I will answer this in parts:
1. "Ok so here's something I don't understand, why do people make such a bug deal of a guy touching a girls butt."
I cannot believe this. You are a young woman and you are asking this question? Come on, young lady!.
I mean how can a woman be ever okay with any man touching her like that? would you be okay if a random guy touched you there?
Why women don't like it is because it is highly disrespectful and inappropriate to do something like that.
The only exception and when a woman would actually love that kind of touching is if she has a lover/boyfriend and when her boyfriend touches her like that then she may love that. However this kind of touching should be done in private only and in a non- hurtful manner.
2. "If you're in a relationship should you let the guy touch your butt?"
Yes, of course she can let her boyfriend/lover touch her there but provided she doesn't mind and she loves being touched there. However if the woman doesn't like it then she should make it clear to her boyfriend and the boyfriend should stop it immediately.
3."If you're not in a relationship, should you let a guy touch your butt?"
Of course the answer would be No. I am sure no woman would like just any random guy or even their guy friends to let them touch there.
4."At what age should you let a guy touch your butt?"
Doesn't matter it is irrelevant. Not applicable.
5." Why is it such a big deal? "
I have already explained in point no#1.
6. "I'm sorry guys but I just want to know the answers to these questions."
No need to apologise for this. It is fine not to know something. I have answered your questions, hopefully it was satisfactory enough for you.
It's inappropriate (and not classy) if you're strangers, just met, or have only been on a couple dates and haven't even kissed yet. That goes both ways, although guys tend be more tolerant of inappropriate groping by females than they should be.
If you've already established physical intimacy in your relationship, then it shouldn't be a big deal. Some people won't feel comfortable with it in public, and you should be mindful of your partner's feelings in that regard. Try not to embarrass them, like going overboard with PDA at a fancy restaurant. However, other people need to mind their own business so long as you're not being obscene.
in a relationship, I don't see what's the problem in touching the butt. if he did it in public I wouldn't mind but I feel its inappropriate becuase there may be kids and some people might feel uncomfortable because of it.
if were not in a relationship but friends...i don't see what's the problem either. its a butt. its fat! you guys can pat, slap and poke it...but grabbing it its a bit too much in my opinion. if it was a stranger touching my butt id probably hit him lol
age wise...id probably be upset seeing anyone younger than college age touching butts or kissing. it upsets me to hear them curse already :/ but I know that's a bit too much to ask for so I say younger than high school is a nono :o
I think if you're in a relationship and if you're comfortable with it then yeah I don't see what's wrong with him touching your butt. My boyfriend touches my butt all the time, but I tell him not to do it in public. Too much PDA.
If you're not in a relationship and you don't mind guys touching your butt then that's your business. Someone else's opinion shouldn't matter. I think if you're old enough to date the person that's touching your butt, you're good.
Many people probably don't want to see a guy grabbing your butt. It's a sexual gesture. Just like people don't want to see anyone making out in public. I think there are just certain things that cross the "acceptable PDA" line.
I think it's a big deal only if done in public. It's kinda disrespectful for the girl, since the guy thinks she belongs to him (physically) and he is showing that to the world.
I only let guys touch my butt when we've established what kind of relationship we are having (dating or fwb). But no grabbing my butt in public. I don't like if other people do it, so I won't be that couple. Besides, I'm still a person and not a sex object. He can treat me like a doll in private, if I allow him to. But in public, I'm an independent strong woman.
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!In public it can make the girl look like property. Plus there could be kids around. Other than that, touch away.
Because anal sex is just as important as the front. You would not let a guy grab your crotch if you were not in a relationship right? Same deal.
in a relationship yes
a strange guy no.
a close friend depends on the situation.
age 16+ and the guy shouldn't be more than 2 or 3 years older than you unless you are going out with him.
There is no rule. It's up to you.
You don't ever just let a guy make physical advances on you. It is a rape waiting to happen because they believe it is just okay. I want to beat the crap out of any guy that has raped
But what if he touches (or strokes) my butt at the same date when we first kiss? I mean we hugged and held each other throughout the date, but after we kissed, I was in his arms and he touched my butt.
Do you think it's too soon? Is he after the one thing?
I think it all depends on the boundaries you have for yourself. I don't think it necessarily has to be a big deal, but some people would find it offensive. I would think a stranger doing it might be weird because even if you are fine with it, you never know what will happen if he does it to someone else without their permission. Also, say you are on a coed sports team, then it might be expected as guys do it to each other (don't ask me why) and on the team you might be seen as one of the guys.
You should decide that for your own relationship. I live in Belgium and here its openly done in public sometimes, although there are boundaries, which is good. Its dependent on your culture and personal preference in my opinion.
If it feels good, tell him, else call him off
Because those guys who do that in public are disrespectful and the girl has no self esteem.
1. No.
2. Maybe.
3. Legal Age+
4. It isn't the action but the symbolism. It is essentially equivalent to both inviting oneself into another's personal sphere without their permission which could be seen as a domineering behavior as well as a statement of sexual intent.
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