How do you know if you feel out of love with someone?

[Ozanne]

Just about every relationship loses that burn after some time. You go at it like rabbits in the first year, and you can't get enough of each other. So where did that tickle-in-the-tummy disappear to? Over time, our security with one another dulls that feeling, but it doesn't mean the love is gone necessarily. We usually get that lustful, butterfly feeling when we're unsure and excited about new prospects. Once the relationship is established and secure, it's not longer exactly required that you become delightfully anxious. "Will he call?" "Does he like me?" All of those exciting things diminish.

But love? That's something that actually grows over time if you let it. While the spark ends, the love seems to grow for a lot of couples. Can you look at that person and say to yourself: "I can be with you for the rest of my life," or can't you? If they walked out of your life, would you wish they'd come back?

Unless the relationship has rough spots and things you can't get through, you're fighting too much, you're going in different directions in life, you're opposites and just simply don't get along - then that is a good indicator of whether or not to continue. But if there is love and respect while having differences, most couples try to iron them out as they go along in life.

This is why couples who have been together for decades will be the first to say "marriage is hard work" - it is. No matter who you end up with, long term, it's not all sparks and lust, and boredom DOES set in, so be ready for it, even with the most gorgeous, sexy, fun person you start a new relationship with. You will run into new problems, and you will question if you should continue. A smarter way to view relationships is to look at the person's faults and ask yourself: "Can I live with those faults for the rest of my life?" - because everyone's going to have some!

If you honestly don't feel love anymore whatsoever, and neither does the other person - meaning you're both out of gas, and the relationship really isn't productive and doesn't seem it ever will be, then no one says you have to stay with each other. But only you really know if your heart aches a little to think of never having them with you again. If that feeling is still there, you still have a chance.

[EtherielQueen1]

Yeah I feel a bit the same... it’s difficult isn’t it, just have to go with your gut and heart on this one

[chriscdi]

usually you notice when you become less attached and more independent again, not that interested in spending time anymore with the person, shit like that

[Mrobody]

fore girl rearly happend , when the g makes a bigg unacceptable mess