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- I would rather have my best friend hate my partner than having feelings for her because otherwise, it will hurt him to see her with me. I don't want to make my best friend suffer like that.
If he made a move, it'll ruin the friendship and in rare cases, my relationship as well if she reciprocated. It'll also make my partner paranoid about all of my friends because she'll lose trust in my friendship choices and her safety around them.
If he didn't make a move, he won't be able to bond with me that well because of the jealousy. He will think that I have something that he deserved or I am someone who's blocking his way to his dreams and all.
If he hated her, it won't be that personal. The only thing he can do in this case is to tell and motivate me to find someone (better) else, in which case, he has to give me proper reasoning and constructive criticism is a good thing in most of the cases, to better assess my life. And even if he failed to set us apart, he won't care much because guys are chill. He'll just focus on me.
For an example: I dislike my BFF's wife but I don't let this get between our friendship. In fact, I try to be nice towards her and even accept a cup of tea that she makes for me when I visit their house. No need to create any drama. I just cherish the friendship and my friend's happy relationship.0|00|0Is this still revelant?[Possibly off-topic]
I believe most of the female answerers said that they want their bff love their partner instead of hating because that's how the female mind functions. If, as a woman, your (female) friends show interest, attraction, feelings towards your partner, it gives you solid validation. You feel like you made the right choice and your man is a high value person. It will give you a sense of security.
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- Neither , I would just want my best friend to respect my partner , and respect my relationship, sometimes friends can be toxic to a relationship and sometimes it’s best to distance yourself from those friends if they start to intervene and jeopardize your relationship, , you should never choose a friend over your partner. Your partner should be your best friend. A real friend would respect your relationship and not intervene , I have a friend that is married and I became friends with his wife until his wife started making passes at me so out of respect for my friend I backed off and distanced myself out of respect for his relationship , I never told him what his wife did cuz I don’t want to be caught up in drama and lose my friendship with him , As for her I told her privately and politely to please stop flirting with me that it makes me Feel uncomfortable and I don’t want to lose my friendship with them if shit gets blown out of proportion. So she stopped and we brushed it under the carpet There was only 1 time I intervened and I regret doing it , A somewhat friend married a girl that I always had the hots for and her and I became super close and found out she had the hots for me as well , And we ended up in bed together we had sex a few times until I told her we can’t do this anymore, she got mad at me and stopped talking to me , divorced her husband and disappeared , Not sure what she told him but all I know is he won’t talk to me anymore which I don’t blame him. , But my thing is the only way a marriage can work is if both people choose to make it work , In today’s world most marriages don’t work , ever since my marriage failed and entering the dating world , I have slept with married girls that I didn’t know were married until after the fact , so for me to ever get married again is going to be a long journey0|00|0Is this still revelant?
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Anonymous10 dHated. Also, i'm currently in love with a guy best friend, I've known him for 14 years now and I reckon he feels the same way. 🥰😊❤️1|00|0Is this still revelant?Tell him.
I'm a man in love with a married woman who is noting but a kind friend to me and I both feel terrible about it and it hurts to see her with someone else despite knowing that I'm just some random dude who walked into her life years after what was presumably a very happy marriage.
If the person you have feelings for returns those feelings... that's a rare thing and embrace it.
Fuck I'm almost 24 and still a virgin and I'm a man so I'm pretty undesirable at this point and potentially wasted my youth.
- At least if they hate him I can cut off the friendship if needed and not worry about them going after my partner as revenge0|00|0Is this still revelant?
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821- I picked A. If my best friend hated my partner, I'd think he was a idiot. And if he hated her, he'd better keep it to himself. But it wouldn't be too bad because I could always distance myself from the idiot.
If he loved her, though, I'd be a bit concerned. I mean, if he was really infatuated with her and flirted with her, I'd think he was trying to steal her from me. And there wouldn't be much I could do about it. I mean, I could always tell the guy to stay away from my partner, but it would ultilmately be up to her to decide what she wanted to do. I won't threaten, spy on, or boss my partner. But I'd leave her instantly if she cheated on me. And if my best friend seduced my partner, he would be dead to me. I'd realize that he was an immoral scum and wasn't a friend at all.1|00|0 - I mean really sometimes I think it's the same thing they have to hate because they loved they have to hate because they're jealous you have to hate just because they are angry I would rather just everybody get along0|00|0
- Lol. I’ve kinda had both. Same guy buddy hated one of my best girlfriends and we are kinda open enough where we’ve both admitted to wanting to have sex with each other’s partners if they were not in the pic. Lol. Drunk chats. Lol. They are kinda like twins though so physically they are like the same girls. But not like in love with...1|00|0
- If he hated my partner we could still hang out and be friends, just not with her around. If he was in love with my partner he might try hitting on her and if I found out it would end our friendship.1|00|0
But if he was really your best friend he wouldn’t though would he, and if she truly loved you she wouldn’t reciprocate either so surely life would be more pleasant than having to deal with negativity all the time🤷♀️
I'm just saying hypothetically. It could be an awkward position for all people involved
- Hate. Because I already had my best friend steal away most of the girls I liked growing up.0|00|0
- I don't have a best friend, so I guess the question is moot :)1|00|0
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- Hate. I'd rather he not try to make advances on her and make things way, way worst. The last thing I would want is to have to knock him on his ass and physically remove him from my home.1|00|0
- Love. It would make life so much simpler in most ways2|10|0
- Hate him because there’s a chance she might try to get with him or date him after we break up0|00|0
- That’s a hard question. I don’t want them to hate them but my best friend was in love with my ex and now she’s my ex because of him.0|00|0
- Out of the two, Id rather have my best friend be in love with her.1|00|0
- I'd much rather my best friend being in love with my partner @wittymilf as so many people have hatred in this world unfortunately!1|00|0
- hated, why would i want some dude simpin on my girlfriend for, i wouldn't want to bring my girlfriend around my friends anyways so hated sounds better1|00|0
- I would rather that he hated her.
Because, at the end of the day, it doesn't matter. I have plenty of love to overcome anyone's hate.1|00|0 - Of those 2 I would rather my best friend not like my partner.1|00|0
- In love with my partner. Because i think your partner should be your best friend.1|00|0
- I'd say a little bit of both gotta have that balance1|00|0
- My best friend is my partner so I wouldn't want him to be vain of himself and love himself more than me.0|10|0
- Love, can't understand hate. I know at least two of my friends that love my fiance.1|00|0
- Why does it have to be either or?1|00|0
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I live in reality honey. GAG is a bunch of clueless dipshits.
And that would be 'off', not 'of'. LOLWhat's your point? Every interaction we have you just beat around the bush. It's like a dance. There's no reality, nothing concrete, just a bunch of innuendo and word salad.
You ask a stupid question, but you don't like the answers. I think YOU are the one that's bored out of your mind.
I've been here five years, have answer over thirty thousand of these questions. Some of the members are learning something, getting smarter, some just aren't. Oh well.Wow, always a pleasure to meet such a fan. I’m sorry you’re looking for a genuine connection but I’m just not that into you 🤷♀️
And you think I give a shit. You may be witty, but for sure you're a dim bulb. Oh well. Just always made up bullshit, and an argument to go with it. I'll bet you're just a joy to be with. Don't be surprised when he dumps your ass. I wouldn't put up with your shit for ten minutes.
And when he does dump your ass, you'll be lonely and alone for the rest of your life, cuz no normal guy will put up with such bullshit. You'll see. What a fukkin PITA.
Why are you so bitter and angry? Don’t you have the love of a good woman? You seem so loveable it’s hard to believe
If my husband did pass away I think I would stay single though. Obviously by choice I think the needy lonely thing is just a guy mindset once you get to your age. I know a lot of women my mums age who are quite content after the passing of their husband ls. 🤷♀️ The lonely old men thing happens a lot though.
No bitterness. You've taken your stand, I've taken mine. We simply disagree. I have zero respect for you.
It's pretty equally split by gender on the lonliness aspect. And surely some of it has to do with personality type, introverts are much more independent. I know, I am one. The truth is, the majority of women looking, are simply looking for a provider. Women are not very good at setting themselves up financially, unless they can snag a man to do that for them, they're generally dependent. Not good or bad, just the reality of it all.
I simply love women, have had one by my side since I was about 16. My woman is my partner, lover, friend, social director, and entertainment. And yes, my wife of thirty years absolutely adores me. Yes, I stand firm, I'm not wishy washy or mamby-pamby. No girlie-man here.
I used to think I would remarry if something happened to wifey ver 2.0. After all, she is a cancer survivor, and you never know when that shit will come back and kill you. But like I say, the women 40 to 60 that would be in my dating pool are mostly looking for a provider. I doubt I would marry one though, just move them in, love the shit out of them, and when I get tired of their bullshit then boot them out. The revolving door at ol' browneye's mansion.
Maybe you're not as bitter and argumentative IRL. [shrug]I know you like to attack me and call me a cheater and immature and not witty and what ever else strikes you in the moment... but I’m really unsure why you like doing that?
This is a typical female perspective. In your mind, you have zero influence on any outcome, anything that affects you. Everything that happens to you, every personal interaction, is caused by an uncontrollable thing or person. Everything is someone or something elses fault. We get it.
The SOLE reasoning for my distaste for you comes from... wait for it... YOU!!! Yes, this is on YOU!
So put that in your pipe and smoke it. We are done, it's over, B-BYE, we're breaking up. Y'all have fun on GAG, emkay?
- I married my best friend so... no hate, all love.1|00|0
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- In love with my best friend!1|00|0
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I think I have an old residual account of both Insta and fb but I wouldn’t know how to find them. How’s the sober gym life treating you?
Anonymous10 dHated my partner.1|00|0
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