How to tell the different between decont guys from that are players?

Question

I know that I Keep choosing the wrong men that seem to like to prenteing to be good. I think that players are very good at pretending to be nice to get what he want and then quit. I am know that I am virgin and had more serious relationship. I know what to put on table by being a respectable young lady and I noticed some guys has be complimenting me more. When I do my task. Like weeding the garden and will help men that ask for help if he want to help. I tried to be a good listener to. I am not complaining anymore since I know was me that was the issue with getting into a relationship. And tried to be my best seft for looking for right men. I don't care about heghit and I just want to know if positive is good and if you seen any negative side is bad. I may have a learning disabilities but what you put in table that make men chose you other women.

Answer 1

AzzaBlue

Xper 4

You say that you have a learning disability, but you seem pretty smart to me. There are many people out there who are constantly attracting the wrong sort of person. So what do they do? They generally play the blame game rather than look inwards for the possible problem. These people fail to see that they are the common denominator of all these failed relationships and because of this they never learn and they never grow. At least you've acknowledged that you are attracting players which suggests to me that you are both clever and mature.
Now what you need to do is reflect of what you've learned. You said it yourself, players know what to say, how to say it and when to say it. These players have game and know how to talk to women. And they are typically very extroverted and are brimming with confidence and charisma that many women (apparently) find very hard to resist.
So maybe when dealing with men be mindful of these characteristics and most importantly listen to your gut instinct. If your gut is telling you that a bloke is too good to be true, chances are he is.
Also maybe you should reconsider how you are meeting men. I seem to remember that you were using dating sites. Is this still the case? If so, maybe you should either reexamine how you are 'selling' yourself or just quit online dating all together. Honestly it's not worth the heartache.

Also another thing about the players. They have loads of confidence around women because they have lots of experience. So maybe you should consider given blokes who are a bit shy and socially awkward. Chances are that if they've never been with a woman than they are very likely to be very appreciative and loyal to a women such as yourself. But be mindful that there are many bitter and sexually frustrated men out there who won't be ideal partners either.

In short, you need to try different things, change up your routine. And if it fails, examine how you think it went wrong, learn from the experience and try again. I hope this helps.

Asker

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I swore off online dating and just be chatting guy on Facebook. Age 22 year old. I prefer shy guy. I don't like egoistrel men that super loud and would go to McDonald on first day. It will public. Money I don't care about. Trustworthy if things that I want from men and respectful. No blaming you learning disabilities that made them to cheat. It there fault lose a decont girl. Re
AzzaBlue

4 d
Yes it is their fault. I am glad that you've found someone and I hope it works out for you.
Asker

4 d
I feel lot more nevous about now. I can't tell if good or bad. Yet. He doesn't have a girlfriend and never tried online dating. He say sorry that I bad experience with online dating. Talk about dogs and birds. I know is harder to tell with texting.

Answer 2

Asker

I swore off online dating and just be chatting guy on Facebook. Age 22 year old. I prefer shy guy. I don't like egoistrel men that super loud and would go to McDonald on first day. It will public. Money I don't care about. Trustworthy if things that I want from men and respectful. No blaming you learning disabilities that made them to cheat. It there fault lose a decont girl. Re

Answer 3

AzzaBlue

Yes it is their fault. I am glad that you've found someone and I hope it works out for you.

Answer 4

Asker

I feel lot more nevous about now. I can't tell if good or bad. Yet. He doesn't have a girlfriend and never tried online dating. He say sorry that I bad experience with online dating. Talk about dogs and birds. I know is harder to tell with texting.

Answer 5

crmoore | 199 opinions shared on Relationships topic.

Yoda

A lot of the time being able to tell the difference isn't easy. I suggest simply going along with it, but keep watching his actions to see what type of person he is.

As you mentioned, some guys are good at pretending to be nice to get what they want. So maybe just don't worry about trying to figure it out before hand, and instead just wait until he does something very obvious, then you can break up with him since it is now very clear.

Asker

4 d
He also has a learning disabilities. Austism and he always struggled with dating girls. I be asking questions and putting my hobbies. Like watching birds and duck 🦆
crmoore

4 d
Sounds good. I wish you two the best of luck 🙂
Asker

4 d
I only seen more green flag and just one red flag. I am more scare about his friends as women. I had trust issues with women. I don't trust women very much.
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crmoore

4 d
I understand your concern, but I don't think that should stop you from being with him.
Asker

3 d
I mean I one that good with trust women.. because my experience with. That girls tied to become friends. wiith.. just get closer to guys that I did serious relationship. with. This when I was in college and that what I prefer shy guy.
crmoore

3 d
Yes, I understand. But I think if you allow that to stop you, it might cause you to leave a guy that you otherwise would have had a good relationship with. You can still keep an eye on those girls, but I don't think you should stop seeing the guy if you still like him.
Asker

3 d
Just tell him that I don't trust some some women and did that. That why I liked shy guys since I know they will not do anything wrong and more respectful
crmoore

3 d
Alright, you can certainly do that

Answer 6

Asker

He also has a learning disabilities. Austism and he always struggled with dating girls. I be asking questions and putting my hobbies. Like watching birds and duck 🦆

Answer 7

crmoore

Sounds good. I wish you two the best of luck 🙂

Answer 8

Asker

I only seen more green flag and just one red flag. I am more scare about his friends as women. I had trust issues with women. I don't trust women very much.

Answer 9

crmoore

I understand your concern, but I don't think that should stop you from being with him.

Answer 10

Asker

I mean I one that good with trust women.. because my experience with. That girls tied to become friends. wiith.. just get closer to guys that I did serious relationship. with. This when I was in college and that what I prefer shy guy.

Answer 11

crmoore

Yes, I understand. But I think if you allow that to stop you, it might cause you to leave a guy that you otherwise would have had a good relationship with. You can still keep an eye on those girls, but I don't think you should stop seeing the guy if you still like him.

Answer 12

Asker

Just tell him that I don't trust some some women and did that. That why I liked shy guys since I know they will not do anything wrong and more respectful

Answer 13

crmoore

Alright, you can certainly do that

Answer 14

nicdaddy

Xper 2

You should be fine and I am sure if it. But no matter what the man must earn your respect and you will love if you are loved by him. Know that you are good and you deserve good. Good luck 😘

Answer 15

Dchrls78104 | 1.9K opinions shared on Relationships topic.

Guru

One way is to look at how soon the guy starts to ask for sex.

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