(Read below) How do I tell him I met someone else? ?

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I dated a guy for 2 years until I went to collage in a different city, then he ended things because we hardly saw each other and the distance was too much for him.
We stayed best friends and still see each other every once in a while (this has been going on for a year and a half). Im convinced he still has feelings for me and I still have feelings for him but I have decided to move on because the dynamic of being just friends with someone I have feelings for was becoming toxic.

I met a very nice guy and we are going on our first date next week. How do I tell him I met someone else? I don't want to hurt him because I still care about him deeply. Am I a bad person for trying to move on?

Answer 1

talka20

Xper 6

I dont think you or him would be a bad person for moving on cuz ofc the relationship is ended now... you guys are bestfriends and yea u both have some feelings too towards eachother but again u guys are not together so its always nice to move on in such situation... and he should accept the fact n understands that you can do however you want n date whoever u feel like cuz u guys are not together... its nice decision of yours to let him know this means he is important to you n you wana keep things right in front so he won't have any expectations while not knowing that ure already talkin to someone else... he probably won't be comfy n very happy after knowing this but later he should understand n accept it n either stay bestfriend or just not cuz that might not be healthy for him to keep seeing you talkin to someone else while he has some feelings... that depends on how he wana take next step after u let him know. But if uve thought, then id say yea do tell him. And tell exactly how u wrote the details cuz they are very clear bout how u feel n whatyu want next

talka20

21 d
I think in person would be better but if u can do that before you go on date with other guy... if u cannot then talk it out over phone but i think before u go on date
Asker

20 d
Thank you so much 😊 I've invited him for coffee tomorrow so I will tell him then. Just hate that I might lose his friendship 😭
talka20

20 d
Yes u might... i lost my bestfriend too back then... it hurts but u just do anything thats probably for the best
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talka20

20 d
You can't just do anything*

Answer 2

talka20

I think in person would be better but if u can do that before you go on date with other guy... if u cannot then talk it out over phone but i think before u go on date

Answer 3

Asker

Thank you so much 😊 I've invited him for coffee tomorrow so I will tell him then. Just hate that I might lose his friendship 😭

Answer 4

talka20

Yes u might... i lost my bestfriend too back then... it hurts but u just do anything thats probably for the best

Answer 5

talka20

You can't just do anything*

Answer 6

proNutro | 69 opinions shared on Relationships topic.

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Not a bad person. It’s life. I think communicating with Gina bout it would be good especially if you say you’re good friends still and that he may still have feelings for you. Just be straightforward snd in a nice way just say how things are

Asker

21 d
Yes , I need to tell him. Should I tell him in person? Or over the phone. I hate that this is going to hurt him, I still care about him a lot.
proNutro

21 d
Whichever you can do sooner.
Also just tell him you do still care for him snd so on.
Asker

21 d
Thank you 🤗 I'll take him for coffee next week and tell him
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proNutro

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Keep us updated

Answer 7

Asker

Yes , I need to tell him. Should I tell him in person? Or over the phone. I hate that this is going to hurt him, I still care about him a lot.

Answer 8

proNutro

Whichever you can do sooner.
Also just tell him you do still care for him snd so on.

Answer 9

Asker

Thank you 🤗 I'll take him for coffee next week and tell him

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proNutro

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