Is it considered cheating if your girlfriend is a professional erotic message therapist with hand job?

[tntcoffee]

I recently found out that my girlfriend is giving erotic messages with a happy ending for money. I don’t know how to react to what she is doing. She has no mental or emotional attachment for these men and is doing it to pay her bills via the pandemic and loosing her job and unemployment is not cutting it. I plan on marrying her and I get it but the mental images of what she is doing is tearing me up emotionally and I don’t know what to do.

[Nawlins34]

If she told me at the beginning she was doing this and I still decided to pursue her and we have a relationship? This is not cheating. I will stand by my woman on this because it was a choice.

If I find out about after the fact? I wouldn't consider it cheating, but I'm ending the relationship.

I'll break it down.

The reasons she cited are very logical. The issue I would have is she's not comfortable telling me anything.

How did I find out? From her or by accident? Or via someone else? When did she start? Before or after we started dating?

If it was before, she hid it and never gave me the option to decide if I was okay with it. If it was after, she made a decision without asking me my opinion and hid it.

If marriage is the endgame, we have to be able to make decisions together and help each other out.

I think you're acknowledging the logical reason she did what she did, but if it is still bothering you, I'd let it go.

Just my thoughts on it, I hope I helped. Be safe and good luck.

[Finchie40]

Yes it’s cheating , there are other ways she can make money without doing sexual acts , if she really valued you and loved you she wouldn’t be doing that shit , so my advice don’t marry this bitch cuz those images will never leave your head

[katiebaby44_]

I agree with others this is cheating. Being that “you just found out” and this is “because of the pandemic”, which has been going on in the US for a year now, it tells me that she’s been doing it a while and didn’t ask how you felt about it. It doesn’t matter if she doesn’t mentally or emotionally feel attached to these people... you think my friend’s ex had sex with her sister because he wanted to be with her? No! If he did, he would have gone out with her until the first place.

[Dinklex3]

So in the U. S that's illegal and as a Licensed Massage Therapist myself,
Im telling you there is no such thing as a "professional erotic massage therapist"
Turning a massage erotic itself is unprofessional and results in a lawsuit and losing your license.
Yes, that's cheating.

[OlderAndWiser]

No, she is not cheating. She is just being a whore.

[chihuahua011]

Did she tell you she is a "professional" in that area?

[Avicenna]

It is if she did it without you knowing about it and being OK with it.

[Vetera]

If it's tearing you up leave her ass buddy ain't that hard.

[Anonymous]

Beggars can't be choosers.

[Anonymous]

dump her you don't need "women" like that in your life

[Anonymous]

If you accepted to be in a relationship knowing that's her job then no I don't think so.

[Yuushiro]

He said "recently found out," so I don't think he knew, but I do agree with you. If he went into the relationship knowing it then its on him.