Trying to understand the difference between a single woman that's just sexually expressive, and what people determine as a "whore?"
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I'm new to sexual things. I met this guy for a date and it went well so we did some stuff because I wanted the experience but we haven't gone all the way. I want to get to know him more. I come from a conservative family, so I was wondering if that makes me a whore or slut.
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I feel like maybe I did damage early on because now it's harder for him to stay focused when we talk. And I want to know him because I want a friends with benefits situation. I don't want to sleep around with multiple people. Just one, and then maybe have a relationship when i'm ready. Which he's okay with but I don't know. All this is new to me and I'm not sure wtf I'm doing honestly lmao. Advice?
MrOracle | 2.3K opinions shared on Relationships topic.
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It's natural to have sexual desires, and in my opinion it's perfectly fine to explore your sexuality. But, there are a few things you need to keep in mind:
1. MOST women can't have casual sex without developing feelings for the guy, at which point she will hope (or even assume) he also developed feelings and now wants a relationship - but that's rarely the case, because unlike most women, most men ARE able to have casual sex without developing feelings. This is why most women are taught to have sex only with boyfriends - someone who has already demonstrated that he has feelings for you and who is likely to be there for you, physically and emotionally, after having sex, when you feel vulnerable. A casual sex partner is almost certainly NOT going to be there for you in that way, and you should assume that he won't be.
2. Men will accept a trade of their attention for sex, because that's a pretty equal-value trade, but the cost of a relationship to a man is far, FAR higher, and so most men will demand a lot more before they'll accept taking on all the responsibilities, risks, and liabilities that come with a relationship. The bar is set much higher for relationships. If a man doesn't feel that a woman has enough to offer, or feels he can't trust her, then he will permanently eliminate her from consideration as a relationship partner, and will see her only as a potential source of casual sex. That "trust" thing is important to men: men don't easily let themselves become emotionally vulnerable - they don't share private, personal, emotional things except with a partner they highly trust not to betray them - so if a woman behaves in a way that indicates that she doesn't have boundaries, or doesn't respect and enforce them, then a man won't trust her, and she'll lose her "girlfriend potential" rating. This is why you shouldn't have sex with a guy right away if you think there's even a tiny chance of ever wanting a relationship with him.
3. If you want to have casual sex, that's okay, but protect yourself and never forget that you are ONLY having casual sex. NEVER NEVER NEVER let yourself believe that your casual sex partner "wants more" or that the sex you're having with him "means something." The only thing he wants more of is casual sex. Casual sex means you're having sex with each other because you enjoy having sex - it does NOT mean that you have feelings for each other, or that you SHOULD have feelings for each other. Enjoying the sex itself is the only goal, and the only standard that should be met. If that's not enough for you, then stick to having sex only within already-established relationships.
4. Do not have sex with someone in order to get something from them. THAT is what makes someone a whore. And I don't just wanting money - if you're having sex with a guy because you want social status (your friends to treat you better, or to be jealous of you), a higher lifestyle, or to get him to do something for you - or even just to "fit in" with a group of people - you are trading sex for favors. If you wouldn't have chosen this particular person to have sex with on your own, then you are having sex for some other outside reason or benefit, and that's what a whore does. (If you want to be a whore, that's okay too, but at least be honest with yourself about it.)
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btbc92 | 3K opinions shared on Relationships topic.
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Would a person who has sex outside of marriage illegally, and has been with more than one person. Premarital sex is premarital sex it don't matter what you want to call it. A person's sexual expressiveness it's private and it should not be anybody's personal is business. That's why when you desire to have sex and get married and you share that with your spouse who should be your husband. Not a boyfriend and then when you don't have the boyfriend no more than you with another boyfriend and another boyfriend and a one-night stand here and then the Friends with Benefits there then that's when it's harder. It won't matter if it's a real relationship or not. When it's done outside of marriage. Fordham's. If you're getting paid for it then it's prostitution. It don't matter if it's illegal or legal prostitution. A person that does what they do outside of marriage and sleep with whoever is called a slut. Sexual expressiveness has zero to do with it is about what you choose to do with it. That's why you get married. And that's why you share that with somebody you love and truly desire to have that relationship with. You can't just be in it one minute and then you want out of it the next. Because now and I only do you call yourself problems you're causing somebody else problems, and if you have children they become affected by your sexual choices and that becomes genetic. The only problem is that most girls who have sex outside of marriage especially when they're very young don't realize that they are sadly putting themselves in Jeopardy. Because it's easy to say that men have a double standard but here's the problem. If I can wait just as long as a virgin and I'm almost 30, and the legal age for marriage is 18, you mean to tell me you can't wait until you're 18 to make that choice, and find somebody who's going to wait with you and be with you. It won't matter what ate at this point you choose to marry. If you're not prepared for marriage you're not prepared to have sex. Because once you have sex in your already creating a marriage in God's eyes. the only problem is is that why a lot of men don't want to get legally married but want to screw in your panties. It's your choice to open up your legs or not unless God forbid you have been raped.
And it's not what I say, is what God had laid out in the Bible, and in this life. It doesn't matter if anybody believes the Bible or not. If you are not doing it God's way there are consequences. And the consequences are usually not just STDs and unwanted pregnancies, alphabet being a single parent, or even causing problems in your own marriage, divorce, or setting up your children for sexual failure, that's if you can even get married without a man even considering your sexual choices. Because what you have sex with him it's going to affect him. He has the right to be making such judgment because you're the one that's wanting to touch them. if you cannot think about what your choice is going to affect another person, then it's selfishness on your part, and he is free to move on to somebody else. Again. It doesn't matter if you're a prostitute or not. If you're having premarital sex PERIOD, and it's been with more than one partner and you refuse to change from that lifestyle then it's whoredoms. One man for one woman and one woman for one man. What you have sex with that person you have sex with that person to the day you die for that is the person you picked. That technically is considered marriage. Now if you had sex with another person all of them who you had sex with its adultery. Therefore you cannot be with another man again. But is the man did the same thing to you then they cannot marry another woman again. That's marriage and sex laws God had created.
My advice to you is decide what kind of life you want to live because if you're going to live your life like one then that's what you want to be. And you're very wrong about a lot of things I don't think you even need to be having further than just let alone be having sex in the first place. Because you would know this and understand this. Number one. You coming from a conservative family have nothing to do with you. You were taught things considerably to protect you not to hurt you. If you choose to go out of it that's your choice then you have to deal with that choice. Number two. If you want a relationship you need to make that very clear and not do anything is going to jeopardize your relationship. You can try to get to know a person but then all you want is to experience sex you have to have one of the other. Any man will use you for sex but since you're already doing that he's not going to want anything more if he doesn't see the reason why he should stick around. Number three, learn to love yourself. You don't have to have experience sexually and do all that stuff just to get a guy but you decide what kind of man you want. I'm not so good man or good man. Because I'll tell you this. A good man would not be doing that to you and that'll he will allow you to do that with him. He would rather move on to a girl that does not share your values sexually that is so casual. I think it's just very clear you don't know what it is that you really want or what you're doing. And I also suggest you take a step back and re-evaluate.
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A whore can be a man or woman. Men unfortunately aren't seen as whores as much as women are but they definitely should be.
A whore is a person who is not only sexually expressive but it is their whole identity. Everything about them is sex first think later. They warrant being a whore because they do whorish things like sleeping with s/o's siblings at the same time or cousins and not caring how fucked up that is (I knew a girl who did this and she was in my book a whore though she would describe herself as just sexually liberated 🙃)
Basically any person you would think should be on an episode of Jerry Springer is probably a whore.
What a whore is not, is a woman or man who enjoys having sex and being a sexy bitch or man. They flaunt what they have because they can and there should be no judgment about how they choose to present their body or clothes (of course with the exception of school grounds/children areas or professional places of business). As long as they aren't hurting anyone, they should not be called a whore or slut.
It's when they are making people feel uncomfortable like touching someone inappropriately or shaking their ass in places that is obviously not the place or time to do so or sleeping with people when you are in a relationship especially if its a family member or friend of the person you're with that warrants such a title.
Casual sex, promiscuity. No one has ever suggested that women shouldn't like sex, thats stupid, what is the issue is the casualness of it. You want a man to treat you special but you didn't require that of other men, thats degrading to him (imagine some one is giving away free candy at your job and then they get to you and say that you have to pay twenty dollars for it. Its insulting, they are saying you are inferior to the others.).
Also the number matters because its been proven that the greater number of partners, the greater the increased rates of cheating, divorce, unhappiness in long term relationships, disatisfaction with sex, anxiety and depression in women.
So those are the conditions that determine whether or not she is a "slut/whore". Every man wants a woman who likes sex and wants to explore it. . . with him, but when she has done that with others while he is still expected to provide for her, treat her special, well it just means he is the chump who is getting used by her (whether or not that is her intention, that is precisely what he will feel and rightly so).
No your not a whore! Far from it infact. To be considered a whore you would have to show up at a guy friends house and say he had 2 buddies over and things got a little fun and next thing you know all the holes in ya body are plugged and afterwords you leave there in great spirits because hey making people happy makes you happy and those 3 boys are sooo happy, well now you arrive home and clean up before your boyfriend stops bye later. You are on the patio and notice your neighbors are arguing and then see the wife lake off and you decide maybe the guy could use some cheering up so you go over and make him happy and make him promise to stop bye when he can play longer. So now your back at home and your on the phone texting the 3 guys from earlier about coming over the next day to meet a couple more of his friends that want to be happy while your boyfriend is dumping his load in your bag and finishes without you even recognizing. Now thats a WHORE and a lovely one at that. Now if you add up all the guys a whore sleeps with on a daily/weekly basis and lets say the guy that you want to be friends wit fits and her cross paths and she actually thinks he's cute and ends up making him happy because hey you two its not like your dating he says to himself (and he will) now next thing ya know he is hopefully not a real douche and at least showered before you try pleasing him orally and well you get it you just basically had sex with a grip of dudes that have there junk all over ur guys junk and his mouth gaaaagggg!!! Be careful set clear expectations in the beginning and still protect yourself because today i find it near impossible to find a person that can be straight up with ya, Good Luck and stay conservative for yourself, you will get a lot further in life this way. Self respect
The lines blur. It all depends on your views, prerogative, morals and values. What I think qualifies as a whore is someone that has multiple partners at any given time (could be casual or could just be cheating). As well as someone that only seeks people out for sex. However, someone that is sexually expressive enjoys their sex life and knows their preferences. The biggest difference between the two is that the sexually expressive person isn’t fucking people left and right. That being said, it’s up to you which of those you wanna be.
Update: you shouldn’t overthinking it this much. As someone that comes from a family with conservative views and values, it’s a challenge feeling normal/okay with the current dating dynamics. What I’d recommend is to feel it out. If you’re uncomfortable or it feels wrong, then definitely set your limits and say no, but if it felt right and you were comfortable with him, then go ahead. That doesn’t make you a whore or a slut. Being sexually open and flexible with your partner is simply natural, it’s not something to be ashamed of. You do have to take into consideration what you want in the long run. Do you want the focus of your relationship to be sex? Do you wanna wait for it to be special? First of all, figure out what you desire and that’ll let you know what to do.
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Alright, thank you. This was very helpful. 💖💖💖
CubsterShura | 838 opinions shared on Relationships topic.
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I don't know where you draw the line between being sexually expressive and being considered a who're, but I do know that sexuality isn't something to be 'expressive' about. It's one matter that should only be between you and your sexual partner and no one else have any business knowing about it.
Sexuality is nothing to be ashamed of, we all have it, it's nothing special. But we need to stop with the notion that just because it's nothing to be ashamed of, it automatically means that we have to be loud about it, or on the flip side that you have to announce it to the whole world to "prove" to everyone that you aren't ashamed of it.
In fact a person truly comfortable/confident with themselves don't have to feed off of the gratification from showing off to the whole world. Sharing is only optional depending on how much access to your private life you are ok with people having.
Technically a 'whore' is ANYONE who satisfies another's USE of their time and physical body, often doing that which they would NOT do of their OWN accord, in RETURN for NON-sexual compensation for their time and expenditure of effort.
As the song goes: "Sweet cream ladies forward march. Think of what you're giving... Sweet cream ladies the World owes you a living."
'Quid Pro Quo'= literally, "This For That" (MOST OFTEN a sexual intimacy 'mercenary')
BUT... anyone puts a roof over their head and food on their table engaging in activity they OTHERWISE would NOT freely do... IS a 'wage Whore'. The line forms up at the Pay Master's purse~ "St. Peter don't cha call me. I can't go. I owe MY Soul, to the company store" - 16 Tons, Tennessee Ernie Ford
As Jesus said: "Let they whom are blameless cast the FIRST stone."
A whore or prostitute is a woman who sells sex outright. A slut is a derogatory term used for sexually expressive women. There is nothing wrong in sex work as it's an occupation for a service which is in demand. And each person is entitled to live life on their accord as long as they dont hurt others, so I dont believe in sexual shaming. However, a bit of a side track here, if you're dating a guy who wants sex or to do certain sexual things, than it's completely up to your mutual consent how far and fast you want to take it. But to make it socially fair to him, you must be absolutely clear, and honest, and also don't make him spend too much resources else men have a tendency to feel entitled like give x and receive y in return. Until now as a man, I dont understand what is analogous to a man which can be comparable to sex to a woman.
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hi_it_is_me123 | 99 opinions shared on Relationships topic.
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Slut shaming aka calling women whores for being sexually active is used by pathetic incels. I only would call someone like that who cheats, otherwise there is no point in slut-shaming. I also dont understand the double standards when it comes to being promiscuos. people who call any women whore for being promiscuos or being "easy" but dont slut shame the men the same way are hypocritical retards. When i point these facts, some retards call me feminazi. These people are actually the one who hate men so much to the point the hate women when finally women live their sexuality like men does since the existence of human kind. Lol you as a guy really hate yourself to the point you can't stand women who act like you when it comes sexuality. Lol.
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silvermoon84 | 143 opinions shared on Relationships topic.
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I think it depends on the person. Some will say a woman who sleeps with multiple men is a whore. I’ve been called a whore for only sleeping with one man years ago. The only people I consider whores are cheaters, home wreckers and people who do sexual favors as a means to get ahead in their careers (because that’s not fair to people who try to get ahead with legitimate hard work).
I knew a girl when I was in the Navy who was hooking up with her NCO’s (a few of whom were married) for the purpose of advancement in rank. She never got it, and word spread all over the base what a skank she was.
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I am really trying to be open minded towards women who are sexually expressive. From a secular standpoint men usually enjoy a social status boost if they get around vs women who can see their reputation suffer. This does wear off for guys as they age a bit but not completely. Overall this is one of the very few double standards men get to enjoy (although we suffer from many others in society).
However cheating is a completely different story. I have more respect for a single woman who slept with 10 guys in one month vs a married woman who only had two sexual partners in her life: her husband the guy she’s cheating on him with. It has to do with respect.
I personally have been with LOTS of girls in the course of my life. But once I’m in a committed relationship I stay loyal no matter how tempted I feel (and I’ve been tempted but did the right thing). It’s about respect.
If you are getting it on with anyone other then me, your a whole! Does not matter, if we have met, have had sex in the past or will in the future. Every man feels this way, the only way for a guy to not think your a whole is to sleep with him. Because no guy wants to be known as a WhoreMonger. So save face! Always wear a dress, pull them panties off to the side quick, get it done and move on! Its that easy! No man will ever think your a whole unless you tell one of them and I quote!
"I LOVE YOU!"
now you just made yourself a whore!
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ZackBan | 242 opinions shared on Relationships topic.
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Surprisingly most here got it right.
Basically a whore is someone who sells body and soul for materialistic gain.
You don't have to bang someone to be a whore any imoral job that you would otherwise not do if it didn't pay like it does is basically whoring.
Women who enjoy sex and have no problem doing it abundantly are to me great people in fact I prefer them over those who see sex as some kind of black magic ritual that needs a million condition met before it is attempted
I think you're confusing whores with hoes. The latter is a slang for whores originally but basically means a girl who has no morals and would cheat on her boyfriend and sleep around. Even though I'm all for everyone to be sexually active that doesn't make it ok to betray the trust of others
According to definition, this would be considered the correct usage. However saying someone is a whore, is considered derogatory, showing critical or disrespectful attitude. Let's leave religious viewpoints out tif this or this can get pretty nasty and actually try and break this down.
Noun 2, I believe is what your asking of other to define for themselves. This is all a point of view from an individuals ethics or personal moral compass and perspective. Are you asking for opinions for real or trying to figure this out for yourself about how you feel?
My opinion is that to actually be the definition of a whore... You'd actually have to engage in carless, multiple, casual sexual encounters often and that these didn't have particular "meaning" other then pursuit of personal sexual satisfaction or void to fill mentally. Whether this means having sex with one to two different people every month or 10 different people a month is really the judgement call on the objective person to make of the subjective individual doing these actions to be considered wrong or not. No matter a man or woman or non-binary, I think having sex with a new person every week warrants the title of whore but I'm not saying it in a hateful way. It's not my place to make someone feel guilty for their actions regardless of how I'd feel about myself feeling guilty af if it were me. But some would say you're a whore for not being married having monogamous sex with your married partner only. Society isn't always collectively right in terms of optimum judgment to view others their actions wrong. Only morally. But not ethically.
Cherokeehp | 823 opinions shared on Relationships topic.
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Essentially being dirty. I don’t think it’s a big deal for people to sleep around with lots of people, but if they aren’t getting tested regularly or are aware that they have and std and don’t tell their partners then they are gross. People who cheat are also gross and whores.
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DanaeAdam5 | 140 opinions shared on Relationships topic.
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If you are cheating, engaging in a sexual relationship with someone who isn't single then you are a whore to me.
Working as a sex worker, wearing revealing clothes, flirting or having one night stands or even open relationships doesn't make you a whore or a slut.
In other words as long as your actions are not hurting anyone then you ain't a whore.
First whore is a made up concept. Its not something that exists. Its like political parties or borders or names. All just labels. So nothing really makes anyone a whore. Unless you want to refer to a profession were some people sell sex for money. Which again will be just a label.
So like being a plumber is imaginary as well or a pilot.
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I don't believe in that term. Its really just a word guys say to make women feel bad for sleeping with a bunch of guys. Notice there's no similiar term for men who sleep around a lot. And yet women get called sluts and whores. Gene Simmons claimed he slept with over 1000 women but no one thought he was a whore. He was made out to be looked up to. If you get turned off by people sleeping with a crap ton of other people than just move on. Thats their lifestyle. Unless they're not doing it in an illegal or wrong way, it shouldn't matter.
It matters if one cares about his/her and his/her partner's health. As we know, the more sexual partners one has, the bigger the chance of him/her having one (or more) STD I really don't think the "1k women and proud" guy should be taken as an example unless you're totally oblivious to attachment in a relationship or prevention of STDs
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@Vencam Many women and men nowadays have multiple partners, its pretty normalized in a lot of countries. Its a huge double standard that when women have multiple partners they get called sluts. shouldn't women feel the same way about men too? If we are supposed to care about how many partners a guy has had, we're seen as having too high standards and bitches. And STDs can happen even if you have one partner. Does having more increase them? Probably, but you're still taking that gamble when you sleep with someone regardless. Women shouldn't have to be labeled as whores when men are the same way is my point.
Although I agree that it has been a big double standard for a long time (and still is in some places), what I'm trying to say is that we shouldn't encourage excessive promiscuity in the name of "free relationships". Like with all things, there is a "too much" for sexual interactions too... Point being, nowdays I think it's fair to call a whore/slut (or whichever terminology one prefers) for anyone who has an excessive amount of sexual partners ("excessive" being a tad subjective, but that's not the point now)
loveslongnails | 1.5K opinions shared on Relationships topic.
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Stick to the simplest definition: A whore is someone who engages in sexual activity for payment. Aha, but it's not so simple, is it? What was once easy to define as sexual activity, no longer is. Nor is "payment", because that could mean anything of "value", couldn't it?
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Makeushiver | 73 opinions shared on Relationships topic.
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I like your pic. I think the term whore is as out of date as the term slut. Most times used by other women who are either jealous or think that holding out for an expensive wedding and lifetime support is somehow better than charging for it. I think women have as healthy sexual appetites as men and often get stuck with someone doesn't know how to turn a woman on.
Whore and slut have been used for a couple hundred years to denote loose women. That isn't going to change but they did change whore to Ho to be less critical.
Skankhunt | 107 opinions shared on Relationships topic.
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A whore is a woman who get paid for sex. A slut is a woman who is having sex without getting paid.
But I think you mean when do men consider a woman a whore. A woman is a whore if she has sex with a lot of men, but that's not the right term, because I asuume she isn't getting paid. So, the best word for this is a slut. A woman who have sex with men and not getting paid is a slut. So, women who have sex with a lot of men is a slut.
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Bang5luts | 56 opinions shared on Relationships topic.
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A whore sells her body for money. From what i understand it. A woman who enjoys multiple sexual partners is tagged another dirty shameful name that I refuse to call you. In my opinion if you are worried about other people calling you horrible things, keep your personal sex life out of those types of people minds and mouths by being more private about your personal business or keeping those people out of your life. I hope this helps. And in no way is this an attack on anyone's personal character
it's a derogatory term. a slur. the difference between a single woman that's just sexually expressive, and a whore, is the sexism and spite of the person talking.
i mean, it comes from a word for prostitute, so it could mean someone using sex as a commodity, a gold digger. and it used in distain for a woman's sexual activity, so is used to convey outrage at infidelity, a cheater. but from the context, yup, pretty much just a sexist slur
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weysally | 142 opinions shared on Relationships topic.
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mostly men of low value themselves and women of low value of themselves, a lot of women like the context of being that but cool it for fear of what others may think, and men want that for their wife of girlfriend, but only with them
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Adam1978 | 298 opinions shared on Relationships topic.
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First of it requires a overview of multiple partners it not something that happens with a single partner. But in general a whore is just a old word for prostitute, while a slut is free and is easy that switch partner often of her own will.
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J2ohhhhh | 135 opinions shared on Relationships topic.
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If you have sex for the sake of sex it is being sexually expressive. If you do it for anything else, you're a hoe. Who's that on the pic by the way?
Wanting more doesn't make you a whore or a slut. It's only when you start to put that burden on yourself you start to feel thst way. Now I'm not saying go out there and fuck everything under the sun. But if your exploring your just exploring, be careful and be safe. Both physically and mentally. Best of luck
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jshm2 | 188 opinions shared on Relationships topic.
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It's easy.
Having charm, grace and sex appeal is someone "sexually expressive".
Sleeping with everyone and anyone who has a pulse, and money - is a whore.
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Cozybcuz | 50 opinions shared on Relationships topic.
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Umm.. selling sex for money. Not that I really see any moral issues with it if that's what a person wants to do. Just wouldn't recommend it due to the dangers and high chances of phycological damage.
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cth96190 | 717 opinions shared on Relationships topic.
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The definition of whore is a person (usually female) who exchanges sex for cash or other items or services that are of value to her. Those actresses and models who complained about Harvey Weinstein, years after the event and after he launched them on multi-million-dollar careers. . . those women.
Harvey actually harassed women who didn’t work with him though.
genericname85 | 3.6K opinions shared on Relationships topic.
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i would say one of 2 things. 1: if your sex acts are public (as in videos on pornhub) and 2:, if you take money for sex. i think being promiscuous doesn't make you a whore, though more conservative people may think so.
anyone who has multiple sexual relationships at the same time and cheats quite constantly, also known as "players", are usually seen as whores
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Anonymous
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A whore is someone willing to provide sex or sexual favors in exchange for goods and services. They're not a whore if their intentions aren't to receive something. It's not really about the number of people you've been with.
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Jamie05rhs | 1.1K opinions shared on Relationships topic.
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There really is no difference.
I'm glad your intentions are to be exclusive with this guy. But there's no guarantee that it's going to turn out that way.
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hellacray | 686 opinions shared on Relationships topic.
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If you're sleeping around with around with a bunch of guys you're a whore.
I guess the only difference is that you give a free discount whereas hookers on the streets charges money.
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Unit1 | 4.3K opinions shared on Relationships topic.
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The whore cheats on her boyfriend. Or she leads men on, uses them for their money and has sex with too many partners in a short period of time. Also prostitutes.
If you are a Whore you do sexual acts for money if ya Just single and like To fuck you are missing out on money i guess i mean i live in Amsterdam we have a red light district its legale to be a Whore so yea do whatever
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bamesjond0069 | 707 opinions shared on Relationships topic.
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Typically what people call a "single woman thats sexually expressive" is a slut. Unless she is taking money or other things of value in return for any sort of sexual attention (even if not sex) then she's a whore.
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slatyb | 2.7K opinions shared on Relationships topic.
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Selling sex for money. It's an honorable profession.
A white and a bitch are the same pay much some one who is unfaithful and un respectable. A slut is someone that sleeps around for fun when they are single Wich in my book is ok. Sluts are fun so don't slut shame guys. But let's be honest, guys don't slut shame girls. Only other girls slut shame other girls But yea a white is someone that is unfaithful and un trustworthy.
What it comes down to is loyalty. If she loves having sex but is always loyal to whatever partner she has, she is just a slut. I don't consider that an insult tbh. If she is going behind her partners back, she's a whore.
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26941. MOST women can't have casual sex without developing feelings for the guy, at which point she will hope (or even assume) he also developed feelings and now wants a relationship - but that's rarely the case, because unlike most women, most men ARE able to have casual sex without developing feelings. This is why most women are taught to have sex only with boyfriends - someone who has already demonstrated that he has feelings for you and who is likely to be there for you, physically and emotionally, after having sex, when you feel vulnerable. A casual sex partner is almost certainly NOT going to be there for you in that way, and you should assume that he won't be.
2. Men will accept a trade of their attention for sex, because that's a pretty equal-value trade, but the cost of a relationship to a man is far, FAR higher, and so most men will demand a lot more before they'll accept taking on all the responsibilities, risks, and liabilities that come with a relationship. The bar is set much higher for relationships. If a man doesn't feel that a woman has enough to offer, or feels he can't trust her, then he will permanently eliminate her from consideration as a relationship partner, and will see her only as a potential source of casual sex. That "trust" thing is important to men: men don't easily let themselves become emotionally vulnerable - they don't share private, personal, emotional things except with a partner they highly trust not to betray them - so if a woman behaves in a way that indicates that she doesn't have boundaries, or doesn't respect and enforce them, then a man won't trust her, and she'll lose her "girlfriend potential" rating. This is why you shouldn't have sex with a guy right away if you think there's even a tiny chance of ever wanting a relationship with him.
3. If you want to have casual sex, that's okay, but protect yourself and never forget that you are ONLY having casual sex. NEVER NEVER NEVER let yourself believe that your casual sex partner "wants more" or that the sex you're having with him "means something." The only thing he wants more of is casual sex. Casual sex means you're having sex with each other because you enjoy having sex - it does NOT mean that you have feelings for each other, or that you SHOULD have feelings for each other. Enjoying the sex itself is the only goal, and the only standard that should be met. If that's not enough for you, then stick to having sex only within already-established relationships.
4. Do not have sex with someone in order to get something from them. THAT is what makes someone a whore. And I don't just wanting money - if you're having sex with a guy because you want social status (your friends to treat you better, or to be jealous of you), a higher lifestyle, or to get him to do something for you - or even just to "fit in" with a group of people - you are trading sex for favors. If you wouldn't have chosen this particular person to have sex with on your own, then you are having sex for some other outside reason or benefit, and that's what a whore does. (If you want to be a whore, that's okay too, but at least be honest with yourself about it.)
And it's not what I say, is what God had laid out in the Bible, and in this life. It doesn't matter if anybody believes the Bible or not. If you are not doing it God's way there are consequences. And the consequences are usually not just STDs and unwanted pregnancies, alphabet being a single parent, or even causing problems in your own marriage, divorce, or setting up your children for sexual failure, that's if you can even get married without a man even considering your sexual choices. Because what you have sex with him it's going to affect him. He has the right to be making such judgment because you're the one that's wanting to touch them. if you cannot think about what your choice is going to affect another person, then it's selfishness on your part, and he is free to move on to somebody else. Again. It doesn't matter if you're a prostitute or not. If you're having premarital sex PERIOD, and it's been with more than one partner and you refuse to change from that lifestyle then it's whoredoms. One man for one woman and one woman for one man. What you have sex with that person you have sex with that person to the day you die for that is the person you picked. That technically is considered marriage. Now if you had sex with another person all of them who you had sex with its adultery. Therefore you cannot be with another man again. But is the man did the same thing to you then they cannot marry another woman again. That's marriage and sex laws God had created.
My advice to you is decide what kind of life you want to live because if you're going to live your life like one then that's what you want to be. And you're very wrong about a lot of things I don't think you even need to be having further than just let alone be having sex in the first place. Because you would know this and understand this. Number one. You coming from a conservative family have nothing to do with you. You were taught things considerably to protect you not to hurt you. If you choose to go out of it that's your choice then you have to deal with that choice. Number two. If you want a relationship you need to make that very clear and not do anything is going to jeopardize your relationship. You can try to get to know a person but then all you want is to experience sex you have to have one of the other. Any man will use you for sex but since you're already doing that he's not going to want anything more if he doesn't see the reason why he should stick around. Number three, learn to love yourself. You don't have to have experience sexually and do all that stuff just to get a guy but you decide what kind of man you want. I'm not so good man or good man. Because I'll tell you this. A good man would not be doing that to you and that'll he will allow you to do that with him. He would rather move on to a girl that does not share your values sexually that is so casual. I think it's just very clear you don't know what it is that you really want or what you're doing. And I also suggest you take a step back and re-evaluate.
A whore is a person who is not only sexually expressive but it is their whole identity. Everything about them is sex first think later. They warrant being a whore because they do whorish things like sleeping with s/o's siblings at the same time or cousins and not caring how fucked up that is (I knew a girl who did this and she was in my book a whore though she would describe herself as just sexually liberated 🙃)
Basically any person you would think should be on an episode of Jerry Springer is probably a whore.
What a whore is not, is a woman or man who enjoys having sex and being a sexy bitch or man. They flaunt what they have because they can and there should be no judgment about how they choose to present their body or clothes (of course with the exception of school grounds/children areas or professional places of business). As long as they aren't hurting anyone, they should not be called a whore or slut.
It's when they are making people feel uncomfortable like touching someone inappropriately or shaking their ass in places that is obviously not the place or time to do so or sleeping with people when you are in a relationship especially if its a family member or friend of the person you're with that warrants such a title.
Also the number matters because its been proven that the greater number of partners, the greater the increased rates of cheating, divorce, unhappiness in long term relationships, disatisfaction with sex, anxiety and depression in women.
So those are the conditions that determine whether or not she is a "slut/whore". Every man wants a woman who likes sex and wants to explore it. . . with him, but when she has done that with others while he is still expected to provide for her, treat her special, well it just means he is the chump who is getting used by her (whether or not that is her intention, that is precisely what he will feel and rightly so).
To be considered a whore you would have to show up at a guy friends house and say he had 2 buddies over and things got a little fun and next thing you know all the holes in ya body are plugged and afterwords you leave there in great spirits because hey making people happy makes you happy and those 3 boys are sooo happy, well now you arrive home and clean up before your boyfriend stops bye later. You are on the patio and notice your neighbors are arguing and then see the wife lake off and you decide maybe the guy could use some cheering up so you go over and make him happy and make him promise to stop bye when he can play longer. So now your back at home and your on the phone texting the 3 guys from earlier about coming over the next day to meet a couple more of his friends that want to be happy while your boyfriend is dumping his load in your bag and finishes without you even recognizing. Now thats a WHORE and a lovely one at that. Now if you add up all the guys a whore sleeps with on a daily/weekly basis and lets say the guy that you want to be friends wit fits and her cross paths and she actually thinks he's cute and ends up making him happy because hey you two its not like your dating he says to himself (and he will) now next thing ya know he is hopefully not a real douche and at least showered before you try pleasing him orally and well you get it you just basically had sex with a grip of dudes that have there junk all over ur guys junk and his mouth gaaaagggg!!! Be careful set clear expectations in the beginning and still protect yourself because today i find it near impossible to find a person that can be straight up with ya, Good Luck and stay conservative for yourself, you will get a lot further in life this way. Self respect
Update: you shouldn’t overthinking it this much. As someone that comes from a family with conservative views and values, it’s a challenge feeling normal/okay with the current dating dynamics. What I’d recommend is to feel it out. If you’re uncomfortable or it feels wrong, then definitely set your limits and say no, but if it felt right and you were comfortable with him, then go ahead. That doesn’t make you a whore or a slut. Being sexually open and flexible with your partner is simply natural, it’s not something to be ashamed of. You do have to take into consideration what you want in the long run. Do you want the focus of your relationship to be sex? Do you wanna wait for it to be special? First of all, figure out what you desire and that’ll let you know what to do.
Alright, thank you. This was very helpful. 💖💖💖
Sexuality is nothing to be ashamed of, we all have it, it's nothing special. But we need to stop with the notion that just because it's nothing to be ashamed of, it automatically means that we have to be loud about it, or on the flip side that you have to announce it to the whole world to "prove" to everyone that you aren't ashamed of it.
In fact a person truly comfortable/confident with themselves don't have to feed off of the gratification from showing off to the whole world. Sharing is only optional depending on how much access to your private life you are ok with people having.
This comment is gold
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As the song goes: "Sweet cream ladies forward march. Think of what you're giving... Sweet cream ladies the World owes you a living."
'Quid Pro Quo'= literally, "This For That" (MOST OFTEN a sexual intimacy 'mercenary')
BUT... anyone puts a roof over their head and food on their table engaging in activity they OTHERWISE would NOT freely do... IS a 'wage Whore'. The line forms up at the Pay Master's purse~ "St. Peter don't cha call me. I can't go. I owe MY Soul, to the company store" - 16 Tons, Tennessee Ernie Ford
As Jesus said: "Let they whom are blameless cast the FIRST stone."
However, a bit of a side track here, if you're dating a guy who wants sex or to do certain sexual things, than it's completely up to your mutual consent how far and fast you want to take it. But to make it socially fair to him, you must be absolutely clear, and honest, and also don't make him spend too much resources else men have a tendency to feel entitled like give x and receive y in return. Until now as a man, I dont understand what is analogous to a man which can be comparable to sex to a woman.
I knew a girl when I was in the Navy who was hooking up with her NCO’s (a few of whom were married) for the purpose of advancement in rank. She never got it, and word spread all over the base what a skank she was.
However cheating is a completely different story. I have more respect for a single woman who slept with 10 guys in one month vs a married woman who only had two sexual partners in her life: her husband the guy she’s cheating on him with. It has to do with respect.
I personally have been with LOTS of girls in the course of my life. But once I’m in a committed relationship I stay loyal no matter how tempted I feel (and I’ve been tempted but did the right thing). It’s about respect.
Does not matter, if we have met, have had sex in the past or will in the future.
Every man feels this way, the only way for a guy to not think your a whole is to sleep with him. Because no guy wants to be known as a WhoreMonger.
So save face!
Always wear a dress, pull them panties off to the side quick, get it done and move on!
Its that easy! No man will ever think your a whole unless you tell one of them and I quote!
"I LOVE YOU!"
now you just made yourself a whore!
Basically a whore is someone who sells body and soul for materialistic gain.
You don't have to bang someone to be a whore any imoral job that you would otherwise not do if it didn't pay like it does is basically whoring.
Women who enjoy sex and have no problem doing it abundantly are to me great people in fact I prefer them over those who see sex as some kind of black magic ritual that needs a million condition met before it is attempted
@ZackBan I always heard whore does it for free and a prostitute for money.
I think you're confusing whores with hoes.
The latter is a slang for whores originally but basically means a girl who has no morals and would cheat on her boyfriend and sleep around.
Even though I'm all for everyone to be sexually active that doesn't make it ok to betray the trust of others
Noun 2, I believe is what your asking of other to define for themselves. This is all a point of view from an individuals ethics or personal moral compass and perspective. Are you asking for opinions for real or trying to figure this out for yourself about how you feel?
My opinion is that to actually be the definition of a whore... You'd actually have to engage in carless, multiple, casual sexual encounters often and that these didn't have particular "meaning" other then pursuit of personal sexual satisfaction or void to fill mentally. Whether this means having sex with one to two different people every month or 10 different people a month is really the judgement call on the objective person to make of the subjective individual doing these actions to be considered wrong or not. No matter a man or woman or non-binary, I think having sex with a new person every week warrants the title of whore but I'm not saying it in a hateful way. It's not my place to make someone feel guilty for their actions regardless of how I'd feel about myself feeling guilty af if it were me. But some would say you're a whore for not being married having monogamous sex with your married partner only. Society isn't always collectively right in terms of optimum judgment to view others their actions wrong. Only morally. But not ethically.
Working as a sex worker, wearing revealing clothes, flirting or having one night stands or even open relationships doesn't make you a whore or a slut.
In other words as long as your actions are not hurting anyone then you ain't a whore.
So like being a plumber is imaginary as well or a pilot.
It matters if one cares about his/her and his/her partner's health. As we know, the more sexual partners one has, the bigger the chance of him/her having one (or more) STD
I really don't think the "1k women and proud" guy should be taken as an example unless you're totally oblivious to attachment in a relationship or prevention of STDs
@Vencam Many women and men nowadays have multiple partners, its pretty normalized in a lot of countries. Its a huge double standard that when women have multiple partners they get called sluts. shouldn't women feel the same way about men too? If we are supposed to care about how many partners a guy has had, we're seen as having too high standards and bitches. And STDs can happen even if you have one partner. Does having more increase them? Probably, but you're still taking that gamble when you sleep with someone regardless. Women shouldn't have to be labeled as whores when men are the same way is my point.
Although I agree that it has been a big double standard for a long time (and still is in some places), what I'm trying to say is that we shouldn't encourage excessive promiscuity in the name of "free relationships". Like with all things, there is a "too much" for sexual interactions too... Point being, nowdays I think it's fair to call a whore/slut (or whichever terminology one prefers) for anyone who has an excessive amount of sexual partners ("excessive" being a tad subjective, but that's not the point now)
Whore and slut have been used for a couple hundred years to denote loose women. That isn't going to change but they did change whore to Ho to be less critical.
But I think you mean when do men consider a woman a whore. A woman is a whore if she has sex with a lot of men, but that's not the right term, because I asuume she isn't getting paid. So, the best word for this is a slut. A woman who have sex with men and not getting paid is a slut. So, women who have sex with a lot of men is a slut.
the difference between a single woman that's just sexually expressive, and a whore, is the sexism and spite of the person talking.
i mean, it comes from a word for prostitute, so it could mean someone using sex as a commodity, a gold digger. and it used in distain for a woman's sexual activity, so is used to convey outrage at infidelity, a cheater.
but from the context, yup, pretty much just a sexist slur
No clue, but she's beautiful
From the perspective of women: if she gets more sex than they do. If their boyfriend is attracted to her.
Having charm, grace and sex appeal is someone "sexually expressive".
Sleeping with everyone and anyone who has a pulse, and money - is a whore.
Those actresses and models who complained about Harvey Weinstein, years after the event and after he launched them on multi-million-dollar careers. . . those women.
Harvey actually harassed women who didn’t work with him though.
I'm glad your intentions are to be exclusive with this guy. But there's no guarantee that it's going to turn out that way.
I guess the only difference is that you give a free discount whereas hookers on the streets charges money.
Or she leads men on, uses them for their money and has sex with too many partners in a short period of time.
Also prostitutes.
by the way, who is the girl in the photo?
No idea, but she is beautiful. I wish I knew.
A slut is someone that sleeps around for fun when they are single Wich in my book is ok. Sluts are fun so don't slut shame guys. But let's be honest, guys don't slut shame girls. Only other girls slut shame other girls
But yea a white is someone that is unfaithful and un trustworthy.
A slut is someone that sleeps around when she's single
I must be a saint.. 999 sexual partners in a leap yr xD