What ended your long distance relationship?

[ObscuredBeyond]

First one: she was an immature high school student. We were both in high school then. But I underestimated her baggage from her parents' divorce.

Second one: She chose drugs over me.

Third one: She was just playing me. She wasn't serious.

Fourth: She expected too much, and I was an emotional wreck because of various life issues. Bad combination. She wound up marrying a sailor in the Philippine navy. They had a baby a short while ago. I'm happy for them.

Fifth: The CCP got in the way. And now, FB crackdowns against conservative users means I'm blocked for a month because I criticized Pelosi for being a flagrant hypocrite. So even if the CCP got out of the way, and the girl were on for me to talk to; I wouldn't be able to interact with her, because Biden's America is becoming Mussolini-style fascist even worse and faster than Trump's haters accused him of making the place be! Stupid Reptilian Zuck!

Plus, there was some cute little girl in the photos last I checked. Toddler-age. I can't tell if that's Sunny's niece, or her daughter. She mentioned having a nephew; but said nothing about a niece. And as much time as has gone by, I can't rule out that it's her daughter, until she specifies. Which could take months, due to VPN issues. Last time I Skyped her, she was still a virgin. But it's been so long since then, anything's possible now. I have no control over the situation anymore. Not that I had much to begin with.

But it doesn't fare too well for my original plans with her, either way! As long as she's happy, I suppose. I'm not gonna stop loving her; even if I can't have her.

I'm not counting the scam artists that I was able to expose as scam artists after only a few days. The ones that still hate me; because I refused to give them money. There must have been about 3 or 4 of them. Gold diggers have no shame. None. Most recent one was from Ivory Coast - or so she claimed. But was European French in heritage and birth. Kinda looked Russian in the photo though. Way way WAY too clingy! Recommended her to Abdijan mental health services.

[DiegoO]

1) Not having the economical resources to see each other.
2) Our incapacity to reach to a middle ground in the sexual sphere.
3) I cheated on her, online. She cheated on me, online, for revenge (Is obvious to say it boosted the decline of the relation)
4) Our few but profound ideological differences.
5) A poor reciprocity from her part.
6) Her jealousy (which was strongly present before I screwed up things more)
7) The 7-8hrs difference. I am sure it had a negative impact in the relationship. Our schedules were far apart.
8) Finally, the years that passed; 3years later, and nothing. We waited that long and everything was heading deep down south, including our mental health. I reached to my limit and we both agree that there was nothing left to do than breakup.

†After we breakup, for an entire year I thought she was single. We were still flirting a bit and I was her fool. One year later she told me, thinking I was already with someone else. Sure, with someone else a few months after we ended what we had? That got me incredibly annoyed, like 😒 "WTF, we suppousdly knew each other for a long time, now this?". From that moment I said to my self, "fuck online romantic relationships (those they started that way)". If I was eskeptical, before knowing her, I am now skeptical more than ever. Is less complicated and more truthful to find someone in person without the help of technology.

[Cynicaldreamer]

The bastard cheated on me...

No, I'm not bitter; I'm over him as it's been over a decade now and I'm much happier without him in my life- he was wrong for me from the getgo so it was probably a blessing that it happened.

I just despise people that use distance as an excuse to cheat.
Not happy? End the relationship. Better still, don't get in a long distance relationship if you can't handle the lack of physical aspect.

Before him, most of my long distance relationships or romances ended due to the guys ghosting me or losing interest.

[Dnice1]

Nothing has. We've stayed together no matter what and are about to hit our 1 year anniversary of dating. ❤

[Apope16]

A long distance relationship is not a relationship. What it is is a pen pal and sexting buddy. Its not a relationship.

Typically, long distance relationships from people who start the relationship online are people who are obsessed with attention void of consequence. For some people it is narcissistic.

Unless you are fucking each other I would also argue you dont have a relationship. I tell my friends, if you are not have sex with your wife for weeks or months? You dont have a relationship... you have a roommate.

A long distance thing with a woman is no different than a cam girl with emotional attachment. Your currency is attention. Her currency is the prospect of sex some day in the future. All of it unhealthy. None of it real.

[Paris13]

A few years back, I Married an Egyptian in Egypt where I had Resided for awhile. I think with the Arab Spring in 2013, And just other things that we Disagreed On, We broke up. I imagine He divorced me. I am Now in a LDR with my Fiance out in The UK, We found one Another on Here, Dear, Still going Strong after 2 Years. Just waiting for the pandemic to calm down so I can go Over. xx

[jennifer_bloom]

Distrust - I thought he might hear on me and he thought I might cheat on him - we weren’t long distance at all but we did not meet in person very often except maybe once every 30-80 days cause we were both too poor for bus tickets and hang outs - I later started working and earning but by then we had broken of

[TheLittleBuggy]

I had one YEARS ago.
However I was 15, and he was 17, but I was someone that didn't even know if we'd have food on the table from day to day, nevermind having consistent wifi to keep up with him. And I couldn't tell my parents about him as they'd disapprove of him.

Turned out for the better though. For me at least. Years later I met my fiance. We've been together 4 years, living together for 3 of them.
And I've always been someone to get ridiculously jealous... but with him I don't really have to worry. I have my reasons to know that, and he understands why I am the way I am, so it's good to he with someone that just... gets it. Like he recognizes I'm damaged and just still accepts me. (Literally everyone single woman in my family from the past 5 generations THAT WE KNOW OF has been cheated on.) I took my chances with him, I've gone over board and I honestly don't understand why he tolerates how INSANE I get, but so far he has. And I am 1000% sure he's not cheated on me.

Where as long distance? I'd never REALLy know would I? Which is a HUGE part in why I let it go so easily. I couldn't check. So I couldn't be sure.

[Anon621]

For me it was almost always the lack of face to face communication during an argument. Everytime when an argument occured me and my partner would try to sort it out over texting rather than a call or in person which can happen sometimes if you text something that they get passionate about. I feel like being in front of them or even talking to them on the spot over the phone instead of sending awkward texts back and forth hoping they dont misunderstand is much better. I would say that and also just the lack of quality time together. Sure I would text my partner everyday but let me tell you nothing beats going to an event together with someone you are interested in or you are dating in person. When your in the moment in person it just feels so complete like you were meant to be there with that person in that place.

[Mishan97]

I had to move away from my college town due to the pandemic and my (now ex) boyfriend lived in the college town he was actually locally from there and my hometown was about 2 hours from the college hometown. This doesn’t seem like super long distance and it was manageable for a while but over time we had a lot of issues. Tbh our relationship wasn’t the healthiest to begin with so that’s probably why. But basically we were used to seeing each other every single day and once I moved I only saw him on weekends and of course through FaceTime every day. This worked great for a couple months but then the trust issues started to set in. Cheating had already been a problem for us so we agreed to share our location w one another. But basically this didn’t help anything the trust issues just got worse and eventually the relationship just fell apart. Plus our schedules got busier and it got harder to meet every weekend.

[razelove]

Hmm, none of them have ended really... So because of circumstance some women I've been in relationships with had to move far away, school, moving back home, so on and so forth. We still talk and remain friendly, still express our love for each other, and if we find ourselves in the same city we'll hook up and screw like cats in a gunny sack.

I never started any long distance relationships though, so I'd imagine that dynamic would be much more difficult, and different. Having the foundation of a relationship, then ending from circumstance and still wanting to be together is different from starting off far away with one person having to give up their livelihood if you want to physically be together.

That'd be rough.

[NickAdy9405]

Fuck that bullshit called long distance relationship.
Unless you meet and date someone and get together is so fucking wrong to start a relationship.
How can you start a relationship with someone you never meet touch or hug?
Is unnatural and wrong and will never, ever work.
What you call long distance relationship i call it some kind of friendship bettwen two no life people that are most of time insecure and bored.

I been there, I've done that and i think is the biggest mistake i did in my life. Was so wrong and late when I realized that I lost two fucking years on some fake shit called long distance relationship. It was toxic, wrong and no real benefits.
I think if I were in jail for two years i would not regret it so much like i regret this mistake i made.

Trust me guys, world is so big, is full of people, never, ever get in such a relationship started on the internet is the biggest mistake you can do.

[Unit1]

I have yet to see one example of long distance relationship, that actually survived (I value it for real without either ending up cheating on the other).

Since I was dragged to the poor east in 2010 (I was 15 years old at that time) and have sworn to return in Germany, I know it's not gonna work for long distance relationships. Right now it's 2021 and I am in the process of finding a job back in Germany. I apply the same logic to long distance relationships. Except moving is for me and I don't give up. I do not have any faith in the other party sticking together in distance for 11 years. They usually barely last a year or end up cheating anyway.

[DiscomfortZone]

What people seriously need to understand is that there's no such thing as a "long distance relationship". Texts and videocalls will never replace face to face interactions, emojis will never replace physical contact, and don't even get me started about cybersex. I get the whole rebelion thing of this generation, "yeah, here's something that exists, let's rebel against it because nothing good is streaming right now!". I get it, it's fine, y'all ain't hurting anybody but yourselves. But the sad truth is in most cases your partner will happily forget about you when an opportunity for a real relationship comes up (or even just real sex). In the rest of the cases you'll be the ones forgeting about them. The sadder part is that lost of you lie to yourselves (and others, ofc) about it and keep pretending that "ldr" is real. That's just pathetic. I understand not having a boyfriend/girlfriend is rough, but damn, have some dignity and self-respect!

[Anonymous]

They never really cared in the first place.

They never were the one to start the conversation. I always had to try and communicate with them, always try to help them, and always get the short end of whatever else while she touts her sob story in a mansion that she will inherit with her parents wealth. No worries on her back, since she also can maintain it because her parents are landlords with major passive incomes.

And when I do communicate I rarely ever felt like I was considered to even have any attention, always about her and her issues. She was nice but was too absorbed in her own problems that I felt like I was just another person to talk to and dump all their emotions on. I've long since had a change of pace and am now in a relationship that's been going on well over a year, and its been good ever since.

[David92506]

I was writing to a female prisoner for over 3-years. When Covid-19 hit the whole prison was in lockdown and she lost her job, which paid 23 cents an hour. Hurting for money she created a profile on Jail-Babes, looking for a sugar daddy. I'm all for it and I hope she gets a lot of takers. In any case, since I don't want to be a sugar daddy, she quit writing to me.

[Anonymous]

Never marry someone you just met and especially 6000 miles away.

Unfortunately for me, I did exactly that. Marriage broke down for a few reasons:

1. We haven't seen each other for a year and a half after the wedding.
2. I realised I wasn't in love with her.
3. No sex so i felt lonely and did it with someone.
4. We didn't talk much on the phone, had nothing to talk about.

[Mrobody]

long distance 😐 . There isn't any long-distance relationship or at least any long-distance real relationship because in virtual space we cannot know enough about that character everything that is shared is virtual natural and logically there will be no real characters to be in red

[karangill]

Waking up and knowing that I'm leaving an illusion and scared of going out and meeting people. Not having more options made me cling to this person and I fooled myself in thinking that that person is my "One" while knowing very well that there isn't one. There are many.

[Gotcha_Writer10]

Conversations became like messaging a pen pal and the qhile relationship lost it intial enthusiasm to me that i didn't see coming back from, so i ended it.

[CriticalDiscourse]

The fact that it was more of a fantasy that a reality?

It's so easy to practice a personality behind a screen and insist you have nearly no flaws. The thing is, being in person is a completely different animal.

[ThisDudeHere]

Ironically, distance. If she had lived just a bit closer where visiting at least once a month would have been doable, it'd be a different story but somehow the LDRs I've had were always with girls on the farthest side of the flat earth.

[CubsterShura]

He cheated on me and blamed it on the distance, lmao. It's honestly such a pathetic excuse because I was literally exactly as far away from him as he was from me, how come I stayed loyal?

[Elsa143]

Lies, manipulations, keeping dark secrets from me, not being honest and superficiality.
Not only long distance but these things can end short distance relationships as well.

[opnbuk59]

The long distance I love you can only go so far especially in winter when you need your baby next to you and she's a gazillion miles away probably cuddling with some native dude, the nerve right,

[Hannah_le]

Hm I am in my first one and it’s been going for 3 years I hope it lasts as we do and will see each other whenever but I do fear of yk us breaking up one day

[eileen_ruth]

She acted toxic as fuck and started treating me like trash and acted like being a trans girl made her somehow better got me and got mad at me for having political opinions

[Anonymous]

He never called, texted, never visited me, I would always call, text, and drive 8 hours to see him, when I got to the state of where he was he would act passionate but when I got back to where I live he would vanish. Just bs

[_no_one_]

Most of the edates ended cuz yk people get bored. They never lasted more than a month or two cuz yk it's e dating. We be living our virtual identities like that and that's temporary.

[WesBrewer]

I never really had one, but I had a long-distance friend over the internet and she just stopped messaging me, so I stopped too.

[TallAnon]

I had multiple chances to start one, but that won't do for me. It's not real enough, I require physical affection (not sex, but cuddles and smiles and shit).

[Quidthonian]

She stopped communicating with me properly. Towards the end, it was one word/sentence per hour. She also found someone else (also online). She declared that we are not compatible with each other. As an introvert, I was fine with that.

[sheikalana]

The distance, uncertainty and lack of communication from the other person.

[TessCasie]

we never met in person but the video calls sessions and chats everything was sufficient for me to realize he wasn’t the one for me.

[Kenneth14621]

I don't understand why people don't understand this? YOU CAN"T FUCK. I don't want to be talking to a girl I like. For months... and never be able to fuck her.

[chHaynes]

I could tell you this right now long distance relationship won't work guy needs physical connection a girl may be able to do with just mental but that's just me

[TeeBar]

Duh... the long distance and resulting lack of personal contact. Absence makes the heart grow indifferent.

[DizzyDesii]

After he thought i was pregnant (before he was ready), he was no longer as interested

[Anonymous]

Neither one of us were willing to leave behind our friends, families, and careers for the other, so the relationship could never advance or stop being long-distance.

[Capricornunicorn]

Beliefs. He was a hard-core Arab Muslim and I am an American Christian so yeah that didn't last very long.

[Anonymous]

It was too much effort for us both not to cheat so we agreed to see other people. We got back together when he moved back a couple years later but we'd both changed too much. Still hit him up for a booty call once in a while though!

[Sublime45]

Turns out 'she' was a he. After that I stopped online dating.

[ryancg]

By definition an intimate relationship can't be long distance.

[Zygum]

Love do not care for Territorial Boundries. So distance is no problem. Many my countrymen have Forign wives. Girls traveled thousands miles for their lovers

[Anonymous]

I was naive and trusted someone who was catfishing me.

[ChattyGuy43]

A cheating girlfriend who hooked up with an ex-boyfriend.

[Jamie05rhs]

I guess I didn't send enough dick pics; I don't know. Who knows what these women want these days?

[najekim]

Moving in together where I lived and then getting married a year later. And still together 23 years later.

[ITGirl95]

We just grew apart I guess and I’m thankful coz I realized he’s not who I thought he was initially.

[ashish804]

a third person who would give her time and make her feel good

[Suzzz334]

A drifting apart as we became active in our daily life in our respective locations.

[TonyMetal___86]

We were teenagers and our path was blocked because we couldn't be with each other...

[TheAfrikan]

She basically married another guy whom she used to say she does not love at all. And now they even have a kid. So that ended it up for me.

[CharlieDMX]

Her guy friend from work she said she didn't like before going on a business trip with him.

[Anonymous]

2 girls were too cold, one girl was too jealous, another girl was married (I did not know that from the beginning)

[Yuuibtony]

Because too many females text me on that bigo app trying to date me and I snitch on myself

[Novacane]

You won’t believe me but, the long distance

[BCA6010]

It was the "long" and the "distance," ultimately.

[Avicenna]

Not wanting to move to Vietnam

[Bakry123]

My rich best freind !

[dolidol]

Distrust, and another girl's in his life.

[offendedsorbet]

✨emotional manipulation✨

[Walamagicc]

Lack of communication

[Sam_The_Savage]

I don't do relationship
I'm fuckboy 😂