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Or maybe "accountability" if I try to summarize with one word. It's like there are men who cheat on women these days trying to justify their actions based on men's evolutionary programming to spread their seed, and some gullible women accept that! There's also evolutionary programming to run away from dangerous situations. What comes next, men trying to justify to women that it's only natural for them to abandon their wives and children in crisis situations? I see obese people blaming the fast-food industry for obesity as though someone pointed a gun at their heads and forced them to order a gigantic milkshake several times a week from McDonald's. You put that in your mouth! Take some responsibility! We're not saints here but stop blaming other people for your own life choices!I see feminists blaming men for the discrepancies between STEM, as though men are going around coercing women not to become scientists and engineers (while apparently coercing a bunch of Indian men to do so). Where is the accountability?And I see lovers getting in heated arguments that escalate and escalate, only for them to put the whole blame on the other party. It takes two to tango! You escalated that argument just as much as him/her! Take some responsibility!So I think accountability is ultimately what's lacking these days in a society of people so quick to blame others, or systems, for their own life choices.
... and if people are so lacking in accountability in this sense, then, of course, they are going to become radical feminists, or MGTOWs, or incels, or people going into their 30s still living with their parents, or morbidly obese people -- or whatever -- still blaming society and other people for their own mistakes. Because they were never educated or parented properly to start contemplating the idea like, "Durr, uhh, maybe I actually did something wrong here?" They're conditioned to look for the first person, or society, or system, to blame for their own actions.And until that's corrected, then it's hopeless to entertain the idea that they'll have lasting relationships with lovers, or colleagues, or bosses, or even friends.
And you know, I'm not some flawless saint. I don't want to come that way too much, because I'd be working towards a hypocrite if interpreted that way. I'm a flawed man, especially with my love and overall inability to resist the booze. But I at least blame myself for that! I don't blame whatever semblance of alcoholism I have on my childhood or parents, or society, or systems, or whatever. I put the whiskey in my mouth! I am to blame! And that gives me hope, just with this basic level of accountability enough to acknowledge my own failings, that I might improve.And it's due to this accountability that my wife and I have been married for 11 years and stayed together even longer. When I make a mistake (and I do make mistakes), I can quickly admit it and she forgives me and we laugh and hug. When she makes a mistake, she is accountable enough to do the same and I'm forgiving enough to hug and laugh with her. This is what keeps up together. But this accountability is what I see increasingly lacking in newer generations.
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I think commitment can be like an obligation where as loyalty is a position of your heart
Loyalty as comes hand in hand with faithful because if your loyal you'd never fall into the trap of being unfaithful.
Exactly and i think you gotta decide what kind of person your gonna be before the relationship starts.
This argument is how divorces start.
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You sound very confused you must be trolling
@Nick473 see now we’re fighting