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I was always taught not to "go after guys" and to let them "come to me." In other words, don't ask guys out because they aren't interested unless they're asking you out first...

I've found that when a guy likes me he'll go out of his way to ask me small talk kind of questions... that he'll try to be near me so he can make jokes.

What about a shy guy though?

The guy I like came and sat next to me at work last night, but hardly talked to me. He kind of avoided eye contact. I tried to make small jokes, but I felt so discouraged because he wasn't making eye contact or smiling. I know he was busy, but should I feel so discouraged? I mean, he did sit next to me, but he didn't try to talk to me much. He made his presence known by talking to people around me and humming. I'm shy too, so I didn't know how to react to this!

So do shy guys go after girls the same way?

My boyfriend cuddled intimately with his female best friend a bit over two months ago. I found this out by seeing a picture his friend had taken of them and posted on snapchat, the app. In the picture, him and the girl were lying on a couch, arms wrapped around one another, facing each other. At first, I was confused and in disbelief. We fought about it, and he said he found it to be alright, and that if I did that with my best guy friend it'd be alright as well, which I disagreed with him on and I told him I'd never do that. We continued to fight for awhile and eventually ended the convo. Later that night, the girl started drama on a status of mine, making false claims and being one-sided the whole time, trying to make me look like a bad person. I was already flustered with her, and I found it ironic that she'd do that that same night. Later I found out my boyfriend had called her and read our conversation to her, so I concluded she had only done that to hurt me more and cause drama with me. People teamed up against me in support of her. Her guy friend sent me threat recordings and made fun of my health conditions. Her other friend told me I was a terrible girlfriend and my boyfriend deserved better, and even doubted me on my religious views. I gave my boyfriend one limitation, to not be with her alone-but he fought for more. So I said fine, I don't want you both alone in any homes where it is private, which was the settled limitation. The girl also posted an instagram post clearly directed towards me with hashtags like #youllneverchangeus #perseverance #yesmaam #fuckyou. There's a whole lot more to this story, but the bottom line is- this has caused people to hate me, my best friend to turn on me, and a loss of love in my relationship. PLEASE HELP ME WITH ANY INSIGHT YOU HAVE. I'd really appreciate it. P. S. It hurts me just to think about her, and how much she has been ruining my relationships with people.