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So I was kicked out of a group for exposing a man and people felt that I was “bitter” and called me “crazy” for speaking my truth on this man. It was a very invalidating experience.

Let me be clear on why I’m exposing him…

1. He did not respect my boundaries when it came to having sex and ended trying to use manipulation. I made it clear to him before we exchanged numbers that I wasn’t in a space to have sex or be in a relationship. He kind of wanted to know why etc and he wasn’t pushy.. but he said things he felt I NEEDED to hear… and at first I’m thinking wow maybe he is genuine and understanding. Looking back it was hard to see his “coercive behavior…” to get what he wanted and wanted to gain my trust. Even saying how can I make you feel safe

2. Subtle changes in behavior after telling him that I wanted to take things slow with him and gaslighting.. I did end up liking him and when I said that… that’s when it started taking hours for him to respond and then it went to days… only to get a “sorry really busy”…. But it kept happening and I confronted him and he tried to say that I needed to “heal”….. but it was strange behavior coming from a man who was trying to make me feel “safe” initially…

3. Disrespect… (devalue/discard) everything was cool on the date at first but then he became disrespectful and rude… he started asking when I last had sex, dildos, negging behavior and some insults.

4. Not being honest about his real name even on the date.. I asked him if “Craig” was his real name and he said yes… I get you want to protect yourself but he really did not want to tell me his name and seemed annoyed when I asked. It was very fishy

5. After the “date” i tried finding a “gf”…. Bc i felt like he was talking to someone.. he has no social media presence and keeps things private

6. He is possibly bisexual or closeted based on some things I found

I’m doing this thing now where if I have question I just ask it. It can create issues but not as much in my opinion as not asking. In the past I never asked questions bc I felt like people make assumptions on your questions which MAY be true but not asking stuff doesn’t help me at all sooooo even if I avoid giving the wrong impression by not asking - which is debatable - i still walk away with no info. So now I just ask 🤷🏻‍♀️

Anyhow, in this situation I asked why, not bc I thought he shouldn’t ask, I just wasn’t sure why he was asking it I don't know I didn’t really think about why I asked why I just asked.

And I don't know why he didn’t know 😂 or maybe he said it without thinking but he could’ve just said that. I knows I love the MONH so it wasn’t a weird thing for him to ask.

Is it strange to not know you’re asking someone if they want to do something?

we get along well he’s nice I have no problem with him. We’ve known each other for almost a year so I was caught off guard for sure…

{🥳 🙌 finally my post that was put directly into guys behavior, actually BELONGS in guys behavior.. first time this year. 🙃}