@RedThread and @weegin said they thought it would be interesting to learn about my transition from what I used to be (training to be a pastor, and fairly bigoted, or at least ignorant about homosexuality) to where I currently am as a bi man who is perfectly happy and content with another man. (My apologies if my thoughts seem somewhat scatterbrained, I have been up for 24 hours and am preparing for another 24 hour day so I may have to come back later and edit this if it doesn't turn out too well)
I guess let's start with my childhood and early adolescence. I grew up with my mother who is an amazing woman, but is very closeminded and ignorant. She raised me in the church as many other parents do and kept me away from dissenting opinions or views. As I grew up I became more and more fascinated by religion and science as a whole. I went to a private christian (baptist) school and frequently argued my christianity (arminianism vs. the school's view calvanism). I continued to read more and more about the Bible and study underneath the pastors at my church in an attempt to be better able to argue my point to my teachers and friends. My school taught evolution, but instead of showing how evolution fit as an explanation to life they taught all the "arguments" against it and as such I thought anyone that believed in evolution was ignorant of the faults in it. During this time (~15) I also frequently debated evolutionists and even won some and the ones I lost made me angry that I didn't know all the answers, so I began studying it even more. I also argued on this site that homosexuality was unnatural, and the like. I began being mentored by my pastor and in turn teaching a group of children at church (6th graders). The further I delved into evolution the more I was faced with the sobering idea that it might actually be true. I also grew angry with my school for lying to me. I had found out that many of the things they taught were outdated and long since proven to be illogical arguments, but our school decided to use them anyway because as youths we had no real way of hearing other opinions. I finally accepted that evolution was true at around the age of 18. At this point though I was still a Christian; however, this realization that those charged with teaching me were actually intentionally deceiving me made me begin to question EVERYTHING.
When I was a Christian I believed in a literal interpretation of the Bible, I didn't even know that there were christians that did not believe the Bible was infallible. Over time the evdence against the stories and claims of the Bible made me come to the "realization" that the God of the Bible couldn't exist. Not surprisingly this time shocked me and terrified me. During the week that I was admitting to myself that I did not believe I cried incessantly, was terrified of dying (lest I be sent to an eternity in hell), didn't eat for days at a time, and lost all sexual drive. The next year I came to the military college that I still attend. At this point in time I still denied my sexuality, and still argued the unnatural state of homosexuality. At this point I no longer believed that they were going to hell, but I thought that it was illogical, and that homosexuals were "weird" or something to that effect. Through arguing homosexuality on this site and others I began to question my own views. As I started to learn more, I threw away my old beliefs about homosexuality, because the evidence suggested that I do so. Now at this time I had started watching gay porn, but I still denied it (although I have no idea how I could.) Then last semester (6 months ago give or take), I finally admitted my attraction to the same sex to myself. I however, did not come out to anyone. Even my best friends had no clue. I did however start talking to guys on tinder (a sort of dating app.) Then my friends girlfriend came out as bi and broke up with him. They were still on good terms though, and I started talking to her through him. I was really jealous of her having the strength to be able to do something that I was too terrified to do. As I began to talk to her more I wanted to tell somebody, and I trusted her so I told her. She was incredibly accepting (obviously) and has kept my "secret" ever since. At this time I had no interest in dating anyone, but was talking to several guys and girls. I really liked one however, and he wanted me to ask him out. I was interested in trying it out so I did. At this point only two girls knew about me and I have slowly been coming out to my closest friends ever since. Thankfully most of my friends have been amazing and accepted me regardless (although some of the christian ones still tell me they think I'm going to hell).
So nowadays I'm really happy with my boyfriend and love him very much. I still am not "open" but am working on it slowly.
Haha so if you managed to stick through the whole thing thanks! If y'all have any questions feel free to ask!
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