Sometimes people sign up to be the other lover. Other times they really didn’t know. I never hear much from the angle of the other man/woman that didn’t know they were the other man/woman. I’d like to hear some people’s stories. How did u find out u were the other lover? I found out I was the other woman when a woman and baby showed up to my doorstep accusing me of ruining her family. I had no idea who she was even talking about and thought she had the wrong person but she did have the right person. I was dating her husband at the time, but knew him by a totally different name! I only realized after she showed me pictures. We were only dating for about 2 months and I was able to clear up any other questions or concerns she had and never heard from either one of them again after that day. (Apart from him attempting to call me a couple hours after she left) turns out she suspected he was cheating from around 6 months prior and I wasn’t the only one he was seeing since I only started dating him 2 months prior. It was my first time ever being in such a situation and I remember thinking how crazy it all was. I had been to his job to have lunch with him, spoken to him on the phone almost every day, he had been to my house a couple times, I had been to where I thought was his house as well. The man really was living 2 lives. Here I was thinking I’d never be a side chick.
Ever dated a married man/woman and didn’t find out they were married until afterwards?
LOL yes a few times, it’s honestly messed up , but I had my fair share of married women that I didn’t know were married until after the fact , What always got me was why they went back to their husbands like nothing happened , It must be a security,/ convenience reason , to much invested to just throw it away is what my conclusion was cuz it definitely isn’t love , if you can go screw someone else. A few I found out , cuz they finally admitted to me they were married , but unhappy in their marriage and told me they were going to leave their husbands to be with me , I was like ummmm no , so what , you can cheat on me also when things get bad? , and another time a husband showed up on my doorstep and confronted me and I pretty much told him the truth that I had no clue she was married and that she played me real good , cuz I was seeing her for a good 4 months or longer , I felt bad for the guy cuz he admitted he traveled a lot for his job , so I gave him pretty much every detail cuz I pictured myself in his shoes, which I was when my ex cheated on me , but I admitted that I was at his home a bunch of times , He asked Me how many times I fucked her , and I said a lot honestly to much to count sorry , why he wanted to know that Kim’s of creeped me out but whatever , The funny and crazy thing is that desperate guy took her back!!! that one never sat well with me on how messed up that whole thing is , I was honestly upset , cuz I really liked her and felt her and I were going to be in it for the long haul. She treated me like gold and rocked my world , After he left, I called her to mother fuck her and pretty much told her to never call me again , she cried to me saying she isn’t In love with him that she is in love with me, I said then divorce him then and prove to me that you want to be with me , tShe never did , and why he took her back is beyond pathetic to me , and why I was going to give her another chance was pathetic as well I guess but like I said I really liked her , But that guy was desperate as fuck is how I looked at it for taking her back My ex wife cheated on me and tried getting me back , I don’t take cheaters back period , So lately I been happily single , trying to play my cards right and hopefully find someone that knows what it means to be in a relationship, most girls today just like the convenience of men , so whether she is married or has a boyfriend or girlfriend it doesn’t really bother me , if I find her attractive and we have a connection just be honest with me , it’s better then being a liar and hiding shit , You wanna fuck let’s fuck is my conclusion to everything , I am tired of trying to sort out liars and being played I can only give what I want to receive , People today are very selfish to the point I wonder if true love actually assists anymore. Bottom line is most people cheat and that’s fine but end your fucking relationship with that person don’t go back to them like nothing happened , People are fucked up and I think it fucked me up also lol
This is honestly my biggest fear but I feel like there’s so many signs that can suggest somebody is married. Can be easily avoidable unless if they are originally from a different country
There was no signs on my end. Mostly because the relationship was new. I would have eventually came across something had we kept dating but the wife beat me to it. Other than that the typical red flags were not there. I think I got more comfortable because I was free to just come to his job and have lunch with him. I know his whole job must have though I was such a bold hoe! But nobody said anything or even thought to be like “girl u know he’s married right?” Or something.
His family didn’t live close but we had discussed eventually meeting them. Which u was fine with considering at the time we was only dating for a month. I actually met him while he was with one of his guy friends. And we had gone out on a double date with another friend. I didn’t meet everyone but for a new relationship that was considered normal for me since at the time I had a shit job I was working 50hrs at a time at.
I've been a side piece a few times. The worst was when i didn't realize it and had a girlfriend i actually wanted her to come around more she was always busy. Then i find out she has a husband. I was pissed off. Well anyways she left her husband for me and then i dumped her ass for being a cheater. Lol. I mean really i can't be in a relationship with someone who does that shit. Gross.
A few times, although it was never anything serious. Two of them I told the husband, but weirdly they didn't believe me or they just didn't want to believe it. Morons.
That really sucks. That happened to me. My date was married with four kids. We didn't have sex but she told me her husbands weiner wasn't doing the job anymore. I quickly let her go!
