Why Do Girls Like Guys And Not Girls?

Why do girls like guys, and why do they not like girls?

The few paragraphs before the section with the questions are just precursors to the 4 questions I ask/talk about in here.

"Girls will give up a lot more looks - more than a guy will give up personality."


Looks and personality are both important to guys. Personality is a definite second though. It doesn’t even matter if the looks aren’t there first.

Looks and personality are both important to girls. Looks are a definite second though. They don’t even matter if the personality isn’t there first.


Important note: Girls will give up a lot more looks, than a guy will give up personality - making looks just a big plus, but not really necessary to girls. Mostly the guy just can’t be fat and ugly. You can see this by seeing hot girls with average looking, but cool guys all over the place.

I think guys wouldn’t use girls so much just for sex, if girls didn’t make things so complicated. Guys don’t know what girls want from them. Money? Muscles? Humor? Romance? Jerk? Every girl says she wants romance, but they all go after the jerks. So since guys don’t know what the heck girls want, they just get what they want – sex. Then sometimes they leave – why stick around? The girl doesn’t know what she wants and the guy already got what he wants.



Question #1 - Body

Girls sometimes say that the male body, when built with some nice toned muscle, can turn them on. This is not true though. Here's a couple reasons that prove girls don't get turned on by male bodies:

  • When a guy sees a chick in a bikini, his initial thought is dang that's hot, and he's turned on. When a girl sees a decent-looking, shirtless guy, her initial thought is - why is his shirt off?

  • George Clooney/Brad Pitt. Brad is younger, way better body, but Dot doesn't like him cause of his personality. George is older with an old man's body, but he's crazy hot.

By far, the best way to turn a girl on, is to either look into her eyes and compliment her, or gently stroke her whole body, or kiss her on the neck...basically make her feel sexy. (example: Lots of guys with average looks get hot girls. This is not rare, most guys have below-par bodies, but lots still end up with hot girls and get lovin.) So the only way they can be turning the girl on is by making her feel sexy/special/loved. Not by taking their shirt off in a sexy manner or anything.

How does this correlate to girls wanting guys?? You get horny by yourself being sexy, which makes you wanna have sex with a guy…that makes no sense. Seeing or feeling one thing makes you want something else completely different.
"The only way guys can be turning the girl on is by making her feel sexy/special/loved."


Let me tell you what it/s like for guys so you can see where I’m coming from: A guy sees a hot girl with cleavage and he gets horny and wants her. Do you see? The guy sees her and wants her. Guys can’t get turned on by seeing a cool car, having a good conversation or feeling sexy themselves. A guy needs a girl to have sex, in order to get a girl, she has to turn him on so he'll want to have sex with her.

She can’t do that by telling him he's hot, or rubbing his back, or making him feel special. Those things have nothing to do with sex.

Question #2 - Personality

Girls often say confidence, among other personality traits, turn them on. Can you just tell me how this is possible though? There are two reasons why isn't true or possible:

  • Brad Pitt really complicates things and doesn't make sense. Brad is hot and confident, but some girls still don’t like him…so obviously neither of those things really do anything for girls.

  • I don't see the correlation between getting turned on by personality and sex being such a physical act. Sex/sexy things are physical, so mental/emotional things can’t turn someone on. It’s like getting turned on by a car. As awesome and maybe sexy as a lambo is, it could never turn you on. Humans are a carnal/physical/lusty type of sexy; cars are just visual, and personalities are mental/emotional.

Question #3 - Girls

Almost every girl is at least bi-curious. Don't you think it's weird that girls can only get turned on if there's girls around (lesbians, straight couples, NOT guy-guy…)? They can get turned on by girl-girl action, by going to a strip club with their boyfriend or girlfriends, and almost all of them wonder what it would be like to kiss or have sex with a girl. Even if they claim they would never want to, they still at least wonder what its like (I really don't get this, because you ARE a girl, you KNOW what its like, but that's a different topic...)
"Can girls only connect in a loving, emotional way with guys?"
Everyone, including girls, also say that the female body is more beautiful and sexy to look at than the male body. This is obvious from the above paragraph, plus even girl’s magazines (eg. cosmo) are full of half-naked women.

So if the female body is so sexy, and seeing a girl strip, or two girls kiss can turn a girl on…what is it about the male body that is hot? It seems like nothing. Girls can get turned on by themselves and other girls, but when it comes to a guy, usually the only thing he can do is try to make her feel sexy. Which, as I’ve discussed, doesn’t make any sense.

How come more girls don’t end up becoming bi or lez? Is it really just the fact that girls can only connect in a loving, emotional way with guys?

Question #4 - Movies/jealousy

The only thing I know for sure turns girls on is love scenes in movies. I think maybe the main reason girls ever get turned on is jealousy. They see a girl making out with someone, so they want to. So because of jealousy, girls indirectly turn other girls on.
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Most Helpful Guy



  • Here's the scope with chicks.

    It goes back to the question are you born gay?

    well call Fox Mulder but here's what I know about chicks

    that prove this fellow right.

    When a girls in a relationship for the 1st time

    The question is how does the chick handle the break up?

    Some do very good and continue to date guys

    While others are so tired with men

    They have sex with women hence why single women with kids

    Are more likely to be lesbians or bisexual

    Just call it a theory

    from their 1st relationship

Most Helpful Girl

  • This is such a stupid article. Opposites attract. God made women and men different to attract, I am not saying gays/lesbians are wrong, they have their own benefits ofcourse like having similar thoughts, knowing what the other wants etc but just like a guy likes a girl, a girl likes a guy. And FYI, girls do not get turned on by seeing two girls kissing, that's guys. The female is definitely more sexy but girls are attracted to the opposite sex's body-men's. If you think 'bout it, d answer's smple.

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  • Well, almost all of human behavior and mental processes are acquired throughout the individual's life. My, and many domains', explanation for sexual orientation is directly linked to culture. There's a tribe of homosexuals in Africa. How to explain that? Because they think heterosexuality corrupts, they only allow it for reproduction. In our society, heterosexuality is what is considered normal. It really depends on enculturation. But hey, it's your article man, just stating what I think.

  • There are so many things wrong with this question!

    1 Many girls do like girls (like myself). Some of us also don't like guys.

    2 Many girls do get turned on by guy-guy action, like myself.

    3 Some girls don't get turned on by love scenes.

    Short answer is, we don't know. Anyone who pretends to know is lying or stupid. I'm waiting for the scientists. So far, they say it's biological programming, both for heterosexual girls and lesbians.

  • And so, to answer your question properly - girls like guys, not other girls, because although girls may be more attractive, we need someone to look after us more than we need someone hot.

    Obviously in today's world, the protecting and providing is in a more social/career sense, and in that regard women can provide just as well as men. (Maybe why there are lots of bi/lesbian women.) But not too long ago it was quite different, and we're still all fairly instinctual creatures.

  • In order to ensure the kid survives, women need a man who will look after them, provide for them and protect them. Looks don't really come into it. And as such, women get turned on by a man who is attracted/devoted to them - because that means he'll stick around and not just move on to impregnate the next girl. :P

    Although we live in a radically different world than we started out in, and kids don't always come into it, a LOT of our behaviour is still programmed by these instincts.

  • I think your answer lies a lot in biology and what we're instinctually programmed to look for in our mates:

    Guys seek out women who can bear them lots and lots of children - so they want someone healthy. Good genetics. The best way to tell that is through looks - and as a result guys are very visual and at the sight of an attractive, healthy woman, they get turned on.

    On the other hand, women don't require much outside imput to create a child, but then they have the matter of raising it.

  • Yeah very good

  • I know that I have asked myself, "Hey, why am I attracted to men instead of girls?" and I feel like the answer is always 'Because men have a more mysterious quality, I know how women think because well, I am one. Secondly, I want to be protected and held and the thought of a man wrapping his arms around me is more appealing than a woman doing so.'

    I guess I really don't know why, Emberly has a point, no one really knows. In my opinion, a person is born with their sexual preference.

  • Your last theory seems true. That's why the same guys always get the girls and single guys can have such a hard time getting out of the rut of being single. No womans with him so women kind determines he's not worth it while women are known to flirt with married men. Personality is more important than you might think. I like modestly dressed girls that's why I have a thing for Muslim girls right now. If I like a girl for her personality she starts looking hotter.

  • Lol I love p*nis because men have differetn features obvioulsy... I like muscles.. muscles on girls are not so attractive toned is one thing body builder. nasty plus. like sweet 17 said if women weren't programmed ot be attracted to men how would there be offspring?

  • A good looking guy with his shirt off is a turn on. Period.

    A nice car, not so much. All I think is, damn that's a nice car.

    Girls with an average guy appear too hot for the guy most often times because makeup provides enhancement.

    I certainly like guys more than girls though. I think there would be way too much drama in the relationship if girls liked girls, at least for me.

  • What you're basically saying that women are all lesbians, and shouldn't bother with men?

    I don't know where you got your information, but I definitely like it when a guy has his shirt off. :P

  • 80% of this is dead wrong. Well, at least it was entertaining to see someone say such ridiculous things. xD

  • You generalize way too much for this to be true.

    This has next to nothing to do with the world I know.

  • So, uh. You're basically telling us that every scientific experiment about these things were completely false. Are you a troll? Or just completely lacking a brain? This is the dumbest "article" I've read.. maybe ever. The most ignorant. Please tell me you were trolling. This is so horribly thought through. Really. You are an idiot. And I hate you.

  • You have to understand that for many if not most women sex has a mental and emotional, not just physical aspect to it. If I don't feel the guy is there for me, that he cares, and that he has good qualities, I can't let myself go. I may fancy him (or rather fancy the idea of him having feelings for me), but I go cold. I find my current boyfriend physically attractive though, I love his body, and I have never had a crush on a guy or had sex with him just because of his good personality.

  • I agree with the looks and personality part. Makes me indigant, that guys care a heck more for my looks and not for my brains:((((

    NO! Disagree! I'm not saying I've never been attracted to a girl, but that's very much in a bluemoon! Unless the woman is really hot, kissing is DISGUSTING! Never tried it!

    And no way that shirt part;)! Even seeing a guy's chest hair through a v-necked shirt has really turned me on at times!

  • wow that's such a steropical thing nerly everything you mentioned is the opposite to me, for one yeah I'm bi and girls can turn me on but I don't get turned on by love scenes in movies certianly not jelousy and personly I don't like eithr brad pitt or george cause I don't find either attractive, guys can't turn me on by saying I'm speical in my head that's corny, confidence is sexy for me not a turn on, there's a differnce, I don't htink why is his shirt of I think dam I wanna f*** him, most of this is crap

  • I don't think most of this is true...I couldn't get turned on by a guy whom I found physically unattractive...even if he was like a sex god or something. I could only get turned on by a dude who is attractive to me, VISUALLY, not just mentally. I'm all for sexy guys, I love watching some really hot guy-on guy action. I don't get turned on by lesbian sex, but I do admit some curiosity. This doesn't mean I would actually want more than just to kiss another girl.

  • You know nothing about women and most of this is total bullsh*t. Most women aren't bi and can DEFINATLY get turned on without any chicks around. Girls are only horny when other girls are around? That's just plain stupid. The only thing right in this whole entire article is the part about personality everything else is wrong.

  • I had a very long comment on each of your points but the comment section is so limited in the number of words it will take too long to post it all I am sorry as I thought I had a lot of good point but it would take 10 or more posts to fit it into this small space so I decided to not post the rest and see no way to erase the one I did

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