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"Prostate Massage" properly done: Supercharging a HJ or BJ with anal play


What I am talking about is "prostate massage" properly done at the right time.

Supercharging a HJ or BJ with anal play.

Many guys have "gay fears" about this and others are simply uncomfortable with the thought or practice of it. But for some of us, a good session can be magnificent.

The prostate is a walnut sized gland that surrounds the urethra between the bladder and outer sphincter we use to pinch back pee. It produces seminal fluid, which is the medium that carries live semen during ejaculation. Just above and connected to it are are the seminal vesicles that store live semen arriving from the testicles and the ejaculatory ducts which force semen into the prostate, mix it with seminal fluid and expel it during ejaculation. The prostate and seminal vesicles become engorged with fluids during arousal.

My experience is that anal opening is heavily loaded with nerves and even shallow fingering adds a lot of sensation to a HJ or BJ, speeding up my orgasm. Deeper fingering combines that sensation with direct motion and pressure on the combined prostate/ejaculatory ducts/seminal vesicles, increasing the urge to ejaculate when the time is right.

Here is how she does it. Most of my BJ is pretty standard. I favor her mouth remaining up at the cap with one hand stroking my penis and the other cupping and massaging my balls. When orgasm approaches, she extends her index finger and begins to insert it into my anus. She does it in several strokes, rolling her finger side to side for both sensation and ease of insertion. At about the second knuckle, she can feel my prostate, rounded and firm. She presses her finger a little in farther so it lays on the entire prostate/ejaculatory ducts/seminal vesicle and begins in and out stroking, curling her finger on the way out and straightening it on the way in.

Each out stroke slightly compresses that area, increasing the urgency to ejaculate. When I finally do, she leaves her finger fully inserted, which makes each squirt stronger than it would be normally. When my squirts slow down toward the end, she adds pressure in rhythm of each squirt, forcing it out, which is what porn calls "prostate milking". This not only feels literally hot down there, but also gives me highly pleasurable spasms like at the start of orgasm. And she can actually press out another squirt without an ejaculation contraction. WOW!

I know that there are cleanliness issues but we are in a solo relationship so there's no disease issue and soap and water are nearby. None the less, she may want to wear a finger cot or glove to make her comfortable doing it.

I have said in posts here that if every guy who wanted this got it just once a week, there would be far fewer divorces and less marital discord and violence. Seems shallow, but I believe it.

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  • This is amazing!! I would be open to try it with a willing guy for sure

    • Get this right with a compatible guy and he will treasure you.

    • Just been doing some internet research... is it possible to make a guy ejaculate just by massaging or milking his prostate alone?

    • I think it depends how horny he is. I haven't ejaculated from prostate massage alone but getting this done alone can be satisfying in the same sense as a girl enjoying intercourse without orgasm. Add minimal hand stroking and its huuuahhh! But I think some guys can from this alone.

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  • y'all, if you feel like you are a little numb down there you should use a penis health creme that contains acetyl L carnitine. It is a protein that repairs any damaged nerve endings and restores a lot of lost feeling. I use one and it has helped me a lot. Just google them and pick one up. Cheers.

  • Please post this as a My Take so it is more widely available. This is an excellent description and prescription of prostate massage.

    • It is a my take.

  • How to approach a guy who is so insecure with his bottom, in receiving anal pleasure?
    I've met guys who truly believe that they will enjoy it, but the thought of them having something around or up their ass, scares them, even more if they like it.

    • In an ordinary situation of oral with sack massage, just straighten your index finger and start in. We like it when girls initiate adventurous things and his enthusiasm may overcome his "gay fear".

    • I like to talk over things before I do something, I'm just afraid of making it worse for him

    • Perhaps at the moment you start. Ask if he would like to receive it. His arousal will mske him more adventurous.

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  • I take sick pleasure in finding the most Macho, sports loving, typical stereotype, hetero sexual males and doing these things to them... It feels especially good when they start begging. >:D

    Sometimes its better to ask for forgiveness then permission.
    I figured. "Hell, Im a stranger anyway, and they will never see me. I bet they will only let me do this shit soley for that reason"

    But I do stop when they say stop. Im not a rapist.

    • thats me! i love it done :P

    • @evilrubberduck have you done this without touching his penis and milked him that way?

  • The best orgasm a man can have.

    I use a prostate stimulator myself but my wife is open to giving me a hand (or in this case a finger 😎).

  • The only indication of prostate massage I know is for the patient of "Benign protatic hypertrophy".

    Sorry bro, not my thing.

    • Interesting that you bring this up as I noted that I use a prostate stimulator from a company by the name of Aneros. Their first prostate stimulator was marketed as a medical device but was primarily purchased as a sex toy. Since then, Aneros has thrown in the towel and has manufactured an entire line of prostate oriented sex toys.

    • *Benign prostatic hypertrophy

  • e. e yeeeeah... no. I'm good Lol. Have to have E. T. fingers for that

  • People are really keen to stuff things into their ass ain't they lol

  • Excellent take, you are right on, when the woman gets it right, WOW :D

  • Thanks for posting this! I have been doing this for my boyfriend for the last couple years, and rimming too. I never did it to anyone before him. It drives him crazy and I like that. I was never really sure whether I should move the finger, or where exactly is the best spot, but it worked. Tell your girlfriend she is a star. :)
    Question for you : Is it normal to get poopy fingers? I was surprised that my finger comes out with poo, so I tested my own butt and it came out clean. Other than that he is extremely washed down. Anyway, no big deal.
    The sad thing is, I just broke up with him because he never even tried to please me - he won't even spend more than 30 seconds with his face between my legs, and then only every 6 months. I finally had to tell him that I was fed up. He said that I didn't please him either. Liar.

    • Poop fingers are fairly common. One way to avoid that is an enema, which some fringe dwellers have introduced to sexuality.

    • you said no poop in your butt but how does your vag smell?

    • JaysunFet - stinky vag is a good hypothesis - it did occur to me. It smells good on my fingers - i. e. the same as it did when I used to get good head back during marriage. I think some men are scared of pussies. My (ex) boyfriend is originally from a 3rd world culture. Enough said. The husband couldn't get enough down there, but it took him a long time to get used to the idea, when we were kids and so in love... 25 year relationship. I didn't know that good oral sex would be hard to find after divorce. Anyway, this is probably for another thread! sigh

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  • I get that this is supposed to feel good for guys, but I'm not keen on playing back there. I don't even want anyone touching my back door.

    • its a mental block. hygiene assurances and a good lover is what you need.

  • I got your point but I like the current intensity of my orgasms and I don't like to get my ass drilled.

  • Wow. I'm impressed that anyone had the courage to broach this subject. My hats off to all of you who responded without hiding behind anonymity, especially if you were open minded.

    I find the negative responses very interesting. “No way. . . you’re out of your mind. . . grotesque,” and so on. I wonder how many of these men desire to penetrate a woman this way. How many of these women have allowed this to be done to them. And where are all the feminists in this? Isn’t penetrating a man the ultimate act of control?

    We have porn that depicts men and women engaged in B&D, gang rape, erotic asphyxiation, penetrated by vegetables and performing with animals. . . . If you’re into seeing a woman tied up and ridden by a guy wearing goat horns, there is a site just for you.

    And you’re repulsed by a little reversed role in anal? Whatever. . .

    • so... oinoins are wrong? ok... and this is why the vagina exists...

    • TenofthePeaks: Not sure what your comment said. It was a little indecipherable. What is oinoins?

    • IKR and what's really strange is that people talk about anal sex on here like it's totally fine... I don't think people are as open minded as they act like they are. They sound like they still like traditional roles quite a lot, even if they say it doesn't matter. Form the responses on here that's obviously not true.

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  • I've never had it done, and doubt i ever would. I've not had anal sex with any of my GF's either, and honestly, the thought of it is a massive turn off. In reality, you're putting you fingers/dick into shit. how is that a turn on? its beyond me, but each to their own i suppose.

  • I let a girl try it once and admittedly maybe she didn't know what she was doing but it certainly didn't make things better. I went limp about a minute of her doing it.

    • If her finger is bent toward the back as you sometimes see in porn, it's unpleasant.

    • I don't know if I'd be willing to do it again. It was uncomfortably awkward and killed the mood. I suppose if the girl really knew what she was doing and was really wanting to do it I'd probably let her try.

  • Im not sticking my fingers up your ass... pervert.

    • Lol kisses baby

  • Your out of your fucking mind dude. No way anything is going near my ass, much less inside my ass. I don't care if it is the most amazing feeling in the world. I will stick to pitching during anal sex, I will never catch.

  • This is great, can't wait to try it out :)

  • This is a great take and everything but I'm not sticking hand up a guy's ass or even my ass. However, I'm not against putting other things up in there :) I would also like to add that the ignorance of what gay is annoys the hell out of me lol. Liking certain sexual acts does not make a guy gay. If you like getting pegged, having your ass licked or a finger up your butt by a woman and you are only attracted to women then there is nothing gay about that. I would rather someone say that they are just not open-minded rather than say something is gay so thanks for the take

    • Amen Love!

  • Tried it, not for me. No thank you.

    Though when I looked at that graph from the recent mytakes list I though the word "prostate" said "potato", so I was mildly amused.

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