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After I have your attention with my sensational headline, I will proceed with a simple disclaimer:
Since this is a sensitive topic to quite a few people, I ask you to avoid unnecessary conflict and keep criticism and discussion civil, sober and factual. A discussion is not there to determine the winner, but will only flourish when the involved sides create an exchange of opposing and challenging views.
Not all criticism and opposing opinions are offensive and criticism and opposing opinions can be phrased less offensive.
To not wait any longer and get started already:
A while ago I was browsing through the depths of the internet and stumbled across a certain statement. A statement which was in itself very simple, but for me it held great meaning.
Did you ever felt a moment of clarity? A moment where you suddenly understood something which was clouded before? I did when I read that statement. I did understand something, in a train of thoughts, just by a few words. That simple statement was the following:
“Feminism IS about helping us women achieve rights that will make us finally be recognized as being equal to men in every way.”
At the first glance this sounds like any other equality phrase we have read thousands of times. On a closer look it becomes evident what deep meaning lies in those few words. “Being equal to men” is the confession of an entire movement and their motivation. It’s the confession that feminists do feel inferior to men.
After realising it, it seems as obvious as it gets. They value their own worth on masculine attributes. For some reason they put men on a pedestal and they try to compete and fight them on their homesoil. Naturally they will have the genetical disadvantage there and as a result feel inferior and self-loathing. Vice versa it would naturally be the same outcome with men having the disadvantage and feeling inferior on womens homesoil. It is made to disappoint and end in disaster.
But why do these girls and women feel like that? Why is it mainly one gender doing it that excessively? In order to answer this and due to my liking for football (soccer for the americans), I will use an analogy on based off this sports. Most other teamsports work equally well though.
The common notion in most teamsports is that there are both offensive and defensive-minded players, and roles. Yet, in the majority of cases the world stars are the ones being considered offensive players. It’s the offense getting the most attention by being the most spectacular to watch. We pay more attention to a random goal than to a world-class tackle by a defender. We pay more attention to a meaningless dribbling on the sidelines than a good positioning to disrupt the opponents attacking. The list would go endlessly on, but that is the simple nature of things.
That doesn’t mean that defending players are of less importance. It just means they receive less attention. The very same issue happens for women in our society and in humanity as a whole. Typical male actions are just more attention gaining.
Men are the offensive and women are the defensive players of our society. As in sports we pay more attention to the offensive players. We pay more attention to what is flashy. We pay more attention to that one out of ten times that dribbling worked than we pay attention to the ten out of ten times where the defensive tackling was done successfully. We pay more attention to that one in a million billionaire than we pay attention to the loving housewife of 5 children. We pay more attention to the male president than to all those hard-working nurses out there.
Naturally that lack of attention and approval can lead to a sense of inferiority and repulsion towards ones own strengths. It is fully understandable that a woman might feel undervalued by this human approach and that feeling can easily result into wanting the same as men in hope of getting the same appreciation and attention. That is a false conclusion though. A vicious spiral going downhill.
Maybe Freud’s penis envy theory was indeed right. Not in a literal, but a metaphorical sense. The penis itself is a symbol of male strength and power. It is the active sexual organ, the one penetrating. Maybe he was right that in the life of most girls comes the realisation of feeling inferior by physical strength, but also by attention and approval of humanity as a whole.
Additionally Freud stated as well that denying the own “being without penis” will result in taking over male behaviour and (gender-)role patterns. I observed as well that this sense of inferiority can result in an overcompensation of common male stereotypes. Hypersexuality, because men only think about sex (“slutshaming”). Overly competitive behaviour, because men only compete. If violent, violent crimes by women turn out to generally be more sadistic than of men, because men are violent by nature. So on and so forth. Eventually it is distorted to the extent that these women see the actions of men in the same intensity as they practice it themselves.
In addition to the feeling of inferiority this can also lead to the denial of the possibility that men can become victims of domestic violence, rape and other such violent crimes at the hands of a woman. By seeing men as above themselves and specifically as being physically stronger, they can’t comprehend such crimes as that would let their mindset and worldview collapse.
As a result these girls and women will be drawn a lot more to feminism and other social justice causes as they see morals, emotionality and ethical arguments as part of their own homesoil. It is a sense of last resort of not feeling inferior. Admitting to lose there would therefore be a huge issue and could result in dealing the finishing blow to an already wounded, or even broken, self-worth.
The feminist fight is an act of deeply ingrained loathing for themselves. By now women have all the rights and even more than men have, yet still these feminists feel oppressed. It is a self-made problem by projecting their inner self-loathe on a certain group being made into the perpetrator. It is safe to say that they will never be satisfied, even if they had all the advantages in the world. The entire fight is a lost cause as long as it remains symptom fighting without getting to the core of the problem.
It easily explains why women get statistically more and more unhappy in the liberalising western countries. While they are fighting windmills by trying to compete more and more with men to become “equal”, they disregard their own strengths and needs of being women. It is not only resulting in feeling inferior to men, but also results in losing the connection to their own feminine self as well as the intimate and complementary bond a man and a woman can share.
How some people called it out already. Modern feminism is a hate-movement. But it is less a hate-movement towards men, but it is a hate-movement towards femininity which is projected on men being the culprit.
To finish the article with the football analogy I started above, I will translate a saying of my native language:
“The offense wins games, the defence wins championships.”
Male traits might win “games", might bring society forward at times. However, without the feminine traits, without offspring, without stability of the family and without anyone who covers the offenses back, there will be no championships to be won.
Note: This is purely based on my own personal observations out of western countries. I don’t have a degree in psychology nor sociology. What you take out of this text is entirely up to you as an individual.
Additionally I am generalising to sum up a general issue without getting into individual cases which obviously differ.
Unfortunately I cannot link websites yet. Therefore to give you a good read to the offensive/defensive player analogy I recommend you the article "The No-Stats All-Star" by Michael Lewis about the NBA player Shane Battier written for the New York Times.For the extra lazy ones (like me) google the following: "The No-Stats All-Star Michael Lewis NBA Shane Battier New York Times"
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