So now it's my fault my boyfriend got his ex girlfriend pregnant?

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He always used to talk bad about her because she cheated on every single boyfriend, didn't want to work and relied on guys for money.

Months ago in late Jan we had an argument. Afterwards I calmly (though still a bit upset) told him and insisted that we should turn this into a casual, open relationship, that having kids isn't important for me, etc. I added that I'll be going on dates. He agreed. I then finished creating my online profile and went on 2 dates. It didn't go well but we did nothing.

My boyfriend on the contrary slept with that trashy girl, the condom broke and she's now pregnant. He wants to do a paternity test when the child Is born. He blames this all on me, saying this never would've happened if I didn't open my mouth and said all that, that I opened Pandora's box and that it's not cheating.

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1 y

So he's saying that if I had never agreed to that then none of that would've happened and to be careful what I wish for.
He said I'm the one that brought it up and insisted.

Answer 1

ohshee | 1.5K opinions shared on Relationships topic.

Master

Oh my God how did you do that well I hope you learned your lesson Shame Shame
Because if you didn't it's going to be your fault the next time he cheats with another girl
And if that happens if it's going to be your fault that he's never home because he's over one of those girls house
And then it's probably going to be your fault that you have no money because you're probably giving it to him all the time because he has to give his money for child support and gas to get back and forth to work
And it's going to be your fault that you didn't give him gas money so we can go to work so now he had doesn't have a job so he's living with you for free are your parents and you for free but never home
So I hope the none of the above happens and you move on otherwise if you don't you going to be unhappy for a long time and I think that's going to be your fault so basically this is a warning things happen in our lifetimes they were supposed to wake up to a little hint and what's yet to come it's going to be your fault if you don't pay attention

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Finchie40 | 1.4K opinions shared on Relationships topic.

Guru

Actually your boyfriend is right , and why he is still your boyfriend is a shock to me , couples that can accept and agree on open relationships aren’t real relationships, it’s 2 clueless selfish people using each other as a convenience while going out. Screwing other people , that isn’t love , Love only grows when 2 people commit to each other and sacrifice for each other , if you actually both loved and valued each other you wouldn’t need to screw other people, so since you agreed on seeing other people and dated other guys you can’t be mad at your boyfriend for going out and banging other girls , you agreed to it , Dumb

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1 y
The reason I'm still with him is because he's waiting for the baby to be born. Now this gets more complicated: Neither him nor the girl know for sure if he's the father. She slept with two other guys too.
Finchie40

1 y
That’s crazy sounds like Maury shit lol on top of worry about a baby I would be worried about STD’s as well knowing he had sex with a girl that slept with 2 other guys , and is unsure who the father is? Sounds like a slut to me

Answer 3

Asker

The reason I'm still with him is because he's waiting for the baby to be born. Now this gets more complicated: Neither him nor the girl know for sure if he's the father. She slept with two other guys too.

Answer 4

Finchie40

That’s crazy sounds like Maury shit lol on top of worry about a baby I would be worried about STD’s as well knowing he had sex with a girl that slept with 2 other guys , and is unsure who the father is? Sounds like a slut to me

Answer 5

McMillanD

Influencer

If the relationship was open then it wasn't cheating.
However, it is absolutely NOT your fault he couldn't pull out in time. HE made the choice to sleep with her and now he has to deal with the consequences of his actions.
The only thing that you can do is decide for yourself if dealing with all the fallout is something that you actually want to do.
Is he really worth all the B. S?
Not to mention the immaturity of actually blaming YOU for him getting someone pregnant. What if this was you who was pregnant? Is this the kind of man you want around for the long haul?
Sounds like a real prize.

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1 y
The girl slept with two other men too and at this moment he's waiting for the baby to be born and do the paternity test. Neither him nor the girl are sure if he's the father.

Answer 6

Asker

The girl slept with two other men too and at this moment he's waiting for the baby to be born and do the paternity test. Neither him nor the girl are sure if he's the father.

Answer 7

NotTacocaT6969

Xper 5

It’s not your fault. He is an adult and is responsible for his own life choices and mistakes.

His behavior is immature and shows signs of severe mental illness.

I would get far away from him if I were you.

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He's not even sure if he's the father. The girl isn't sure either because she slept with 2 other men. For the meantime, he's waiting for the baby to be born and do a paternity test.

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Asker

He's not even sure if he's the father. The girl isn't sure either because she slept with 2 other men. For the meantime, he's waiting for the baby to be born and do a paternity test.

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boggboss | 5.6K opinions shared on Relationships topic.

Master

Its not your fault but I wouldn't say this was cheating either the relationship was opened up by you and he is a retard for only using 1 form off protection

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jshm2 | 554 opinions shared on Relationships topic.

Master

You haven't laughed at the clown, and berated yourself for dating idiots?

You still have a lot on mental development to do, kiddo.

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slatyb | 3.9K opinions shared on Relationships topic.

Master

Dump him. He’s a liar and a cheater and takes no responsibility for his actions. A life alone would be better than babysitting him.

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Dchrls78104 | 2.4K opinions shared on Relationships topic.

Master

That's why you get when you date someone who is not completely over his ex. If he got her pregnant, you were just his rebound. Next time, don't be a rebound.

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Wise4myage | 2.7K opinions shared on Relationships topic.

Master

He's full of shit, remove him from your life immediately.

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Pterodon | 292 opinions shared on Relationships topic.

Yoda

He’s full of shit. Why are you communicating with him at all

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Browneye57 | 3.9K opinions shared on Relationships topic.

Master

Wow... you guys really know how to party. FAIL

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RingOfFire | 226 opinions shared on Relationships topic.

Xper 7

Men are such dogs. 🥴

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KrakenAttackin | 1.3K opinions shared on Relationships topic.

Guru

Stop banging fuck boys.

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So now it's my fault my boyfriend got his ex girlfriend pregnant?

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