My boyfriend has a high body count and I’m wondering if I should even get married to him?

[caring__1]

Your boyfriend has an edge over you. He's been with 12 women and has chosen you as the best of them all, while you've only been with one and question whether he measures up. It's very hard to choose when you don't even know your options. When planning your wedding, do you just accept the first option that is presented to you? Will you let your dog choose the movie you'll watch tonight?

Religion and society promote virgin weddings, but what happens if you discover on your wedding night that the two of you are sexually incompatible? I know you've already experienced him, so you know what to expect, but I'm just using this as an example of how inexperience only plants more questions in our heads. We'll always wonder if the grass is greener elsewhere, as no relationship will always be perfect. Your boyfriend knows what he wants... you don't. This isn't about him having too much experience but you having too little. Lack of experience doesn't mean there's something wrong with you... it just makes it harder to make choices.

[Guffrus]

Well you need to look inside yourself at the root of the problem, what is it that bothers you?

I would expect this to be a pretty normal feeling but Im not sure its very helpful to you. The thing with it is that you are in this relationship now so you can't now play the field without essentially ending this relationship and if you do that then you might not be able to find what you have now with someone else and if you do have a good thing then you would be a fool to throw it away for what might be in my opinion.

There are more than a few assumptions in what i just said though, certainly there are people who have open relationships etc and perhaps this is an option for you too.

[Anonymous]

Are you for real so you lied and lead him to believe you were ok with his number but now you have an issue with it he should seriously break up with you for wasting his time and thinking he has a future with you hate to break it to you the next guy you are gonna meet is also gonna also have more body count than you so get over it

[iseekpinetrees]

12 is not a bad number its pretty low. Why do you care about his past though? If you're already engaged why would his past matter at this point?

[WesBrewer]

Who cares if someone has more experience or not, you are overthinking it for sure, it's fine if he has had more, as long as you guys aren't dating for how it feels emotionally or physically you'll be fine.

[slatyb]

What’s past is past. Why would this matter? But if this really bothers you, you should not marry him.

[Levin]

Can you explain honestly about what bothers you about it?

[Hangry22]

Wow. That lucky guy. He was a man slut and he ended up with a virgin

[Anonymous]

If it bothers you maybe you shouldn’t marry him. Tell him the fact that he has more experience than you do bothers you and discuss it, maybe that will help? I have had more sexual partners than the man I’ve been with for years but there’s never been an issue between us on that fact. Do you feel like he was using you just for sex and because you were a virgin it was a goal for him? If that’s the case you should either discuss this with him or don’t marry him.

[disgustingweebtrash]

It's unusual to see a woman complaining about this.

[Varanus]

High body count? Like he's killed 12 people? lol