If your partner is reluctant to marry you and be a stepmom/dad, that is they're unsure about their parenting skills, does it mean they don't love you?

[Screenwriter]

Course not. Has to do with their confidence in themselves and their desire to not disappoint you. They want to support your children's emotional well being, which also supports YOUR emotional well being.

If you're joining a family, a healthy person wants to contribute positively. This desire needs to be part of their makeup. Everyone has these doubts: parents and others. Will I be a good aunt, uncle, grandparent, parent, step-parent.

And the role of step-parent is a particularly dicey one. It has to be negotiated before the marriage on the part of the couple AND their children. If the kids are old enough to truthfully dislike the impending step-parent... for GOOD reason. Well, the marriage will never work. Clashes of parenting styles, personalities. On the other hand the step-parent may have a far BETTER parenting style than the parent... another source of conflict. Will the parent step back and allow this change? Will the kids?

A lot of minefields to negotiate. Takes someone with GIANT boots to do so.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Not necessarily.. Being a parent can be hard at times.. Being a parent to someone else's child, even more so... I'd be more concerned with someone that jumped into that without worrying if they would make a good fit with the children than someone that shows concerns about being a good parent, anyways, but especially if they have no children of their own.. I was concerned if I'd be a good mom, a lot of people get the pre parent jitters until they actually become parents

[OlderAndWiser]

Being a step-parent is even more difficult than being a parent. If you are the step-mom, then because you are there, you are expected to do all the things that moms do for their children. Drive little Dickbert to soccer practice, take Snotunia the lunch that she forgot when she left the house this morning, etc. Step-dad takes the whole fam damily somewhere and pays for everything, etc. But when it comes time to make decisions, you will get reminded that you are not their parent and it is not your decision to make. You get all of the responsibilities but none of the rights.

I understand people being reluctant. I've been a step-parent!

[Guido]

No but if they didn't want to be a step parent, they shouldn't have been getting involved with a single parent especially to the point of marriage consideration.

[JDAC2209199]

It depends on the person really but a child is a lot of responsibility and can be very daunting to commit to, however my view on that also is if you have the child regardless of your relationship with the mother you should strive to do right by that child as you are the reason it exists. But a child that isn't yours on the other hand I think if he loves you he'll come around to it as ultimately love is about accepting all of someone flaws and all as people can deviate but can't change without positive influence. If they do it would only be temporary as people return to themselves as soon as they lose focus off pretending to be someone they're not.

[DaveJord]

No maybe it more likely the that their reluctance will make them and even better parent because understand the deep commitment it takes to be invest in someone else child. Getting involve with a someone with children is a huge responsibility, and it should not be taken lightly.

At end of the day you need to put the child first, no descent guy wants to get involve with a women and risk hurting a the children emotionally or mentally if they are not into it for the right reasons.

[DJB72]

I love "Blended". The issue the guy has is the pain of losing his wife. It's got nothing to do with his skills as a parent. He hurt and didn't want to put his daughters through the same pain if the relationship didn't work.

The ex-husband is a deadbeat dad. He's the only dysfunctional parent in the movie. He only tries to get back with his sons' mother to stop her having a chance at happiness. That's spousal abuse 101.

[Surely]

I once dated a woman that all of the below applied. Even though she would do anything for me!
A couple of short examples that I have run into.
Your children are out of control.
They have no respect.
Sperm donor (s) were jerks and have more control over the children then you ever will.
The ex (s) tries to continually mess up your life!

[the_sinner]

No but if they’re not being reasonable for not being a step parent and they’re always just taking the easy way out without commitments and adjustments then that’s wrong.
If they have some past trauma or some genuine reluctancy that’d be fine until they’re doing something else to counter that shortcoming.

[SenileOldMan]

I think that could at least be a legitimate concern and not just an excuse. I'd think it might at least be part of the actual reason in more cases than not, so to speak.

[Kaneki05]

You can love someone with loving kids so the two things are not really related in the sense of you are saying you don't love them just cause you don't want that responsibility of kids.

[NathanDavis]

I do know a few that should really not be parents...

but that is a different story... lol

[Jamie05rhs]

No; that just means you fucked up and got pregnant with another dude before them because you were too impatient to wait for the right one. So they can see that you have poor character. Also, no one wants to raise another man's children.

[slatyb]

No, it means they are smart enough to know that relationships don’t magically just work.

[DaveToo]

No, it means they're not sure about their parenting skills. They can join the billions of us that felt the same way.

[jahaims]

That would be discussed prior to being in a relationship

[driven159]

no that means they are worried about being a good parent

[awkward_author]

Nope. It means they’re insecure about their parenting skills.

[TsAubreyKate]

I don't know man I’m crazy horny rn I sudden craving for girl urine

[Anonymous]

Sounds like he doesn't want to raise some other guy's kid. Who would have thought it

[Tstrbrainer]

Nope, it's not everyone's cup of tea to be a parent and that too for someone else's kids.


By the way, she's pretty hot in that movie

[osupv]

Not at all, parenting is different task many people freak about it... once they become parents they start adopting new role & thrive

[DiegoO]

Watch out for the guys who don't even have kids and are willing to be step dads. 🚨 Pedo alert⁉️

Better stay single until your child become 18+

[Citizenkirk]

No, it means they do love your children 🤗👍