Search Results: Do men want their children to look just like them

Seems a lot of women want to defer having children till after their 20s. Is there a mismatch with men's willingness to have children?

I am curious as to how many men want to have children in their 30s or even 40s?

In the 30s/40s a guy is getting into his prime earning years. If you have children then you are looking at supporting them through to at least your early 50s but possibly late 50s or even early 60s.

Add to which you likely will be divorced by the woman after 8 years given that is the average length of marriage and 80% of divorces are initiated by women.

So Guys, do you buy the white picket fence or go shopping for expensive sports cars?

Girls, ideally when do you want to have children?

As we know, most women find the vast majority of men physically unattractive due to not being born with physical traits out of their control. These traits include, race, height, skeletal frame, early male pattern baldness, hair colour etc. We also know that women in their prime tend to hyperfocus and date the hottest and/or richest men and often use sex to try to secure a relationship. Granted, some women are smart enough to lock on an average guy, who shows high potential to be a successful earner and gets him to commit to her early.

Now, for the men who this doesn't apply to, they are basically told by women to "work on themselves", which basically means to grind and make tons of money, so when women are ready to settle down (usually by their late 20s to early 30s), they have a nice retirement plan to look forward to. Women will use the fact that this group of men are sexually/romantically inexperience, as well as, desperate to reel them into commitment. Sex starts off enthusiastic to hook the man in to the relationship. Women are also on their best behavior and guys are lead to believe that this will be the baseline more or less.

Eventually, when an average man marries a woman, another layer of security is put in place that basically ensures the man pays a hefty price if he ever leaves the woman. This is usually in the form of spousal support an/or child support. Thus, women no longer need to have sex with you, since she has you shackled to a contract that says you provide for her in or out of the relationship. Sex is used as a reward for good behavior/out of duty and not because the wife generally wants to sleep with their husband. Sometimes, women will stop sleeping with their husband all together, despite his best efforts, and men feeling neglected often seek sexual relief else where.

Example, this sex therapist is able to make 500k/year by sleeping with men whose wives have stopped sleeping with them.

Over the years I’ve seen plenty of guys (myself included) gripe about women (especially western women). To a certain extent lots of our grievances are justified considering what feminism has done to western culture.

I have and always agreed with the premise of giving opportunities to women in traditionally male dominated spheres. But as feminism evolved (or should I say devolved) it now more often enables women to be their worst vs. be their best. Usually to the expense of men too but ultimately to the unhappiness and misery of women themselves

With all the said I fully believe there is a deeply engrained evolutionary reason why women tend to be much more selfish in dating.

There was a long time in history women had to use their sexuality to their advantage for both self-preservation and protection of their children. They had fewer opportunities then men and also aren’t as physically strong hence they had to make to with what they had to survive (e. g. manipulation vía sexual attraction). This also a reason why they cared much more about a man’s wealth and prominence. It would ensure her well being and increased survival.

Nowadays in western culture most if not all that bs female manipulation is no longer necessary. Women are not only given ample opportunity to make money but encouraged and supportive via college admissions and scholarship processes. Corporations often want to hire women over men to look “diverse”. The “wage gap” is a proven myth.

Despite the equal opportunities there a DNA instincts that still influence behavior to be more picky with men and to use their sexuality for their own one way benefits.

But we got to deal with this the same way you deal with a sociopath (not saying all women are sociopaths). A sociopath at default is incapable of feeling remorse, guilt, etc. Yelling at them won’t change anything. Instead you have to interact with them carefully. Same with how to deal with women. Love them but be very careful to trust them.