If I've learnt anything from my interaction with people is tell them what they want to hear, but be good at seeming like "you're not just telling them what they want to hear."
If you're going to feed into people's fantasies, you have to seem like you profusely share your role in their fantasy. Otherwise they feel insulted. Women operate much like this. They never want full disclosure. They think they want the truth, but they can't handle the truth. They want you to feed into their fantasies, to tell them what they want to hear.
They lie to themselves all the time and they want you to lie to them too. They tell themselves they want the truth, but that's also a lie, women want to live in a believable dream - that's the only thing that makes them happy. Reality doesn't.
Even if they can accept a lot of bullshit in the world, they still want to feel special to you, and even if that's bullshit, they want to believe that bullshit. They have a NEED to feel special to you. You cannot be completely honest with them. You can't show them your world as a man, they don't care, it gets in the way of their happiness. "More bullshit please, but don't let me know you're bullshitting me because that offends my dignity and sensibilities!"
They want you to make them work for your affection, because if you make it too easy, you're not attractive to them. So you have to hurt them. Then you have to justify after hurting them why you hurt them "I hurt you because I care so much about you, if I didn't care I would have ignored you, but the fact I care so much IS EXACTLY why I had to make you feel as I did - what it's like to momentarily lose control over yourself to another because of how you feel for them."
AND THAT CAN BE TOTAL BULLSHIT. It's twisted, but women want that. Will they admit it? No, most won't. Women won't admit a lot of the things we know to be true here. But go and field-test it yourself and see what results you get. She will think you're "a broken soul" she will want to fix you, she will feel closer to you, she will think you're a deep person. If you'd said those things without hurting her first however, she'd just think you're a pussy.
Women fall in love with men who head fuck them, despite what conventional mainstream psychology might tell you. Her words are worth very little, often nothing, her behaviours are much more telling.
They have to submit, but they don't want to submit to a loser. That momentary exclusive vulnerability is the cat nip women crave.
Strong enough to defend her from the world, but she's "so special" that you "quiver sometimes" around her.
You're strong, but her "specialness" overcomes that on occassion. She feels protected, but also invested in.
That sentiment of "I normally don't give a shit about women but you're SO SPECIAL I just lost myself for a minute there" - that's what they want. But you have to make it sound convincing like I did further up. What I just said there is the crude principle, and delivered so poorly they will see through it. Women relate to this because it's similar to how they are. They think "he's not like other men, he's similar to me, he has emotional depth."
You hurt her first, you make her cry, you give her that low. Then, without grovelling, you tell her why you did what you did. As you come from a place of power, because she's hurt and you're not (but you're pretending you are just enough to lash out at her,) by saying she influenced you to hurt her, but giving her that blame in a positive way (she's just so special, she overwhelmed you for a second there etc) it defies typical social convention and "bonds the two of you closer together." They call it hysterical bonding.
This is "Machiavellian seduction game." Yes, it is pretty fucked up. What isn't? Tingles need a rollercoaster to be maintained. It can't all be rose petals, bunnies and cuddles as much as most men would like just because it'd be easier, and it's more akin to how most men naturally love before they get jaded. Conditionless affection. You have to attach conditions to it for women to appreciate it, make them work for it. That makes tingles and tingles leads to appreciation.
Women have beta orbiters to adore them, and because these orbiters do so unreservedly, it means nothing to them. Women value danger and submission to an alpha above adoration.
If she's a snowflake to you, she knows she has your commitment. Women are insecure. All of them. They fear abandonment. That's why they are obsessed with your continued investment in them and continuously look for signs that it's still there. The naive man leaves no room for dread, so she gets bored. Women need a bit of dread to appreciate you, so give it to them. If you're going to do the whole strong paternal routine with 'em, they have to feel like you're invested in them.
Female psychology is a fucking basket case. Women are crazy, understanding the crazy doesn't change that. You can choose to exploit it, or you can nope the fuck out when you get this deep down the rabbit hole. Your call. We can't change who they are.