Sexual Relationships 
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Many guys choose their friends based on how nice they are. This includes those who are female. Of those, they may even find them attractive. Indeed, more often than not, in fact around 60% of the time, they have thought about being intimate with them.
Some studies show 50-70% of guys have fantasized about sleeping with their female friends.
Fantasies are varied:
1. Receiving a mind blowing blowjob.
2. Sleeping with them.
3. Romantic dates, possibly including a future with them.
4. Passionate sex.
5. Having a short term fling or dating and then staying friends afterward.
Many guys think about receiving head from a female friend or them getting him off."
Some guys even think about romantic encounters, passionate sex afterwards, even the future with them..
When guys see their female friends and they look pretty, they often think about it that night. In fact, think about it, guys will often subconsciously pick active friends (those they stay in touch with and try to impress and actively engage) based partly on looks (and personality). That is to say, they are picking potential lovers as well.
Guys will often have sexy thoughts about her if she poses flirtily or looks hot on her FB photo.
One study found 60% of guys would like to sleep with their female friends. Another 20% wanted a threesome which involved them."
It's not uncommon for some guys to visualize female friends when watching a p ornstar or fantasizing. It's natural.
It's all normal and the only thing is really how to make those into a reallity. So bare in mind, if the guy friend is nervous and he rates you above a 6, then he likes you.
If he views her as being above a 6/10, and both he and her were single, then he would happily sleep with her if she offered.
In fact:
THERE'S NOTHING WRONG WITH BEING PASSIONATE/FLIRTY OR INTIMATE WITH A FRIEND
If both of you are single, enjoy yourselves! You can still be friends afterward. BE CLEAR ABOUT WHAT YOU WANT WHEN YOU BEGIN. Then enjoy!
Often long distance friendships can turn into fun, flirtatious interactions. If they were also about romantic encounters or flings when you meet, then all the better.
Guys and girls (who are both single) can enjoy themselves by sleeping together and still be friends.
What Girls & Guys Said
0 2I think most people understand this. Just bear in mind that some fantasies are best left as fantasies, and not every fantasy deserves a voice.
Explain?
So what you saying?
Would you bang a female friend?
I mean that there is no harm in having sexual fantasies, but there is potential harm in telling the woman that you fantasize about her. Therefore it is in almost every case best left unsaid.
Ok, is there ever a light way to do it - to convey that you think they're pretty attractive? What if they ask you how they look in a photo? Any other examples, e. g. in group or one on one dinner convo's? Texting?
Of course one can always say she looks beautiful or pretty.
So when you meet them you can say they look beautiful?
Well, I would wait until you know her and you both feel comfortable with that.
Dude, she is a female friend. I know her. We have a rapport. Just nervous to tell her she is pretty when I see her?
I like your philosophy, but IRL it just never happens. Usually she gets mad that the guy thinks that way, and they end their friendship. Many times she will be angry and think he was scheming and was never sincere in his friendship in the first place. Women just can't see their male friends as sex partners or lovers most of the time. A lot of women would be disgusted with this thought of that 60% being true, and it's just cannon-fodder for the feminazis. Lose-lose for all around, sad to say.
Yeah. How would they react if they realized you imagined having a threesome with them in it? What if a guy suddenly sees the female friend in that way or fantasizes about her? And should he compliment her or suggest she is attractive and he would if she wasn't his friend?
On that threesome... get back to me when she puts you in the hospital!!! Point two, most men do not change from a "I see her only as a friend" to "damn she's hot, how can I seduce her?" They'd know right away which it was. Women, however have been known to "un"-friendzone you, but it's rare.
On the threesome, how would they react or perceive it, would they be flattered? I guess most men yes see it right away. Thing is if she's not free and you become friends and then she is free? But you do wanna stay friends with her, potentially for life? Is it ok to fantasize and is it possible to make it happen and be friends afterward?
My take on your comments: of course some women will be flattered, and there's the rarer one who will pick out the other girl for the fun; on the other situation, that she now becomes free, my take is this: if you were really better than her SO (the last guy) , then she and you should have decided whether to "replace" him back in the past; so I think if you wait until then, it shows that you (the guy) are not as high-caliber as him, otherwise she would have left him for you - so I would not want to enter into that "seconds" situation. Either I am good enough to supplant him and you know that with firm resolve, or we should never try it.
Additionally: I have been through this, she dumped her boyfriend (my band mate in my first band) and then came to me telling me that after she was healed up from him (he was a major weirdo I guarantee!) that she though she and I could think about dating. I just couldn't do it for the same reasons I posted to you just now.
Thing is though, if you didn't know she was taken till suddenly a few weeks later? And you befriend her as you like her more than her looks. I mean you're it going to break up someone right? Then if she becomes single, is there a way to be flirty but still be friends for life? In terms of the threesome, how do you mean in terms of flattery and picking out girl?
OK if you just recently met, and there is not a long history of the "friendzone"? Sure, I think that could work. I wouldn't think there are that many men so possessive/egotistical that in that case they'd kick her out of the potential girlfriend line.
Ok, could you clarify what you mean about how they would view a threesome fantasy you had involving them? And in terms of a guy liking her.. say when he met her she wasn't free. He finds her attractive, but also likes her and becomes good friends. He thinks she is attractive as well and well.. probably would if she offered, but either way wants to be friends for life as she is really great. Is a fantasy about her normal and should he flirt a little? Would a female not also think about her guy friends occasionally? How would a guy friendzone a girl if only to make her want him more?
I will address these in reverse order: surveys presented here (not the GaG polls, but scientific ones) showed that about 60% of men could want a good friend who is a woman be a lover at some point, but women do not see that to the same levels; I read here in the past week that it is rather low, like 10-12%, but that is not a direct quote. #2: The fantasy is normal, but if the flirting went to full-on professed interest, there lies the danger - either she is ok with this being unrequited, or the friendship might be in jeopardy - no way to know which, depends on the woman. #3: (your first question) If they didn't share your level of romantic/sexual attraction, they might be grossed out by your suggestion of a threesome, and the "men are only into sex" meme might kick in, but again some (a minority?) might say they were flattered - again, no way to know, but depending entirely on that woman's opinion.
1. Yeah I see your point about men seeing woman they know as potentially more than a friend more often than the other way lol. I mean it's not just about looks, and it's not about defriending them after. Tbh it would probably make them an even closer friend having been intimate. 2. Ok, is it cos they are nice/sweet that you fantasize about them not only in a naughty way, but in a nice way (as in they're not just an object, it's a fantasy that is passionate/romantic)? Also is it cool to erm.. fap to them now and again? Why does it make you nervous when texting her? 3. In terms of the threesome fantasy, would she actually be flattered that you imagine her as sexually attractive/desirable as well as nice and you find it hot for her to be there with you? 4. How to actually convey that you think she is pretty as well as nice. You want to be friends for life. Though you are open to intimacy at some point if both single, provided you can remain friends for life well into the future?
1. It's not going to draw them nearer by your profession of feelings so late, it will do the opposite (this would be opposite to what a man would take out of this by perhaps calling her sweet, cute, thanks but no thanks, etc.) 2. NO! They just perceive you have been scheming, therefore not genuine, therefore just looking for sex. Again, it makes no difference how you really felt, it's on THEM. I have fapped to pics of women I never actually met when there was a strong chance we would, but we just didn't wind up meeting. No worries, but don't get obsessed. 3. 3some fantasy: some would, some wouldn't, that is, don't expect her to feel flattered, just because a man would feel that. 4. "pretty + nice": if you want her as a friend for life you are going to have to submerge the sexual dynamic; you can express that you feel romantic but complimenting on looks will keep it sexual, so you have to make her your friend for life or ask her about attraction to you and risk losing the friendship.
1. Even if you're not that type of guy? What if you compliment her on her looks? 2. If you had a fantasy of them, then is there a way to hint to them you had it and would there be any instance where she would be turned on or flattered? 3. With the 3some, would she be flattered and feel desirable? Or that she meets your approval in terms of sexual attraction? What would she think? 4. So can you tell her in any way that you think she is pretty, that is flirty enough to make her think about it, but not too forward so as to be coming onto her? And how to compliment a different girl who you want to come onto? Both in person and texting for each?
I already said it's too late, that they don't like compliments from platonic friends over their looks! There is a window of opportunity, and yours has passed. There is no need for you to tell them you think they look pretty! Most of them know this, and the ones who are negative about their body image, will think you are patronizing them to make them feel good, and they will not like it! Sometimes as a guy, you have to be the master spy nobody has figured out, meaning if it is a lost cause to engage the girl and flirt, you have to pretend you are indifferent. It is basic survival, and I will share why it's important. Once a roommate of mine was seriously crushing (out of his mind, actually) on this friend of his. I fell in love with her over time, but did nothing, as he had "first rights". She doesn't even have a remote clue, as I never flirted or touched her. She now has a new boyfriend (not my friend). This is life sometimes. Sorry to break the bad news.
I get that you need to convey interest. But I don't know whether it's too late if you don't tell her when you first meet her. I mean doesn't anyone like it when someone compliments them? If a guy/female tells their female/guy friend they look good, that's fun isn't it? I'm not trying to get it on, but convey I think she is pretty? As for meeting a girl in person, what do you say then to compliment her on her looks? And for the friend who is a female, what do you text her if you want to wish her well for a holiday (xmas, valentines, halloween) and how flirty can you be.. what can you say? And can you compliment her by text or in person and if so how?
"I mean doesn't anyone like it when someone compliments them?" ACTUALLY IT'S MEN WHO DON'T REALLY CARE ABOUT TIMING - like in the Shakespeare play "All's Well That Ends Well" - but women do care. IF you wait too long, it can creep them out, and, believe it or not, it might be better to pass, say nothing - I know that is not the way men feel, but it's true. "If a guy/female tells their female/guy friend they look good, that's fun isn't it?" NOT IF THE TIMING IS OFF. It is not necessary in life to tell your feelings if the net result is backfire. "convey I think she is pretty?" NOT ALWAYS. "... meeting a girl in person, what do you say then to compliment her on her looks?" STAY AWAY FROM LOOKS, believe it or not, if you waited too long. "... what do you text her if you want to wish her well for a holiday... and how flirty can you be.. " Happy ___(Fill in the blanks) "... what can you say?" Small teasing, not sexual.
Yeah good points. Ok, so when you say small teasing holiday time, can you give some examples? And meeting her, can you not say she looks good? If she shows you a picture of her, how should you handle it (in person or in text)?
OK: "Hey girl, did Santa blush when you left lipstick all over his beard when he asked you what you wanted for Christmas?" You know, too humorous to be taken on face value.
Ok... anything else for Christmas and for halloween?
OK, for Halloween: "You are the prettiest Ghoul I've ever seen." Christmas: "What color wrapping paper should I buy when I wrap you up and give you to myself?"
Any other flirty lines for a good week, Christmas, the weekend, Easter, New Years?