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I have a 8 y. o son when he was about 3 and a half me and his mother got divorced even though she had a domestic battery charge in all of this the courts still ruled in her favor and gave me 1 hour a week supervised visits with him which they wanted me to be up to date on child support and since she lived ~120 miles away to travel ~ 80 to do the visits at that time I was homeless jobless and had no means of being able to make the visits fast forward 4 years and I'm almost 20k in debt on back child support and 3 months away from getting my license back I am a mechanic and haven't been able to work legitimately due to my license being suspended I work for myself atm because if I were to be working a minimum wage job I wouldn't be able to live let alone take care of my other two kids my son's mother has let me come back around to see him several times each time for a steady month or so then finds some reason to say I can't see him she has a new man in her life that my son has taken a liking to since he's around 24/7 and she's wanting me to allow him adopting my son and I just don't know what I should do or who to go to about this a soon as my license is reinstated I plan on having child support caught up withing a year since I'll be making that kind of money again and I'll be able to start seeing him wether she want it or not what do I do?
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25Not if someone else adopts the child
@Avicenna yes you do. Trust me I’ve been through this
Where is this? If you give them up before the adoption, yes. But not when the adoption occurs.
At any rate, the IP should not give up his parental rights.
@Avicenna All US states. Giving up parental rights does not mean someone is going to adopt
OK, I think we’re Takelung past each other. You are correct that if a parent voluntarily gives up their parental rights in the absence of an adoption, they are still liable for past snd future child support. If the parent gives the up as part of the process if their biological child being adopted, they are not liable for future child support but would be for any back child support they may owe.
@OlderAndWiser: is that correct?
@Avicenna not that I’m aware of
@Avicenna You are correct. The courts do not allow fathers to surrender their parental rights to avoid child support, but only if there is a stepfather wanting to adopt. Liability for any arrearage on child support remains.
@OlderAndWiser: Thanks for confirming that