I am turning 27 this year and still never had a real, serious relationship. How do I cope?

[RealMarek]

It is frustrating, but you have options. But first, I strongly urge you to not get involved with teenage girls.

Women in their 20s have an advantage in dating, especially online dating. Young women are more selective than young men. For example; the most common filter they apply in online dating is 6 feet tall or taller, while only 20% of men are that tall. They can date men their age or men who are older and well established. This changes at some point in their 30s, at which point it becomes more difficult to find a single man who is a good catch (stable emotionally, able to hold down work, etc.). Women in their mid-30s are more apt to relax their standards relative to men their age, and this becomes more and more the case the older women get.

You are in your 20s, so you will likely only succeed in attracting women who are less attractive than you or at best as attractive as you. Are you pursuing women who are more attractive than you are? You might get lucky, but it probably won’t work for the next five to ten years.

Also, women sniff out desperation and find it terribly unattractive because it signals low status. The frustration you have will be perceived and will be a huge red flag.

1.) You can lower your standards.

2.) You can level-up your status.

Option 1 is the path of least resistance.

Option 2 is incredibly difficult, but it is what I will recommend every single time. How do you do it? Stop trying to get into a relationship and spend some time focusing on yourself. Are you focusing most of your effort and spare time on physical fitness, eating healthy food, gaining career skills, and cultivating hobbies? If not, start doing so in order to improve your confidence and status. After doing these things for a year, keep doing them but try to put yourself into situations where you are interacting with people outside of work, perhaps by volunteering, church, or other organizations. Are you spending time on video games? If so, it is a huge waste of time and you should cut way back to focus on efforts that can increase your status. Are you hooked on porn? If so, I strongly urge you to do everything you can to stop. It has messed up a lot of young men’s ability to be attracted to real women and can lead to unrealistic expectations.

If you choose Option 2 do not expect to see results in a few weeks. It is a long game. But if you stick with it I guarantee that two years from now you will be glad you did. Your confidence will increase. Your attractiveness will increase. You might even accelerate your career advancement. Because you will have not been focused on getting a girlfriend you won’t give off vibes of desperation.

Good luck!

[Tyrael]

"I only want a woman without a romantic past".

This is holding you back. You need to drop that shit for a start. Everyone has a history, there's no getting around it. You're an adult, you can look past it.

Secondly you need to find confidence in yourself. Start hitting the gym, do some cardio and boost your self esteem. Women are attracted to confident men so it'll do you some good.

And finally stop beating yourself up. Everyone is different, you don't need to have had plenty of experience by your age. There's plenty of time to find a partner. The more desperate you are, the less likely are to be successful. Relax, work on you, and it'll come.

[exitseven]

5'6" isn't going to prevent you from dating. It is your attitude and the fact you don't want to date anyone else that has a romantic past. Do not worry about that. Everyone is different and I would think that most girls would not care.
Try to work on your self a little. Get into an exercise program to get in shape. Learn a new skill. Get interested in something.
Be friendly and confident. Don't mope around because you think nobody likes you.

[OrdinaryDaniel]

You can still have a relationship even after 30. it is never too late. I am a smaller person 5.5 ft, height doesn't matter to some people, you got to take care of yourself more. if you have confidence in yourself you can find someone for you. You have to put yourself out there instead of being too passive. Go on a dating app or go to parties and meet n drinks. There are other girls like you who can't find a guy. I have even seen some of them on this site.

[TheFlak38]

with your height you can forget it. Just concentrate on your self growth and forget about women. In the best case you can bang a prostitute to relieve yourself.

[ovixs90]

Me too i am in your shoes i dont go out much and honestly in my life i didn;t had that much of a chances and being shy guy..

[Avicenna]

You need more flexible than that

[Dinosaursandanime65]

Just don’t give a shit.

[Anonymous]

it seems it is becoming more common

[Anonymous]

Are you in the military?