Is it bad to tell your partner that they won't be able to find someone good enough if you breakup?

[caring__1]

Rather than question whether this is bad, question your reasons for wanting to say this. Where will it take you or him? What can you hope to accomplish by laying guilt trips? Compatibility is based on needs and preferences. Apparently, something wasn't meshing enough for him to put forth the effort to make this relationship work. That doesn't mean your partner won't be motivated with someone different. It's not a judgment of you or your partner. Preferences can be influenced, but they can't be controlled by other people, and it may be challenging for us to control our own preferences. Show others the respect you'd like to receive.

[Ozanne]

Once you breakup, unless you have children together, it's none of each other's business who you each eventually find, whether they are better or worse.

Besides, so what if they do or don't find someone better? If they do, good for them. They'll be off your back and carrying on in life without having to bother with you anymore. If they don't find someone better, then you can secretively stroke your ego knowing that you were better. In the end, who really cares? And as an ex, each of you should not care what the other does thereafter, and whether or not your opinion of each others' future partners are of any worth to them or not.

[MzAsh]

You don’t want to say that to someone you love. If you’re trying to get him to know your value then it should reflect in your lifestyle and actions. He needs to know that you are the best he’ll ever have. But just don’t say it out loud because it looks like you’re rubbing it in his face. If you are truly high value, he’ll know.

[Angelo75]

Yes.
It means you think too much of urself.
It is an assumption that no one else (quite literally) will put up with your partner, and that if that person even chooses for your partner, that means by definition that the person is less of a good person than you.

No matter how you put it, it is just plain nasty.
Keep your dignity and don't use nasty below-the-belt arguments.

It will make your partner and everyone around you to think that you think too much of urself. You don't want that. People tend to avoid such persons.

[Virginmartha]

My partner was an ex convict. She's done 5 plus years already. Well she has a toy. And it's one of those toys that looks like a real woman. So one night I get home and she's wearing my clothes. The toy! Slowly she started talking with the toy and watching movies with it. The last straw was when she brought it on our movie date and then asked us all to take it in the bedroom after we got home. And she focused on the toy the whole time! So in this case... no. I think there is never an okay time to say this.

[btbc92]

Their called controllers and abusers. That is obvious that it is bad. What person tells you that? Somebody to put you down because they know you're good enough. It may take years, maybe around the corner. Only God knows. But what matters is that nobody deserves to be in such a toxic relationship. That's not an ultimatum. That just flatout abusive.

[Smurphanie]

Well it depends on how you say and mean it. Like for exame in my own situation.. I have been married to a sociopathic malignant narcissist for 26 years and I every now and again remind him that of we were to split or I left his ass that it would be best for him to remember that he will not ever find anyone else in this universe that could or would ever take and deal with his bullshit. That if it was anybody other than me they would have left his ass 24 years ago if not sooner than that.

[sweetvirgocreature]

As a young teenager, I do think it is bad to tell your partner that they won't be able to find someone good enough if you breakup. Because you don't know that, and they don't know that. That's the weird thing about life, you don't know what you're gonna get majority of the time. And by saying that, that just feels wrong, it sounds and feels weird. Sounds a bit toxic to me.

[AdithyaR]

That is some very inappropriate.
Unless you're partner was abusive, manipulative, toxic or a cheater and you're giving up on trying to care for them, saying might still make some sense, though it's still unnecessary. If they really are that bad, they'll figure out on their own that they won't find someone else.

[Janessa2021]

Depends if you're an asshole to them , if u say hat and u wasn't a good partner then you know they deserve better but don't want them to have it. If you're heartbroken and was good to them there's no need to tell them cuz they'll soon see it for themselves

[PBandJ_Nerd]

I think it is. It's another way of saying "You won't ever be able to find someone that loves you." Only a cruel person would say this to their soon to be ex-bf/girlfriend. And it shows they weren't a very good partner to begin with.

[Newhead]

Sometimes you must let them know how lucky they are to have you, being too humble around men can get you shat on.

[Bruhbois]

If a girl said that to me I would leave and never think of her again. Why tf would you want to be with someone who thinks that little of you?

[Sarahr123]

Of course. It’s disgusting and abusive it is emotional abuse. It’s trying to ruin someone’s self confidence.

[WesBrewer]

Yes, that is just a way to make your partner think you are an entitled selfish bitch.

[Hangry22]

That's manipulation buddy and manipulating a person to do something isn't consensual. So ya BAD BAD

[Wiredone]

Yeah that's pretty low. There is always someone for everyone. You might even find someone better, you never know.

[douchecannoue]

if he wants to leave you and you think of ways to stop him then that's not fair imagine if you wanted to leave and he was makeing it difficult to. It's just unfair

[Avicenna]

Well, it's an emotional statement, but in some cases it's true

[jacksulivan5]

If thats how you feel... taking into consideration all the things you may do for said person.. they may not ever find someone as good...
Or..
If you feel like you're under the microscope.. The answer is still yes..

[chHaynes]

It's a hurtful thing to say when you're mad at somebody when they're wanting to break up with you but yeah it's kind of bad to say that

[Jamie05rhs]

I don't think that's ever an appropriate thing to say.

[pleasestopthis]

Anyone who says something like that is delusional and pretentious

[Guardian45]

That's called manipulation and abusive behavior. DROP the MoFo! Kick their pointy ass to the curb and DON'T look back!

[robertKugler]

You don't.. not your fucken problem

Nice gesture though so find him some one to fuck for a while..
Would he do the same for you..

[Mamaganja]

Yes. Narcissists speak like that instead of just moving the fuck on peacefully. And it’s rarely ever the case.. otherwise they’d still be with that person.

[jl25sc]

It depends on the nature of the break up. If you're being the psychotic one and he's had enough, then you're the psycho. Vice versa

[In_Trance]

maybe not good enough in your eyes... but your view doesn't count

[preciouslove744]

It's not bad when you know that you have been good to them

[jasco]

How about you just not break up but instead try to fix it unless its a toxic relationship

[scooogy]

I had my ex try to put me off admiring my new crush.

[Pete671]

Yes it's abuse and a good reason for breaking up,,,

[doctord00m]

Yes. The frame is outward facing. It sort of assumes the premise.

[Inexpensivefurniture]

Yeah. That's hugely manipulative and a big red flag

[SARAH22222]

I said this before 😔
Does it mean I'm being manipulative?

[fishlipsfriend]

That's very bad you basically trying to manipulate them them to stay with you

[JustinTheGreat]

Yes. That’s a very manipulative thing to say to someone.

[Juxtapose]

I would go out of my way to dump them and then pick up somebody the very next day.

100% would rub it in their face too.

[NoGamePlan]

yeah thats a super shitty thing to say

[Inquisitive3]

Yes, it is and it's arrogant.

[rjroy3]

I'd consider it a challenge and dump her

[kamalravi25]

Yes its disrespectful.

[okeydoke]

It’s pretty damn manipulative.

[S5ARR0W]

That will be his relief if you said that.

[Anonymous]

its called manipulation.

[Olivier-628]

Yea very bad. Everyone can find someone that fits.

[Account]

It is stupid.

[sheikalana]

Passive aggressive.

[chriscdi]

yea pretty toxic in my opinion

[Anonymous]

No it isn’t because it’s your opinion

[iFarted]

That's pretty fuckd up.

[Dinosaursandanime65]

It’s p- uh... dumb

[Jmmmfi4]

Everyone does this