Is it easier to forgive or to be forgiven?

[anmari2001]

well to be forgiven doesn't depend on you entierly so... it can be imposible
while to forgive it is not easy it is not imposible if you give yourself time and a cup of will

[Alexa703]

Forgiven not just from others but ourselves.

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

To be forgiven.
I almost never forgive.

[MCheetah]

Easier to be forgiven, obviously. To forgive is to either admit wrongdoing or to bend the knee and grovel to someone on a power trip.

My personal two rules for this is, "Never (genuinely) apologize for something that you didn't do wrong." I don't believe in fake apologies to people I respect or like, but I can lie to someone I don't respect or like and give them a half-assed, disingenuous, non-apology if I ever had to, but it wouldn't come off the least bit believable (and that's the point).

My other rule is "I'd rather you don't apologize and just learn from your mistakes than to apologize and do it again." I don't need apologies, nor do I expect one, most of the time. I just want people to learn from their mistakes, if it WAS an actual mistake involved.

[TOTEMPLASTER]

Well, I am a Finn, so if someone wrongs me and does not satisfactorily atone then it is my ethic duty to track him down and either shoot him like a rabid dog or simple beat him to a acceptably gruesome pulp. Life is hard when you have Russia for a neighbour.

[Account]

Both are difficult, but I think it is slightly easier for me to forgive.
If I make a mistake, I cannot forgive myself no matter what. Even if the other person forgives me, it doesn't matter that much to me. Knowing I failed myself/the fact expectations I set upon myself is torturous.

[Espresso-Grande]

Personally, I can overlook a lot and forgive very easily. The one thing I'd never forgive though is some sort of betrayal or deceit. But in my experience, most people seem to hold grudges and are very unforgiving over the slightest err.

So I'd say it varies, depending on each I indvidual's personality and life experiences.

[Jjpayne]

It is always easier to be forgiven but not as easy to forgive. Forgiveness takes something from us, you have to be willing to do it and willing to be humble. I always am a big beilever in forgiveness simply because it's not your job to hold onto a grudge that stays with you your whole Life... You need to not carry a burden like that. Oddly enough, forgiving a person is more for you than that other person. It's freeing and I've heard many testimonies of people in my life saying such.

[what3ver]

I don't know if this is generally true for everyone, but for me, it's definitely more difficult to be forgiven. It's easy for me to see the good in people and give them grace for being human. For me to do something wrong to somebody, though, makes me feel like scum. I need to remind myself that I'm only human too and should extend the same grace to myself.

[Horny-ashell]

In my experiences it's always easier to forgive. I try my hardest to be a good person regardless of any situation ( I've always been a gentleman was raised to be this way) It's not that hard to forgive people sometimes it's hard to ask for forgiven even if you have nothing to be forgiven even if someone thinks you should be asking.

[Chris_here]

To be forgiven you don't really have to do much aside from feeling bad about whatever you did, and you dont even have to mean it and yet someone can still forgive you. But when you try to forgive someone for doing you wrong, itll take some serious effort from you, emotionally and physically but you'll be guilt free because you did right.

[FunTastyLady]

I think that neither are easy - when someone forgives you... have they actually truly forgiven you or are they simply saying so to get you out of their hair... same goes to the one forgiving... are they truly forgiving someone?

[Daniela1982]

I have no idea how easy it is being forgiven as it is out of my hands. So I would say to forgive because that IS under your control.

[Niki777]

I'm bit of a simpelton.
It is easy for me to forgive other people. But its difficult for me to forgive my self. So being forgiven for me is never easy.

[xCherryKizz]

Easier to forgive. Live and let live.

Some other people dont like forgiving, and it might hurt you because you end up feeling guilty all your life.

[John_Galt]

I think it’s a lot easier to forgive someone you love... than to forgive yourself.

[loveslongnails]

The only way I can answer that is I think I'm a little more willing to forgive than the "average person" seems to be.

[jgirl99]

For me, to forgive, it depends on the situation tho. I hate holding on to anger

[Avicenna]

It's easier to forgive- you have no guilt afterwards

[Lexi_Lous]

To forgive. Sometimes even if they forgive you and you don't forgive yourself, you're like stuck

[Nerdvana]

It's forgetting that's the hardest part to do. The first to forgive is the strongest, but the first to forget is the happiest.

[REALSTEEL]

thats a really good question probably say to be forgiven

[Iron_Man]

I’m not really sure it all depends on each and every situation

[Thedivinechic]

Apathetic. Neutral. If you don't like me, great. If you do, great.

[Gedaria]

Forgive, trouble is I find it hard to forgive myself, or forgiven..

[AmeerX]

It is easier to forgive because it is in our own hands

[msc545]

It depends on the situation but I think it's easier to forgive people than ask to be forgiven generally speaking

[Waldoe]

nice question..., I answer questions just so they will STOP showing up on my screen...

[collie22]

when you believe there about the same, cause we don't judge. like you said don't forget your lesson

[sensible27]

To be forgiven? Because it fundamentally depends on the other person.

[MrCreep]

I don't often do things I need to be forgiven for it's outher people folt

[COMMODOREII]

It's always easier to control yourself than those around you.

[lovemyMeester]

To be forgiven. I forgive people easily.

[Toast792]

Depends on the situation

[Nawlins34]

To forgive, because that's what you control.

[douride2]

I find both difficult.

[Sia_nee]

Hmmm, easier to forgive.

[bannacookies]

I think being forgiven is easier.

[CuriousMufuxka]

Be forgiven. I mistakenly hold grudges.

[krin_m]

I think it is easier to forgive!

[AdithyaR]

Being forgiven seems easier. Not sure though.

[JosyJosy]

To be forgiven

[Aakash_Hangargi]

I can forgive, but I can't forget sorry

[xxAlanaxx]

To be forgiven

[Nazgol]

To be forgiven!

[Kelly6]

Very easy

[colin77]

Both the same

[Anonymous]

Both

[Anonymous]

Easy to forgive