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Should I just move on?

I was posting stories about how a guy coerced me and then this guy online tried to get close to me in a friendly way then we exchanged pics and he was like OMG you’re my future wife. And he started asking me if I wanted to have this basically D/s relationship with him where he tells me what to eat and wear all the time. Now I agreed and I like being under someone but I know now that I can’t just submit to any old Joe.

So at the time he was talking about how I’m going to be his wife and he soon flew from Chicago to my state. Thinking back I’m like why would he pay for a plane ticket just to lie, pump and dump me when he can easily do the same in his own state. It’s weird.

That’s why I’m questioning what the hell was this all about?

Anyway, we were together for a few days then he flew back to Chicago. He was still talking about how I was going to go to Chicago and move in with him and get married. I started asking about like ‘so when are you going to tell your family about me’ because I didn’t realize he hadn’t… and he said he can’t tell his mom yet because she wouldn’t understand our D/s relationship. I was like ok… but I started getting annoyed because be was being “too busy” (now I know that’s a fake ass excuse), he immediately blocked me EVERYWHERE even on the website we met LOL, and that was a year ago.

What was his whole point? Why did he do all that stuff?

She won’t butt out. At first I took it as “okay, she means well”, but now I don’t know. I took a long break from dating and was fine just being single, and she says “nope, you’re 40 now and you’ve been single too long. You need a man in your life. Since you’re friends with me you’re getting a man whether you want one or not” (she loves to matchmake). I realize she has a point, so I get on Facebook dating. She saw me on the apps one day at lunchtime (we work together) and she’s telling me who to swipe right on, who to swipe left on, etc and when I didn’t swipe right on a guy she told me too, she literally took my phone out of my hand and swiped on a whole bunch of guys because I (according to her) “clearly don’t know how to pick men”. Eventually I did match with a guy who I really liked, we’ve been dating for almost a year, and she doesn’t like him. Apparently she’s got someone all picked out who she wants to fix me up with (who’s a really nice guy and financially well off but I’m not attracted to him). The guy understands and said it’s fine but she won’t stop and says “this guy’s perfect for you, and your boyfriend’s a loser. Dump him and give this other guy a chance.” (The guy is definitely loaded and my boyfriend supports himself well, but he treats me well and we make each other happy).

she’s gotten to the point where she’s literally taken my phone out of my hand and texted my boyfriend from my phone making really ridiculous demands on him (like demanding he get me a Louis Vuitton bag for my birthday which I know he can’t afford). She’s caused some bad fights between us this way.

I’ve tried telling her to butt out but she doesn’t. She’s dating a guy who is 25 years older than us and is trying to push me to date much older as well. My boyfriend is early 40’s, like me. Nothing wrong with dating older men, but if I’m happy why can’t she just butt out?

Some people like to focus on only one person at a time where other people like to date multiple people. I don’t think I see an issue with it although I would feel weird to be dating someone who is dating like 10 people and was having sex with all of them- even if we weren’t having sex that would be disgusting to me. I wouldn’t want to touch them at all like even to kiss. 🤢

I think it’s probably good for some people who need a lot of attention because if you’re just in the beginning stages of getting to know someone you don’t wanna be super all over them, but you might have.. I don’t know attention needs so in that case dating a whole bunch of people until you narrow it down to someone you really get along with and may compliment your need for attention -or whatever - that might work out well. You can just replace attention with any other thing that you might need a lot of that you can’t really dump on someone in the beginning of getting to know them.

I don’t know that I could date people at once. I think it would be really exhausting, but I could see the merit in it for other people to do that.

I’m not referring to playing people. I’m referring to the situation where everyone is above board and you know if they’re dating other people and they know if you’re dating other people and if I got to the point where you wanted to have a relationship with a particular person, then you would stop seeing other people and they would stop seeing other people.