Search Results: Can I get a female perspective

Hot girl turned old woman story:
I was a former super hot chick, and now older woman. I can tell you a few things of what it is like from the other side.

When I was 25, I too was into running and lifting weights and my body was spectacular and I had six-pack abs and a naturally large chest (36F). Everywhere I went, men of all ages stared at me. It was really annoying that most didn't even try to hide it. The ones that were the worst were the creepy middle aged men who would hit on me, thinking that they could somehow fool me into going out with them.

No matter how grounded you are, you get a skewed perspective of the world. I truly believed that men were genuinely nice to women as a matter of course. I believed that most people were nice and accommodating and liked people. This was because most of my friends were hot as well, and guys were falling all over themselves to help us, so this is all I knew. I simply didn't realize that some men are deeply hostile and only nice to women they want to ****. I did not realize the weird code in society which equated beauty with importance. Such a thought never occurred to me that the world might be a different place than I had experienced.

I can tell you that men now are neither hostile or overly helpful. In fact, I feel pretty much invisible. And that, by itself, is okay. I can tell you I am equally ignored by females as well. It could be the age, or it could be a combination of old and not attractive. Who knows, except that I am no longer hawt.

There were a lot of privileges you don't realize as well, like making great money, getting preferential treatment, or being dealt with respectfully. It blew my mind to realize that everyone is not entitled to this as a matter of course, but it is reserved for those who are physically desirable.

I think the biggest shock to me was realizing that my entire worldview had been wrong FOR DECADES. That was the most shocking.

So I personally miss a lot of the good answers that older women used to give on GaG years ago. So much has changed with the demographics on the Internet and social media since then, and a post-COVID world has made people a little less human.

Once upon a time you used to see really great answers on this site from females but especially the older ones in their 40s and up that were rich and detailed with serious life perspective and experience about men. Even if you didn't always agree with their thoughts, there was always something you could get out of it. Plus I would have tons of great discussions with them in DM, and not just here but on other old dead sites too like Answerbag and ExperienceProject.

I feel like most women's answers nowadays lack that depth because many are inexperienced even if they are dating or having sex, or at least not learning about either themselves or men from those experiences. Many give answers only just to have something snarky to say that bears no real life knowledge, or their only response is to attack some guy and call him an incel, or they give literal two or three word answers. It just looks like you haven't learned a lot in life that you can offer anyone.

But what do you guys think? Who do you feel like gives the best sex/relationship advice or perspectives on GaG?