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I've been an introvert for as long as I can remember, I've always kept to myself and often view the "popular crowd" very negatively, often seeing them as nothing more than immature entitled brats who will get nowhere when their parent's money runs out.

While that is most definitely a harsh characterization, it is an experience I've had frequently with those who consider themselves extroverts. I also find that these people are often real life examples of the Dunning-Krueger effect in that they're supremely confident that they know everything while simultaneously knowing absolutely nothing, which explains why these people are so liberal and dogmatic in their viewpoints.

For these reasons, I don't think it could ever work with an extrovert, although my first girlfriend was a conservative extrovert as they apparently exist, however she ended up sorta not really cheating on me. She ghosted me after being official for 6 months and reappeared only when I begged someone who knew her for an explanation and she'd gone with someone else as she then told me.

I've become much more assertive in the past year but still remain an introvert, not liking big crowds and rarely enjoying small talk unless it's with my current girlfriend who I've been with for the past 2 years following the fiasco that my ex created above. I see most extroverts as people who simply follow the herd, not taking a single moment to question what they're being told, or not being capable of thinking for themselves. Of course that isn't true for all of them but it is in my experience for most of them.

My girlfriend has become more assertive as well, not afraid to present an opposing argument and won't nod her head simply to avoid a debate. I'm the same way and the idea of nodding my head in agreement or staying quiet when I have an opposing opinion is a crazy idea to me. Me and my girlfriend are doing great and I couldn't be happier with her☺️
Do you date introverts or extroverts?

I really love my girlfriend's personality. Its everything that I want in a partner. I've been with her for almost 2 years but for the past year or so I've found her making out and sleeping with other guys. Since she's very outgoing and nice (confused with flirty) everyone tends to end up liking her. I don’t want to leave her but she's cheated so much on me already :( can't even count how many times she has.

I think the first time she cheated was when we went to a party, got a little buzzed. She hopped on guys shoulders all throughout the party. Later that night one of the guys she was being flirty with ended up having sex. My friend yelled at me to come over in the room and stop her and so I did. I asked her what the hell she was thinking! She was very sorry and gave me the excuse of “I get so pressured into things”.

Another time I found out she was seeing another guy temporarily because she felt he needed “the help” to get back on his feet. They had sex all the time. After she quit seeing him she admitted she did like the sex but was manipulated by him into thinking it was okay. That was during a time I was on meds that lowered sexual drive.

Countless other times where she was making out with randoms and hooking up with guys in school she had crushes on. I was so disappointed we took breaks from each other. Whos knows who she slept with during the breaks. She comes back everytime saying she doesn’t want nobody else. I feel so used and betrayed by her. She was the first girl I've ever had a relationship with. So far its left a bitter sour taste in my mouth and I hate it and makes me sad. I love her though and have so many great memories (known each other for 4 years), its hard to let go.

What should I do? Resolve the issue, talk it over with her so she won't cheat no more?
Or leave her, move on and find someone who won't cheat on me?