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When I have a first date, it is usually a result of an online meeting through a dating site. We have each seen a few pictures of each other, exchanged a few DMs, and usually spoken on the phone once or twice (although I occasionally "meet" a woman who wants to proceed directly from DM to meeting for dinner.

She's looking at me, forming impressions, and by the end of that first date, she knows whether she wants there to be a second date. I'm doing the same thing, of course.

One of the things I look at is how she is dressed. A first date for me is almost always dinner at a very nice restaurant. I look at whether she is dressed appropriately for the place, and whether she has obviously put effort into making herself look as nice as possible. She doesn't need to be wearing the latest designer fashions to look nice and she doesn't need to have spent $100+ preparing for a date (new dress, new shoes, etc.); I just want to see that she made an effort because that tells me that she treated this occasion as important.

Do you form impressions based on how your date is dressed? How important is his or her appearance on a first date?

If you do not know what a double date is, I will explain. You and your SO invite another couple to share a date together. It could be going to a movie, dinner at a restaurant, clubbing, bar, concert, beach, etc. It does not involve any aspect of swapping partners for any purpose!

Double dating was popular when I was a teen because many parents felt that their children were safer if they were dating in groups. Therefore, parents were more likely to allow their child to go on a double date. Of course, what starts as a double date can quickly break up into two individual dates going their own directions once the parents are out of sight, but parents had themselves convinced that it was a safer alternative.

A double date can be much easier for someone who is just starting to date and lacks some self-confidence. By staying together as a group, you don't need to worry about "what if I run out of things to talk about?" or "what if he starts trying to feel my boobs?" or whatever. Sometimes, double dating is something that a slightly more experienced and compassionate friend will offer to help you get started dating.

I left home at age 16. I don't recall having any double dates in high school. I think I had one double date in college and had a few when I was married; it is a nice way for couples to get together and socialize.

What is your history with double dating?

I've been having this experience in dating that has been happening a lot and it's getting very frustrating, and I'm sure there are others here (both sexes) who have experienced it to.

You go out on a first date, maybe a blind date or an internet dating thing, everything goes good, you have a great conversation, and when you part you hug and say "Text me later!" or something like that. Then... the silence..., you text her, and nothing, you text again, and nothing, you email, and nothing, then you realized it's happened. She isn't interested in you.

I do have to say I see this happening way too much lately and it is simply disrespectful and cowardly, if you're not interested in someone after the first date, then JUST TELL THEM, why do they always just ignore you hoping that you'll get the message? And also, if you're just not feeling it on the date, why not just say so, be honest, and part ways, that's the honorable thing to do, rather than lying through your teeth and body language, giving the date the feeling that you're interested. This is just cruel, it gets a guy's hopes up, then crushes them.

I think it may be this post-1985 born generation of people growing up with stuff like the internet that lets you avoid face to face confrontation so much that you never learn how to face it. I see it a lot in girls, though, it may happen with guys too, I don't date them so I don't know, if that's the case girls, tell us here. It's true, we all don't like confrontation, especially face-to-face, but something like a text message isn't even confrontation, all you have to do is text them "Thanks for the date, but I'm not interested, sorry." Seriously girls, it's not going to hurt they guy's feelings, it's not, back me up here guys, and also tell me of your experiences with this phenomenon.

I want to know WHY you do this, and don't lie saying you've never done it, nobody's perfect, if you've done it, just say so and tell us what's going on in your head so we can understand you better, and maybe not be so hurt when you flat out ignore us after the first date. I'll put a poll up here to see how many have done it, and please be honest.

-Tell me if you have ever ignored a person after the first date instead of telling them you're not interested, and tell me why you ignored instead of telling them

-Tell me if you, as a guy or a girl, have ever had first dates where all seemed to go well but they ignored you after the first date, and how that made you feel.

Honesty, Honor, Respect, Courage, and Dignity, these are not goofy boy scout things to joke about with your friends, these are true virtues that define you as a person.