I wish there were more women like you out there in the world.
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I wish there were more women like you in the world Courtney!
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@DellBell although a response below reminded me of an exception I make: If my woman is lazy and taking me for granted then I have the right to show her that I have options. In my experience it's enough for me to just say "I can get the hottest woman to be my new best friend" cause she knows I do have options. But I can understand if someone with a lazy SO thinks they need to flirt to re-balance things. Think that is rare tho. Usually people flirt cause they want to cheat in my opinion.
I completely agree and to be honest if I was dating someone that wasn't pulling their weight in the relationship I would sit down talk to them, give them a chance to change their behaviour and if not I would simply just leave them. Also if they were flirting with someone else I would definitely just leave them because I would definitely consider even flirting with another person as cheating and disrespectful. I wouldn't even like the person I'm with to be looking at another woman's boobs and backside never mind flirting with them! But unfortunately I have dealt with that and with the cheating bit also.I didn't put up with it though as it's very disrespectful and basically he was clearly thinking that I wouldn't find out. Probably thought that I just fell from the sky.🙄🤣
@DellBell Agree. Loyalty is #1 in my book. As long as both people are respectful & not doing crazy stuff like violence.
That's exactly it :)
Is getting a guy's phone number what you mean by it not intending to go anywhere? LIke what level is acceptable and what is not?For example.. hugging or touching a guy's arm while laughing. Or what about laughing while touching a guy's chest? Maybe any touch is bad.Anything else that isn't touching bad in your book?
Yeah giving or recieving a phone number would in my books be too far.Touching an arm or whatever is fine.
Thanks for the clarification!
If it's only an ACT for your job that's fine. Not the same as real flirting.
When I was younger I had your idea too. But I was looking at it from the POV of a guy who never cheats, keep his word. In other words I live by principles and figured, staying loyal isn't THAT hard. Surely, she's just having a little harmless fun. Then I discovered that when a woman is fully committed she NEVER flirts. A light bulb went off in my head. Good luck.
@hahahmm i don't see how flirting has anything to do with "not being loyal". i see it as a "sport" you gotta stay fit in. that also spices up your relationship a lot and keeps it from getting boring, cause you grow so used to each other.
I have said before on GAG that if/when your woman gets lazy and assumes you have no options you have every right to show her you have options but in that scenario, in my opinion, she's not fully committed so you're justified. Different situation than if you flirt when your partner has done everything right in my opinion. Or to put it another way, who starts doing that and why matters. As a general rule tho, I stick to my first comment. There are guys who always flirt simply because they never can commit in the first place too. So there's different combinations/possibilities.
why does flirting have to be about showing someone their place? i mean i guess that's just your opinion. so be it. of course the "why" matters. and if my girl was to flirt with another dude with the sole intention to upset me or to cheat on me, that's not ok. but i personally get a kick out of the idea of other men wanting my girl but not being able to have her, cause she is with me xD
I'm talking about 'in theory'. Personally, I never flirt unless I'm single. But I can see how (as you say) the reason matters too. If your woman flirts "to upset you" that's totally not acceptable, as you say. Unless you did something to justify her trying to make a point. Typically, as you would agree, people don't flirt to make a point tho. It's all about them. A relationship should be team work. If both people aren't really on the same team then I don't see the point. It's like being in a relationship with a random person you met on the subway yesterday. I just don't get it. My guess is that you haven't really found a woman you feel committed to 100% tho & I'm not saying that's wrong. Just saying.
@hahahmm everyone is entiteled to lead a relationship according to their personal preference. that's how it should be at the end of the day :)
If the other person has a knowledge of how you do the relationship, sure. Because they have the full info to decide to leave if they wish. Being sneaky/lying to cheat wouldn't be right.
@hahahmm sure. communication is key in every relationship.
This made me laugh so damn hard that I HAD to throw an upvote your way.