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If you've seen me around, you know I'm kind of a big supporter of sending nudes. I don't necessarily encourage sending them, especially if you're underage, but I don't see anything wrong with it...if you know what you're doing and you're aware of what you're signing up for when you agree to send them.
A year ago someone, from here, actually, convinced me to start sending nudes. I'd never done so prior. I actually used to be against sending them, believe it or not. I started in baby steps. I showed him my boobs in a bra, then I took the bra off. Then he wanted a fully body picture...which I made him work for. He had to practically beg for weeks before I agreed to it.
Why? Not because I didn't trust him. But because I wasn't confident in myself, because literally nobody had seen my (adult) naked body except for me up until that point. And in my lack of confidence I questioned him, silently. I wondered why does he want to see my body naked? There are a plethora of other girls, a thousand times more attractive with bodies definitely more fit, toned and aesthetically pleasing than mine. Why choose me?
But this time I wasn't hesitant because of insecurity, I was suspicious. I didn't understand why he needed or wanted my face in the pictures so badly. Was my body not enough? I didn't, and honestly still don't, understand what his thought process was. I thought he could get off with just my boobs and vagina, so why does he need my face? It's just a face. This time I was convinced he had ulterior motives, so I took awhile to weigh the pros and cons.
For one thing, I would be pleasing him. I'd be giving him what he wanted. It's a personality flaw that continues to be my greatest downfall. And then on the other hand I knew there was at minimum a 60% chance of him posting the pictures somewhere, a porn site or, god forbid, sending them to someone on here for whatever reason. I feared him saving my photos, knowing he would have them stockpiled for use as leverage (a year later, I absolutely adore that he saves them).
So I went for it, obviously. My need to please him overrode my fear of them being spread around. And with time, I realized I really wasn't afraid of them being spread about. They end up on the internet? Fine. Look at all the controversy that pop stars find themselves in for the photoshoots they do? Life goes on, people I know may stumble across them one day, but after a week it'll be history.
Owning your nudes takes the negative power of them away. And when you strip the situation of fear, you realize how fun it actually is. You get to explore your body in ways you maybe haven't thought of doing before, and you get to bring someone along for that ride. Someone who, hopefully, appreciates your body and the opportunity to learn it in a setting where they're not too distracted on the task of getting their dick in the right hole.
Not to mention the satisfaction of surprising them with a picture and getting a "Holy fuck, that was hot." in return for your efforts. Perhaps I'm just addicted to being wanted, or having my ego stroked. Maybe it just gives me a cheap thrill when I'm told my photos gave a dude a hard on. Most likely, it's just the easiest form of validation that makes me continue to take them.
Whatever my reasons may be for sending nudes, I'm not saying they're everyones reasons. Nor am I trying to convince people who don't send nudes already to begin sending them. This was more of an open statement to those who currently send them and may feel queasy and uncertain about sending them, to let y'all know: own your nudes, own yourself.
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