least have to use a condom.

Screenwriter

5 d
Hon, you're giving INCORRECT INFORMATION. You can catch herpes from someone with NO SORES and NO SYMPTOMS of any kind. It's called VIRAL SHEDDING. And, I'm not positive, but the tests that are quoted on Web MD seem to be based on collecting samples from SORES or when someone has AN ACTIVE INFECTION.
I'm not sure it can diagnose you when you have NO ACTIVE INFECTION OR NO SORES. Here's the quote.
Cell culture or PCR test may give a false-negative result if the sores have begun healing or if you are recently infected. A false-negative test shows you don't have the condition when in fact you do. False-positive test results are possible, too. If you test positive, but your risk for getting the virus is low, you may need further testing.

"Other Genital Herpes Tests

Blood tests can detect the HSV antibodies, which are proteins produced by the immune system in response to an infection. With direct fluorescent antibody testing, a solution containing HSV antibodies and a fluorescent dye is added to the sample of cells. If the virus is present in the sample, the antibodies stick to it and glow when viewed under a special microscope. The test can’t tell you when you were infected – and it may take weeks for antibodies to form."
This was a cursory search. If you can find something more to my point, please do and share!
JuliaStyles

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@Screenwriter That is what I have read, or at least what was said in the past. As we know things are always changing. It used to be you needed to have an open sore and you could tell if your were going to have an outbreak when a painful sore appeared. Sores also appeared on other areas besides your sex bits, like on the buttocks. The main point is you need to be open and tell them you have it as it has no cure like other STD's.
Screenwriter

4 d
Nope. It was NEVER that you had to have an open sore. That is MOST likely. But it can be passed along with no sores and no symptoms during "viral shedding." Best to use a condom. It seems to be a good preventative.

Answer 9

Screenwriter

Hon, you're giving INCORRECT INFORMATION. You can catch herpes from someone with NO SORES and NO SYMPTOMS of any kind. It's called VIRAL SHEDDING. And, I'm not positive, but the tests that are quoted on Web MD seem to be based on collecting samples from SORES or when someone has AN ACTIVE INFECTION.
I'm not sure it can diagnose you when you have NO ACTIVE INFECTION OR NO SORES. Here's the quote.
Cell culture or PCR test may give a false-negative result if the sores have begun healing or if you are recently infected. A false-negative test shows you don't have the condition when in fact you do. False-positive test results are possible, too. If you test positive, but your risk for getting the virus is low, you may need further testing.

"Other Genital Herpes Tests

Blood tests can detect the HSV antibodies, which are proteins produced by the immune system in response to an infection. With direct fluorescent antibody testing, a solution containing HSV antibodies and a fluorescent dye is added to the sample of cells. If the virus is present in the sample, the antibodies stick to it and glow when viewed under a special microscope. The test can’t tell you when you were infected – and it may take weeks for antibodies to form."
This was a cursory search. If you can find something more to my point, please do and share!

Answer 10

JuliaStyles

@Screenwriter That is what I have read, or at least what was said in the past. As we know things are always changing. It used to be you needed to have an open sore and you could tell if your were going to have an outbreak when a painful sore appeared. Sores also appeared on other areas besides your sex bits, like on the buttocks. The main point is you need to be open and tell them you have it as it has no cure like other STD's.

Answer 11

Screenwriter

Nope. It was NEVER that you had to have an open sore. That is MOST likely. But it can be passed along with no sores and no symptoms during "viral shedding." Best to use a condom. It seems to be a good preventative.

Answer 12

Anonymous

I wouldn't make a decision out of fear. For example, staying with him because you're unsure about future relationships. I'm not sure if he is a serial cheater, but if he is then I would be worried about what other diseases he can give you. Also, the emotional stress from his abuse and the toll in can have on you.

You're right it would be hard to date because you don't want to give it to someone else. Also, you can manage diseases by boosting your immunity. Maybe it's worth it if you value companionship more. I think people with STDs can be in relationships. It's up to you.

Answer 13

loveslongnails | 1.5K opinions shared on Relationships topic.

Guru

Depending on the severity, it can me managed, most commonly by Valtrex. But if you don't like the big pharma answer, try a Chinese medicine herbalist - a real one who's practiced a long time and was trained in China, not a quack. I have read that in some cases, the viral load can be so significantly reduced that outbreaks are extremely rare and so is the likelihood of transmission.

So don't give up. Also, there are dating apps for people with herpes.

magiusX26

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even big pharma talks of the viral load being reduced like that and cdc

Answer 14

magiusX26

even big pharma talks of the viral load being reduced like that and cdc

Answer 15

Anonymous

I am really sad WesBrewers answer is marked as the most helpful answer. This is not inly ignorant but totally incorrect. I have had 2 children vaginally who were and still are perfectly healthy. I have been married three times and have been totally upfront every time. YOU CANNOT DIE FROM HERPES. The chances of a newbirn getting it via natural birth is so rare doctors mostly laugh it off. I have three kids. The fist c section had nothing to do with herpes. Please ignore WesBrewer.

Answer 16

SHREYASH007

Xper 6

1. change you partner , don't go back to that scumbag.
2. Herpes is treatable , use all types of treatments alternative medicines like homeopathy , ayurvedic, unani all of them at least try to eradicate completely, for the meanwhile you can go.
you can explore spirituality for sometime and make sure that you search for a new partner when you get rid of virus completely.
Have a great life ahead.

Answer 17

SongBird3 | 358 opinions shared on Relationships topic.

Explorer

Dump him!
Were not cavemen we have technology!
Doctors can help you get your herpes under control so that you can have a normal life and have a safe sec life with ur future partners

Asker

12 d
I logically feel like I should just dumb him. Attempted many times but emotionally I feel stuck, afraid, unworthy and keep running back due to fear of future romantical possibilities. I don’t think most people will want to be with me after telling them my status. I only had one outbreak within a year and it was very mild. He has them more often. So I don’t take medication because I rarely get breakouts.

Thanks for the advise and encouragement.
SongBird3

12 d
First of all you should definitely get on medication! I know 2 girls who have herpes and were able to make it work with other people long term. Trust me. If your future partner really cares for you then they won't care. As long as you see your doctor regularly and take ur meds it should not be an issue.
SongBird3

12 d
How can u stay with someone u dont trust?

Answer 18

Asker

I logically feel like I should just dumb him. Attempted many times but emotionally I feel stuck, afraid, unworthy and keep running back due to fear of future romantical possibilities. I don’t think most people will want to be with me after telling them my status. I only had one outbreak within a year and it was very mild. He has them more often. So I don’t take medication because I rarely get breakouts.

Thanks for the advise and encouragement.

Answer 19

SongBird3

First of all you should definitely get on medication! I know 2 girls who have herpes and were able to make it work with other people long term. Trust me. If your future partner really cares for you then they won't care. As long as you see your doctor regularly and take ur meds it should not be an issue.

Answer 20

SongBird3

How can u stay with someone u dont trust?

Answer 21

Anonymous

I think that there are many people with herpes. Always be honest if you are asked by a partner. Take the time to look for an online support group. Maybe they have some tips

I believe that this is true. If someone has mouth herpes than they won't catch genital herpes too because they already have the antibodies. So if you find a guy with oral herpes it shouldn't make a huge difference.

Check it out though

Screenwriter

9 d
This is precisely WRONG information. The only difference between oral and genital herpes is WHERE it is located. It is the SAME virus. Someone with oral herpes who has oral sex with someone when they have an outbreak will give the person herpes. I even know someone who this happened to.
Please don't spread misinformation.
Herpes is a giant pain, but it lessens in intensity the longer you have it and it flares up less often, unless you are under extreme stress: either physical or emotional. It is treatable and using condoms is a big help but not 100%. There are preventative medications that lessen the chance of you passing it to anyone else when you don't have outbreaks.
Again, it is a risk. Casual sex is not something you're going to be engaging in from now on. You'll have to be in it with a partner who cares about you.
Opinion Owner

8 d
@Screenwriter Slow Down

Did you misunderstand what I wrote?
"If someone (a potential partner for her) has mouth herpes then they won't catch genital herpes too because they already have the antibodies. "

So if she finds a guy who already has mouth herpes, then he already has herpes and he would not get genital herpes by having sex with her

Do you still disagree?
Screenwriter

7 d
Absolutely. If she has an outbreak and has sex with him, his having oral herpes will not prevent him from getting genital herpes. It's about an open sore touching the thin and vulnerable skin of the genitals.
Even people who BOTH have herpes can reinfect each other if one is having an outbreak and the other is NOT and they have sex.
Since both DO have herpes, they won't have the same kind of outbreak that a person who is newly infected would. That's where the antibody protection comes in. Severity of outbreaks lessens.

How many times have you gotten a cold from being around someone with one? You've had a few dozen colds in your lifetime, haven't you. You might have some protection from some colds, but I bet if that sick person sneezes on you or shakes your hand and you rub your eye, you'll have a cold in two days too.
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Opinion Owner

7 d
@Screenwriter OK, I will admit that I am not an expert but I would implore the asker to talk to a doctor to get the facts
Screenwriter

7 d
I was trained at Planned Parenthood as a sexual information lecturer. I don't talk about such issues lightly. And ask a DERMATOLOGIST. Not a GP. Dermatologists are the specialists who see those infections most often, or someone at Planned Parenthood. They are pros at STIs and their prevention. Mouth sores ARE herpes and they are transmissable to the genitals. Don't kiss or allow anyone with oral herpes to perform oral sex on you EVER! And even if someone has HAD herpes ONCE and the infection never showed up again, they can pass on herpes during "shedding" even though they have NO SYMPTOMS!!! It is a WILY disease.
If you have babies, don't allow ANYONE to kiss them on the mouth, as oral herpes is a common infection. Babies should be kissed on the cheeks ONLY. There is no reason to pass on oral herpes. It is not a preventative for anything and later in life it could lead to the painful Shingles infection. There is a shot to stop shingles, however. But if it shows up, it's to late to prevent it!!! Nothing good about herpes in any form. It's a pain and a pest.
Opinion Owner

7 d
@Screenwriter I am glad that you were able to correct my mistake
Screenwriter

4 d
This is always an issue with sexually transmitted diseases and infections: people pass along half truths or myths. Best to ask a doctor who deals with these things on a daily basis: a dermatologist or a doc at Planned Parenthood.. That's their daily bread. Web MD also have general info. But if this is someone you know who needs the info make an appointment and see if you can get any info from blood tests. If the person has a REPEAT infection: they must see the doc immediately to have the sores scraped and cultured. Then the test is definitive.
Opinion Owner

4 d
@Screenwriter You sounds like you have been infected too. Do you find it hard to find new girl friends?
Screenwriter

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I'm relating to you what I read YESTERDAY on Web MD and what I learned from Planned Parenthood training to lecture to high schoolers when I did that years ago and from my dermatologist who was a great doctor when I asked him what he saw most often besides zits. Web MD is my source of everything I've told you about testing. I never knew a thing about it until I looked it up.
But I do know someone who gave herpes to a girlfriend of mine who had oral herpes and I SAW him with serious mouth sores RIGHT BEFORE HE INFECTED MY GIRLFRIEND. I TOLD him not to perform oral sex because he could infect her. We were both friends: me and him, me and her. He got ANGRY with me and said he didn't want to talk about it. I repeated myself because I knew. Herpes was all the rage at the time. Worst sexually transmitted disease of the 80s with no cure. She got it from him. It was devastating. And she said extremely painful. I was so angry with him We didn't talk for years. He married someone else. SO, I've had experience with this and with stupid people who weren't careful. I'm the Queen of finding information.
Opinion Owner

4 d
@Screenwriter I think that society goes through cycles

Free Love ---> Conservative Values ---> Free Love...

All of the hooking up these days is spreading a lot of STDs but it has almost become a silent backdrop to existence. I read some figure that said 80% of people (or Canadians) have been exposed to Herpes virus). The rates for HPV are very high as well. Nothing is free, there is a price to pay for everything
Screenwriter

4 d
EXPOSED means nothing. INFECTED is what you've got to worry about. My son had three HPV shots to protect him against it. That came out 13 years ago. If you're under 25 you can still get them and get protection. it's unprotected sex that is the culprit.
Ignorant anti condomism. Yeah, we all know it doesn't feel the same, but herpes and HPV and all those other STDs are far worse to live through. And costly too.
My dad was a Boy Scout Master: Be prepared!
On my honor I will do my best to do my duty to God and my country and to obey the Scout Law; to help other people at all times; to keep myself physically strong, mentally awake, and morally straight.
Keeping yourself strong, mentally awake and "morally" straight means you take care of you and do no harm to others...

Answer 22

Screenwriter

This is precisely WRONG information. The only difference between oral and genital herpes is WHERE it is located. It is the SAME virus. Someone with oral herpes who has oral sex with someone when they have an outbreak will give the person herpes. I even know someone who this happened to.
Please don't spread misinformation.
Herpes is a giant pain, but it lessens in intensity the longer you have it and it flares up less often, unless you are under extreme stress: either physical or emotional. It is treatable and using condoms is a big help but not 100%. There are preventative medications that lessen the chance of you passing it to anyone else when you don't have outbreaks.
Again, it is a risk. Casual sex is not something you're going to be engaging in from now on. You'll have to be in it with a partner who cares about you.

Answer 23

Opinion Owner

@Screenwriter Slow Down

Did you misunderstand what I wrote?
"If someone (a potential partner for her) has mouth herpes then they won't catch genital herpes too because they already have the antibodies. "

So if she finds a guy who already has mouth herpes, then he already has herpes and he would not get genital herpes by having sex with her

Do you still disagree?

Answer 24

Screenwriter

Absolutely. If she has an outbreak and has sex with him, his having oral herpes will not prevent him from getting genital herpes. It's about an open sore touching the thin and vulnerable skin of the genitals.
Even people who BOTH have herpes can reinfect each other if one is having an outbreak and the other is NOT and they have sex.
Since both DO have herpes, they won't have the same kind of outbreak that a person who is newly infected would. That's where the antibody protection comes in. Severity of outbreaks lessens.

How many times have you gotten a cold from being around someone with one? You've had a few dozen colds in your lifetime, haven't you. You might have some protection from some colds, but I bet if that sick person sneezes on you or shakes your hand and you rub your eye, you'll have a cold in two days too.

Answer 25

Opinion Owner

@Screenwriter OK, I will admit that I am not an expert but I would implore the asker to talk to a doctor to get the facts

Answer 26

Screenwriter

I was trained at Planned Parenthood as a sexual information lecturer. I don't talk about such issues lightly. And ask a DERMATOLOGIST. Not a GP. Dermatologists are the specialists who see those infections most often, or someone at Planned Parenthood. They are pros at STIs and their prevention. Mouth sores ARE herpes and they are transmissable to the genitals. Don't kiss or allow anyone with oral herpes to perform oral sex on you EVER! And even if someone has HAD herpes ONCE and the infection never showed up again, they can pass on herpes during "shedding" even though they have NO SYMPTOMS!!! It is a WILY disease.
If you have babies, don't allow ANYONE to kiss them on the mouth, as oral herpes is a common infection. Babies should be kissed on the cheeks ONLY. There is no reason to pass on oral herpes. It is not a preventative for anything and later in life it could lead to the painful Shingles infection. There is a shot to stop shingles, however. But if it shows up, it's to late to prevent it!!! Nothing good about herpes in any form. It's a pain and a pest.

Answer 27

Opinion Owner

@Screenwriter I am glad that you were able to correct my mistake

Answer 28

Screenwriter

This is always an issue with sexually transmitted diseases and infections: people pass along half truths or myths. Best to ask a doctor who deals with these things on a daily basis: a dermatologist or a doc at Planned Parenthood.. That's their daily bread. Web MD also have general info. But if this is someone you know who needs the info make an appointment and see if you can get any info from blood tests. If the person has a REPEAT infection: they must see the doc immediately to have the sores scraped and cultured. Then the test is definitive.

Answer 29

Opinion Owner

@Screenwriter You sounds like you have been infected too. Do you find it hard to find new girl friends?

Answer 30

Screenwriter

I'm relating to you what I read YESTERDAY on Web MD and what I learned from Planned Parenthood training to lecture to high schoolers when I did that years ago and from my dermatologist who was a great doctor when I asked him what he saw most often besides zits. Web MD is my source of everything I've told you about testing. I never knew a thing about it until I looked it up.
But I do know someone who gave herpes to a girlfriend of mine who had oral herpes and I SAW him with serious mouth sores RIGHT BEFORE HE INFECTED MY GIRLFRIEND. I TOLD him not to perform oral sex because he could infect her. We were both friends: me and him, me and her. He got ANGRY with me and said he didn't want to talk about it. I repeated myself because I knew. Herpes was all the rage at the time. Worst sexually transmitted disease of the 80s with no cure. She got it from him. It was devastating. And she said extremely painful. I was so angry with him We didn't talk for years. He married someone else. SO, I've had experience with this and with stupid people who weren't careful. I'm the Queen of finding information.

Answer 31

Opinion Owner

@Screenwriter I think that society goes through cycles

Free Love ---> Conservative Values ---> Free Love...

All of the hooking up these days is spreading a lot of STDs but it has almost become a silent backdrop to existence. I read some figure that said 80% of people (or Canadians) have been exposed to Herpes virus). The rates for HPV are very high as well. Nothing is free, there is a price to pay for everything

Answer 32

Screenwriter

EXPOSED means nothing. INFECTED is what you've got to worry about. My son had three HPV shots to protect him against it. That came out 13 years ago. If you're under 25 you can still get them and get protection. it's unprotected sex that is the culprit.
Ignorant anti condomism. Yeah, we all know it doesn't feel the same, but herpes and HPV and all those other STDs are far worse to live through. And costly too.
My dad was a Boy Scout Master: Be prepared!
On my honor I will do my best to do my duty to God and my country and to obey the Scout Law; to help other people at all times; to keep myself physically strong, mentally awake, and morally straight.
Keeping yourself strong, mentally awake and "morally" straight means you take care of you and do no harm to others...

Answer 33

Anonymous

Of course talk this over with your doctor. I dated a woman several years ago who had a history of herpes. I just wore condoms when having sex with her and I was cool with that. Also she loved to give blow jobs so I was kept very happy! LOL

Answer 34

Massageman | 1.3K opinions shared on Relationships topic.

Master

Get treated.
Get info. (Find out which type (s) of H. you contracted- there are many).
Get new friends.

Answer 35

magiusX26 | 468 opinions shared on Relationships topic.

Yoda

you should be fine, just be upfront about it when its appropriate to talk about that. stats say a little over half of americans have herpes.

magiusX26

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was on tinder last week and came across a profile of a woman who stated she had it and understands if people are not intetested because of that, but had posted it by intials so i had to look up what those intials meant. when i did, i got to read up on the issue. stuff about being safe about sex with a partner infected, how its mostly only passed during a flair up if correct meds are being used properly, what a flair up is, etc.
magiusX26

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gave her a like and am willing to risk it if she were to match with me abd we clicked well.

Answer 36

magiusX26

was on tinder last week and came across a profile of a woman who stated she had it and understands if people are not intetested because of that, but had posted it by intials so i had to look up what those intials meant. when i did, i got to read up on the issue. stuff about being safe about sex with a partner infected, how its mostly only passed during a flair up if correct meds are being used properly, what a flair up is, etc.

Answer 37

magiusX26

gave her a like and am willing to risk it if she were to match with me abd we clicked well.

Answer 38

JKingOff | 215 opinions shared on Relationships topic.

Xper 7

Just go to planned Parenthood. Herpes is treatable.

Answer 39

amyismyname

Xper 4

Go see your doctor I believe you can only pass herpes when your having a break out there are lots u can do

magiusX26

12 d
according to cdc you are correct.

Answer 40

magiusX26

according to cdc you are correct.

Answer 41

codyccc | 1.2K opinions shared on Relationships topic.

Guru

at least were I live not notifying a sexual partner before had of a std is a criminal offense

Asker

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He said he didn’t know and it was not purpose. He was upset about this as well and honestly feel like he has been depressed as well.

Answer 42

Asker

He said he didn’t know and it was not purpose. He was upset about this as well and honestly feel like he has been depressed as well.

Answer 43

chriscdi | 1.4K opinions shared on Relationships topic.

Master

isn't herpes curable?

magiusX26

12 d
nope
chriscdi

12 d
oh well

Answer 44

magiusX26

nope

Answer 45

chriscdi

oh well

Answer 46

Yourman89

Xper 5

I am guessing he cheated on you?

Answer 47

AFellowWeeb | 86 opinions shared on Relationships topic.

Xper 5

What are herpes?

Screenwriter

4 d
Herpes simplex is a sexually transmitted illness that causes open, weeping sores on the mouth of humans, called "cold" sores, though they are caused my emotional and physical stress, not particularly colds. Herpes 1 is the mouth sores. The mouth sores can be transmitted to the genitals and then it's called Herpes2. The gential sores are painful and also could be transmitted to someone else's genitals or even to someone's mouth who isn't infected there. The mouth sores are similarly painful. The disease retreats to the spinal cord and stays there until a "flareup" reoccurs.
This happens due to stress, exhaustion, illness that lowers the immune system. Later in life, in the 50s plus, herpes can morph to SHINGLES an extremely painful skin disease also caused by the herpes virus. If vaccinated against it before your first occurrence, it is curable. But if NOT, you're stuck with having to treat the illness forever.
Herpes is a nasty disease. Condoms can help against it. Check your partner's genitals for visible sores. BUT it can be transmitted with no sores present during viral shedding. HA! A mess.
AFellowWeeb

4 d
@Screenwriter this is why stds tests are our friends and thanks for the response, actually helpful
Screenwriter

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I WISH people would have to have STD clear tests in their hot little hands before having sex with another person. That really is the only way. THere are SO MANY STDs!!! It's mind boggling.

Answer 48

Screenwriter

Herpes simplex is a sexually transmitted illness that causes open, weeping sores on the mouth of humans, called "cold" sores, though they are caused my emotional and physical stress, not particularly colds. Herpes 1 is the mouth sores. The mouth sores can be transmitted to the genitals and then it's called Herpes2. The gential sores are painful and also could be transmitted to someone else's genitals or even to someone's mouth who isn't infected there. The mouth sores are similarly painful. The disease retreats to the spinal cord and stays there until a "flareup" reoccurs.
This happens due to stress, exhaustion, illness that lowers the immune system. Later in life, in the 50s plus, herpes can morph to SHINGLES an extremely painful skin disease also caused by the herpes virus. If vaccinated against it before your first occurrence, it is curable. But if NOT, you're stuck with having to treat the illness forever.
Herpes is a nasty disease. Condoms can help against it. Check your partner's genitals for visible sores. BUT it can be transmitted with no sores present during viral shedding. HA! A mess.

Answer 49

AFellowWeeb

@Screenwriter this is why stds tests are our friends and thanks for the response, actually helpful

Answer 50

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I WISH people would have to have STD clear tests in their hot little hands before having sex with another person. That really is the only way. THere are SO MANY STDs!!! It's mind boggling.

My boyfriend gave me herpes! I don’t want to be with him any longer but scared that I will never be accepted by anyone else because of my status?

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