Giving head for the first time

When it comes down to giving a guy oral sex for the first time, many girls find it almost intimidating. What are we supposed to do? Do we actually blow on it, suck on it, or...? How do we avoid it becoming painful for him?

Here are some of the most common rookie mistakes and how to avoid them:

1) No teeth. Nobody likes teeth being dragged up and down one of the most sensitive parts of their body. The fix is pretty easy. Wrap your lips inward around your teeth, like you may have done as a child when pretending to be an elderly person. Once you've done that, it'll be nearly impossible to hurt your guy at a time when he's expecting nothing but pleasure.

2) Use your tongue! Nobody likes their dick being brought in and out of a bottomless pit while no tongue is being used. Put your tongue to use in any way you can. Swirl it around the end or head of his dick. Flick at it. Think of the head as a lollipop if that works for you. Run your tongue up the underside of the shaft. You can do zig zags, swirls... anything goes as long as your tongue is actually doing something!

3) Be enthusiastic. Even if your technique is not up to par the first few times, if you look like you're actually enjoying what you're doing, your blowjob will be a lot more enjoyable than one from a girl who may have amazing technique but looks like she'd rather be anywhere but. You can show your man that you're enjoying sucking him off by being lively, trying new techniques on your own, asking him if the suction/speed/style is good, etc.. You can moan while he's in your mouth if that's your thing, initiating the blowjob on your own is great too. Once in a while, glance up at him. Can't go wrong with making a bit of eye contact!

4) Relax, don't overthink things. A lot of girls have the expectation of giving head that they'll need to bring pornstar level skills to the table, or they'll be one of those blowjob fails. That's not true at all. Deep-throating is not liked by all guys, generally is not all that physically stimualting for them and is more for the mental effect than anything else. It's also an aquired taste for both the give and the receiver. Don't worry if you can't get him to cum from oral alone. Different strokes for different folks... some guys require more stimulation to finish than any girl could provide through oral, others simply prefer to finish after sex.

Giving head for the first time

As long as you focus on the first three points, you'll be fine.

There's quite a learning curve in giving your man oral. Every guy differs in what they like best, so every few times you can add a new trick to your repertoire, get to know how he likes things done best, etc..

As your confidence in giving head grows, so will his enjoyment of it. (pun intended)

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  • Nice tips. I don't think I'll ever get over that feeling of being a slut if I follow your #3 advice :(

    • What? Enjoying giving head does not make you a slut! It makes you a heterosexual woman!

    • I know, @GirlScoutsRevenge , when I think about it I know you're right. I believe it too. I just can't help but feel that way.

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  • *Audience starts intensively applauding*

  • An excellent beginners guide ;)

  • What a great topic 👍

  • Nice read! I especially agree on the pornstar-expectations. No need to stress over it. And you have a mouth suited for communication as well. Asking simple questions like "Do you like it?" can go a long way in bettering the sex for both parties!

    • yup, nothing wrong with asking your guy to guide you from the start to make things a lot easier for both parties! This is just a rough guide after all, every guy has their own personal hotspots, preferred speed/pressure.

    • Exactly. Generally I think couples should communicate their preferences more. Before, during and maybe even after sex.

  • Enthusiasm is really important. The last girl I was with showed little enthusiasm about giving head, and adding this to the fact that she wasn't too good at it, blowjobs did nothing for me. She asked me why I never was able to cum, and if she was that bad, but I had to tell her that I have trouble cumming from a bj cause I didn't wanna say that she sucked at it (pun intended).
    If a blowjob is done well, it's awesome, but if it isn't, it's pretty boring, and by done well I don't mean being perfect, but just following this tips it should be enough.

    Anyways, great tips, it'll help many girls who don't know or are worried about their performance.

    • hahaha oh shit, if a guy says that, should it always be taken as a cop out that you're just giving him bad head then? :P

    • I can't speak for every guy, but in my case, if I don't cum from a blowjob, it's most likely cause the job isn't being done well xD

    • I think some girls do not want to behave too enthusiastically because they do not want her man thinks she is "slutty" like the porn star. I do not know whether it is true or not, just my point of view.

  • The author of this myTake gives amazing sex advice. She knows what she's talking about and god does she have a lucky boyfriend.

  • So my current boyfriend actually likes it when I use my teeth. He's the first to say that though

    • yeah i heard some guys like it and some guys don't. do you find it weird?

    • I heard the same thing.. I assume when you do use your teeth, you run them laying flat against his shaft ya?

    • Yeah. But I'm really gentle when I do that. He says that a little pain actually increases the pleasure.

  • GREAT TAKE👍👍

  • it was only a matter of time before someone actually makes a guideline for it

  • I would say this is just about perfect advice.

    • thank-you, glad you think so. :)

    • No, thank you 😀

  • I'd emphasize number 3 especially! Enthusiasm with anything sexual makes the experience quite enjoyable

  • Good job! No pun intended.

  • This was a fantastic read. I meant to comment yesterday but I recently just gave my first blow job and this literally helped me out so much. Thank u!

    • glad I could help. :)

  • It's too bad there's not one advice for guys too. I like giving as much as receiving!

    • I will make it when I get more experience

  • Very hot :)

  • More people need to be like you... thumbs up for this take

  • I am fucking turn on
    Loved all this
    Wow yummy

  • very good. post. if you dont get it the first time. keep trying lol

  • For me anything goes just no teeth. .

  • I love you.

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