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This is more of a discussion then it is a question.

I was thinking the other day. My friends and I were at a party and there’s this short (5’2), fat, red head and triple chinned. While she was nice and available, none of the guys really paid attention to her. Although boring and nice, we all talked about this later about how we felt while talking to her: “Man I just kept thinking “god I wanted to just walk away right now.”” And the general attitude was the same.

So she got rejected by her looks regardless of her personality. Now put the same personality into a hot girls body, we’d all be “wow, she is so cool, down to earth and nice.”

Big deal right? We all have seen this.

Well I was thinking about how guys get rejected. You hear girls say this all the time, “wow he’s hot but he’s such a douche / wimp.” And *whoosh, he’s rejected based on his personality. Certainly a guy’s looks plays a role but his attitude, demeanor and personality is what really makes the panties fly off.

So I was thinking to myself… who’s has the tougher cards: women getting rejected by their physical features or men rejected by their personalities?

To get more dates, women can basically have an average personality and just work on their bodies. I think its pretty straight forward, want more dates? Work on your fitness and the men will come storming around you. To gauge how much progress or how much more you need to go is a mirror away. For men it’s a little blurry.

A man, as long as he’s in the ball park, can work on his personality to be funny, charming and the billion of other things girls like as far as personality goes. But you can’t pick up confidence and measure it with a ruler nor can you measure how funny you are… Also being a male, our guy friends don’t sit around and talk about one another’s strengths and weaknesses. Maybe if the guy has female friends and he’ll ask her “hey, am I datable?” However… we’ll feel like a total dipshít afterwords.

Men reject based on the superficial level while female reject by the substance of the male. I’d say that the personality reject hurts more.

My vote is that it’s harder for males to tune themselves to get more dates.

Focus: who’s has the tougher cards: women getting rejected by their physical features or men rejected by their personalities?

2nd focus: which hurts more: Rejection by personality or physical features?