Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health 
I have listed 10 questions I have seen a number of times on this website. In my responses, I provide my personal opinion, view, and informative knowledge.
I hope you enjoy!
1. How do I give oral sex to my man?
The first thing you must take into account is that every man is different.
What the last one enjoyed, may be different from what your current guy likes.
So, following the same technique that your last partner may have liked can work against you
in some cases.
Even if you have no previous experience, I advise you to pay close attention to your current partner's reaction, while you are giving him oral. Your significant other's facial expressions and body movements will work as a communicator, to let you know what he enjoys and what he does not.
Generally speaking however,
- No guy finds it ideal to be scratched up by your teeth. (It is painful!)
To avoid this, project your lips out a little more.
This will allow your guy to feel mostly lips instead of teeth during the act.
- Let things flow.
Don't carry some mental notepad in your mind, of what you should do first , and what you should do next. This will allow your mind to be jumbled during the act of giving oral. This can allow you to make a lot of nerve recking mistakes. You are overthinking when you should relax and enjoy the moment.
Don't worry!
As you proceed, you will find your rhythm and flow.
It also never hurts, to verbally talk during the deed.
Ask your guy, "Do you like this?" or "What would you like me to do?"
Great sex, is all about open communciation.
How do I give oral sex to my woman?
You have to experiment with different techniques:
Like the advice I gave above, body language speaks. So pay close attention to how your lady is reacting.
The biggest mistake that I've personally witnessed men do, is that they spend a large amount of time tongue fucking and licking. Sure, that feels fantastic! But one of your focuses should also be the woman's clit. Lets not completely neglect that. This area is high in sensitivity. The feeling can be intense.
Oral sex provides a direct stimulation.
Some women find themselves able to achieve orgasms during oral, that they cannot during sex.
The feeling when oral is done right, is mind blowing!
Another mistake that I've personally witnessed during oral is,
- Men having long nails.
- Men have stubble beards.
If you are a guy with long nails, fingering while you are giving oral can be rather painful for the girl of your choice. I advise a guy, to have short nails while he is doing the deed.
Also,
Stubble beards can be rather irritating. They are scratchy and pokey. So, If you have a smooth face, or a long beard you're in the clear.
But remember:
Always ask your partner what they prefer, EVERYONE is different.
2. What do you enjoy doing when you give oral?
I love to mix my technique up.
I love to make my guy's penis extremely wet with saliva.
I love to massage my guy's balls,
while I am giving the deed of oral.
This adds to the sensation that I am giving him.
I also like to give some of my main focus on the head of the penis.
I find this to be one of the most sensitive spots.
I also love to make eye contact occasionally during giving oral,
this shows that I am enthusiastic about what I am doing.
From experience, most guys love the visual appeal.
I also moan during the act of giving oral to heighten that idea.
I also love to lick his shaft.
I have sooo much things up my sleeve, some of which I will not reveal.
Remember, there is no specific technique that is better than the other,
you have to find what works for you and your partner.
So far, I have found what works for me!
3. I am a virgin, should I lose it to a prostitute?
If prostitution is illegal in your area, I highly do not recommend this.
You are risking being in trouble with the law for sexual satisfaction.
I find purchasing sex from another person to be mentally draining after a while.
I notice, men that are unable to get laid by every day women, tend to find themselves in money trouble because they rely on the services of a prostitute to achieve sexual pleasure. Purchasing sex, can easily become addicting because it is one of your few outlets to comfort.
You are allowing yourself to rely on that "feel good feeling" at the expenses of what?
Going to a prostitute can be psychologically damaging over time, because it makes one who is vulnerable, emotionally prone to developing an addiction to prostitutes.
Lets also not forget, that prostitution can also be psycologically damaging to the person getting paid to have sex: https://www.catholiceducation.org/en/controversy/persecution/the-real-harms-of-prostitution.html
Acknowledging these facts are my efforts to spread awareness.
Please, do not misinterpret!
I am not saying this is everyone's case but better yet a very common scenario.
If you choose to proceed, just be aware of what can happen.
4. Can I get pregnant from precum?
The chances are extremely slim for this occur. If this is your major concern, it is wise to take precautions against pregnancy (any form of birth control method, such as: condom usage, pills are almost 100% effective).
If you are experiencing problem now and it has been less than 72 hours after intercourse, then there is a method of birth control that will stop the semen from fertilizing the egg, to reduce chances of pregnancy.
This medication is called Plan B.
It can be picked up at your local pharmacy.
More information about it here:
5. At what age should I lose my virginity?
There is no specific age one should lose their virginity.
Everyone mentally matures at a different rate.
When you feel you are capable of handling the emotional, physical, and mental toll sex can have then you are prepared.
- Do not lose your virginity because every one else is doing it.
- Do not lose your virginity because you are being peer-pressured to do.
Lose your virginity, on your own account.
Those that do, usually tend to be okay with the decision that they made.
I also, advise you to read up as much as you can about sex before you lose it.
They say knowledge is power. The more you have, the more likely you are to make better choices/decisions when it comes to having sex.
6. My partner is terrible at sex, should I leave?
As previously stated, sex is all about open communication.
If you really care for your partner and find that you both are sexually incompatible, then I advise you have a talk first.
It's very possible, your partner does not know what you like.
As much as we hope, our significant other is not a mind reader.
You have to communicate effectively, to let that person know exactly what your needs are.
Great sex with this person will not happen overnight.
As long as they are making an effort, this shows that they are willing to please you.
During the deed of sex (as mentioned before),
you can guide your partner by being expressive.
"Ohhhh, that feels so good".
"Ohhh, I really love that...keep doing it".
or even telling them what you want directly during the moment, does the trick.
- I gave my lover oral but they never returned the favor. Should I stop giving them that pleasure?
This has got to be the worse way to approach such a major complication. This will only cause a dispute to arise. If your lover is gladly receiving oral from you, and isn't returning the favor , you have to let them know your needs (if you have not already).
If they continue to refuse doing the deed for you:
- Maybe they dislike giving oral.
- Maybe they are adamant about trying it.
You have to decide whether this is a deal breaker for you or not.
Can you accept this? If not, find someone you are compatible with sexually.
7. Does size really matter?
There is no definite answer to that question. Everyone has a preference.
What matters to me, may not matter to the next girl.
You have to know the person you are having an intimate relationship with.
If they made no fuss about your size and seem perfectly contented with it, then there is no reason for you to condemn yourself.
Some women care more about motion in the ocean rather than the length or girth of the penis.
A tool can be rather useless, if it doesn't work effectively.
8. I am holding off on sex because I feel I am not ready, If I give my boyfriend sex will it make him stay?
Although sex is capable of further enhancing a connection between two people, It is NOT something that will keep another person around.
A person will stray whether the sex is there or not.
You see it all of the time with married/committed people cheating on their spouse.
That is nothing new!
If both parties do not see sex the same way, all types of issues will arise.
What is important to you...should also be important to your partner.
If you feel you are not ready, and are being forced, you have to ask yourself, "Is this relationship for you?"
Sex shouldn't be the glue that holds you and someone else together.
Your relationship should consist of a healthy platform of mutual respect and communication.
Sex is about BOTH people being ready.
It is about BOTh people wanting it.
If your partner cannot respect your decision to wait, then you have to re-think your entire relationship.
In the same breath,
If you're making your partner wait unreasonably long (many years +) and you are showing no indication that you want to move forward with them, you have to understand where they are coming from.
A relationship is about change and growth, not about staying at the same.
There may be underlying issues that you are not bringing to surface, that are stopping you from advancing in your relationship.
You definitely should look into that and understand why? What is the real problem here?
Being honest with yourself and your significant other, can also provide room for growth.
9. Why do I not enjoy sex?
https://www.girlsaskguys.com/sexual-behavior/a21982-six-reasons-why-sex-isn-t-fun-for-you
^This is an article written by me. It explains 6 reasons why someone is incapable of enjoying sex. Most of the time, the problem can be resolved.
Another addition, I would like to add to the list is that some people are asexual.
This means the person has no sexual desire what so ever.
Contrary to popular belief, this has nothing to do with their attraction level towards their partner.
10. Will losing my virginity hurt? Will I bleed a lot?
Whether a virginity hurts depends on the individual themselves.
- Relaxing (being at ease), allows your muscles to become untensed.
- A lot of foreplay, allows you to become wet.
This allows easier penetration and a more pleasurable experience.
Your significant other should use a lot of lube, and take his time.
Some women bleed during the lost of their virginity because their hymen is being broken.
However, not all women bleed during the act of losing their virginity because there are numerous
other things that can break a woman's hymen beforehand:
Horse back riding, masturbation, tampons, injuries etc.
Just because a girl does not bleed, does not mean she is not a virgin.
That is all folks!
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