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Why I Left Feminism

Why I left Feminism.

I left feminism because I got sick of being lied to, sick of being taken advantage of and I've grown tired of harboring the hateful ideologies that many feminist "leaders" and college professors espouse.

I've moved on from feminism and now I identify myself as an egalitarian. I grew tired of being alone, and I got sick of being attacked everytime I tried to think for myself. So if you don't want social politics to dominate your life and your every iteraction with the opposite sex, then stay away from feminism.

When I went college I jumped into the movement with a passion for social justice and a desire to belong to something bigger than the sum of it's parts. Yes, I became a manhater, a ballbuster and to me, back then, it felt good on my ego to "cut men back down to size".

However, I had very few friends outside of the movement as a result of me wearing my feminism on my sleeve, even other women wanted nothing to do with me, so I immersed myself further into my beliefs and managed to grow my social circle by hanging out with some of the older women who also self-identified as feminists and hung around on campus despite not being employed there OR being involved in academia. They were hangers on, many of them in the age 45-75 bracket who wanted to relive their glory days and a few were friends with the Gender Studies professor.

I allowed them to corrupt me. I was only 19 at the time and these were much older women, seasoned activists who could talk a good talk and win arguments against even the most hardened misogynists, they were my idols so I naturally set out to emulate them.

I would love to go into more detail about what caused me to change my mind about feminism, but I don't want to dwell on those memories but I began to be cast out of the movement like a leper when my beliefs began to evolve, I began to praising moderates like Christina Hoff Summers while respectfully disagreeing with the likes of Gloria Steinham and Andrea Dworkin and I began having positive interactions with male students who were the complete opposite of what the professors and career feminists tell you. That's why many feminist leaders want women involved in feminism to go "Sep", their religion comes into question when the real world comes into play.

My new beliefs irked many of the hardliners and the dark side of the movement began to unfold before my very eyes when a "friend" from my gender studies class actually tried to pay a male student to rape me, luckily he declined the $2000 offer and went straight to the police with a witness instead. She was prosecuted and this was during my senior year.

It wasn't until I left campus life and joined the real world that feminism's fallacy became apparent.

It's not a movement after all, it's an ideology built on misandry, lies, intimidation of other women and a belief that all women are more perfect on their worst day than men on their best. Most sane people want others to be treated fairly, which feminists claim they're all about. Yet they don't practice what they preach.

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  • I don't think society will ever recover from the huge amount of damage that feminism has done to male/female relations. Almost every man is now terrified of his own shadow. If a man can now even approach a woman at all, he is abnormally confident. And there are the hordes of single women who will never find love. And there's the regulatory-welfare state hurtling towards bankruptcy, soon without which the unemployable and unloveable feminist woman will be left destitute.

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  • Congratulations for this take! And for not letting yourself be brainwashed. You were very smart. And it must have been tough on you.

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  • I used to fully identify as a feminist as well, but now I'm more egalitarian. This doesn't mean I oppose feminism, I think it's a great movement, but I just don't think it's very necessary anymore. Men and women have all the same rights and I would even go so far as to say that the law tends to favour women in terms of divorce and custody battles.
    Many would argue that the amount of rapists that walk free is a reason why we need feminism, but they're not factoring in that rape is extremely hard to prove and just like any other legal accusation, you have to have proof in order to successfully incarcerate someone. Rape itself is very hard to get proof of because it's almost always a case of her word against his, unless you get a rape kit done or filmed the entire thing.
    The wage gap myth really grinds my gears too lol.
    Anyways, I could go on forever, but egalitarianism is the direction we should be going in. Feminism has it's merits, but I think that now that we've achieved legal equality, egalitarianism would be more helpful in bringing the two genders together rather than driving them apart.

    • Also on the rape thing there are SO MANY false rape claims that get men in jail. Someone in my area got arrested for rape because she called rape when her mom saw her with a man in bed. This happens too much.

    • by the way i dont disagree with you

    • @Kiwedin feminists are useless, they love to talk about the folse rape culture in the west, while most of them are not saying nothing about the real rape culture that muslim are bringing to the west.

      Feminists are leftists so they don't dare to speak against foreign threats and immigrants, even though their violence against women and violence in general are in hundreds percent worse then almost anything in the west. Rape in rape is a relationship is extremely hard to prove, for obvious reasons, but an rapes of hundreds of western women by muslim horde, is not something that is hard to prove, people needs to be blind or stupid to not see and/or understand something like that.

      www.frontpagemag.com/.../why-feminism-failed-colognes-women-daniel-greenfield

      https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-pHnQ6W2KkM

      https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qkzHL-xbUaw

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  • well I'm against essentialism anyhow, but it sounds like someones been feeding you crap on both sides. 'guy'. :)

  • YAAAAAAAAAAY! Welcome to the dark side. I mean light side. Shit.

    I was a feminist most of my life, too. It was also stemming from both a desire to fit in with the typical loud liberals who espouse their ultimate, unquestionable morality and intelligence; and, it was also out of a desire for social justice. Only thing is, when you have that kind of a passion, and you hear these things everywhere, then you start to believe them. Hell. Even the President has stated some incorrect things, proven incorrect by the Bureau of Justice stats, just to identify with the mob.

    And yeah. Feminist or gender studies college courses are basically Indoctrination 101. And it's coming from a professor, so you're much likely to believe them.

    There's this one woman who goes around to speak at college campuses. She has a youtube channel called Factual Feminism. She really isn't feminist, in my opinion. But if feminists were like her, I wouldn't mind them. I forget exactly what it was, but something like when she goes to a campus, they actually coddle the students somehow. As if they couldn't handle some of her claims and would have panic attacks over her saying "1 in 5 women aren't actually raped on campus" or "the wage gap doesn't' exist."

    And yeah. You're totally right, in my opinion. The true irony is that feminism is built on not only misandry, but also misogyny. The foundation of feminism is that women were the *only* group to be oppressed for thousands of years without a peep, that men had all of the power and that women had none, that. Not until a virtual eyeblink ago. Unlike all other groups of oppressed peoples, in a history littered with the broken ruins of overturned oppressive civilizations and spattered with the blood of dictators--women alone, were consistently unable to fight oppression. Is there any better argument for the innate inferiority of women? That feminism's foundation actually claims that women are inferior, stupid, and weak is tremendously ironic to me. And it's something I never saw until Karen Straughan, just a couple of years ago.

    The feminist claim is both that women are independent and intelligent and can do anything a man can do, but they're not responsible for their own actions--'cause any negative thing a woman does, she was made to do by a man. And they're super weak and stupid, so we have to protect them from animalistic men and their own stupidity. The undertone is that women are weak, inferior, and stupid. The contradictory irony of feminism.

  • Hooray for you. Sorry you feeel you have to be anonymous to avoid the male fembots and other trolls who attack any opinion like yours.

  • Welcome back to reality :) the only thing is the feminists have lots of people in key positions in government, media, and academia, as you found out. We need more people like you especially to cast light on what feminism really is, and what it is doing to society. I find it sickening that a feminist tried to hire someone to rape you, and she thought that the guy would be willing to do it. It shows you how they really feel about rape and what they really think of us men.

    Keep it up. The word must get out. I wish you werent anon so I could follow you. Just know you have sane people in the world who thank you, amd my personal thanks :)

  • Here is what I find another good explanation of feminism for those interested.

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XD65wnDGuTg

  • Finally someone who has experienced what feminism actually is !
    Wise decision to leave this hate movement !
    You've outlined everything that needs to be said about feminism and why it's a retarded ideology that spreads lies and causes societal troubles in every day life, like spreading malevolent prejudices towards men !

    I hate the entire feminism movement to the core -

  • i totally hear you're point and i'm glad you decided that you didn't want to or didn't in belief associate with the radical feminist movement. but feminism isn't about man hate, or female superiority it's about a desire for equal treatment of women to men. basically it is just genders being treated as equals

    so i'm that kind of feminist.

    what scares me is that if people held similar beliefs about the civil rights movement as we so many do about feminism where would we be? there was a radical violent arm of the American civil rights movement in the 60s and 70s. but it didn't mean that civil rights didn't have it's merit. i think the same should be (needs to be) said for feminism

    • I hate to break it to you, but the nature of feminism IS the man-hating dynamo that radiates from academia and top positions of government power. People like you who believe that feminism is just about equality -- you are just the "useful idiots," as Karl Marx put it with respect to his version of the social theories. You are there to give legitimacy to the "academics" and activists. But feminism is academically fraudulent and dishonest from the jump. What you believe about relationships in the past are historical fiction, concocted by feminists, to drive a wedge between men and women. And you'll be tempted to think it's to make women hate men, but it's really to make men hate women in the long-term.

    • @Transigence "What you believe about relationships in the past are historical fiction, concocted by feminists, to drive a wedge between men and women" how do you know what i believe? feminism is an ideology. the man hating "dynamo" is a radical sect of the larger movement. like civil rights there was a violent radical arm that contrasted MLK's peaceful approach. i'm not going to argue with someone who calls me an idiot. so that will be the end of what i say. please respect me as I have respected you and do not post more inflammatory b. s. based on your singularly subjective opinion. I very clearly outlined my belief of what feminism is FOR ME and since that's what feminism is for me that's WHAT IT IS. what you think it is, is your reality... back the hell off bro

  • Im glad you changed your perspective. I admit that i haven't done much research in the area but from what i did see of feminism. It wasn't really about making equality but instead male bashing.

    Claims that all men would rape if it were legal is just ridiculous and i couldnt even imagine myself doing such a cruel act.

    I think these radical feminists are just hiding behind a false banner of equality when in fact it isn't.

  • Now you have see the feminism for what it's truly is, an corrupt and hateful organization.

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=n1oYtp1iO7Ahttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kdA6mlNN6C0

    • This right here is called the anti-feminist people. They are the opposite of a feminist but just as annoying. They just attack woman who talks about any rights and attack women in general. Observe how you say you are not feminist and he has already gave you his anti-feminist material. #donotbeanantifeminist p. s. i am not a feminist.

    • No, we simply love to counter the feminists bullshit, which mainly comes from the feminists themselves, but some times it might come from women who get brandished and/or deceived by some false feminist beliefs. The ex-feminist writer had already shown signs of anti-feminism, just look at the picture that she choose to for her story. There is no much point in complaining about rights, while women are having them already, for many years, even rich feminists are complaining, only to try and get even more money and attention.

      https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tCjIYih0lMk

  • I didn't realize feminism is a club😂

  • Some interesting thoughts in there, but I can't help thinking you're a guy!

  • i have said it earlier in some comments and i will say it again.
    DON'T LET YOUR CONCEPTS LOSE IT'S CLARITY
    when you were a man hater you were not a feminist, you were a man hater. whatever the world says, hating a man doesn't make you a feminist, as feminism is about loving women and i don't think people who hate men will automatically start loving women, i don't know what you think, but hating men and loving women have no common relationship whatsoever. their are many fake feminists who have ruined the names of those people who have really worked their blood off to build a positive relationship between men and women. the picture u posted above, that is not what a feminist looks like, that is what a feminazi looks like and they are NOT THE SAME.

  • Groups that don't have extremists. Hindus, Buddhists, Shintos. This is because their ideologies aren't extreme. They believe in balance and equality, and the like. You're never going to hear about a Buddhist causing trouble, or a Hindu suicide bomber

    • This is so true! To me there is nothing worse than extremist POVs. Nothing every gets solved with this way of thinking. Balance and shades of gray. And if one disagrees with someone else... why is this a bad thing? Let's respect each other.

    • @AidaRoma I don't think there's anything wrong with disagreeing with someone else. I'm just making the point that people who don't have biased beliefs for one side or the other to begin with don't become extremists lol

    • Oh, you misunderstood my point. The disagreeing part was part of my statement about harmony and balance. It wasn't directed at you. I totally agree with your point. :)

  • You done?
    Congrats. Nobody cares
    Just because you met a few radical ones does not give you the right to brand the whole movement as lies and misandry. And if you were scared of what people were going to say and criticise you why did you join it? It isn't for the weak minded. If you thought people were going to treat you very nicely then sorry welcome to REALITY. Feminism has many valid arguments and just because you want to get through life without any criticism ( which is impossible kid) does not mean you will say any BS.

    • Feminism is lies and misandry, kid. Isn't for the weak-minded? It certainly is for the stubborn and closed-minded. Most aren't. I can usually talk the majority of them off the ledge and into more centrist positions. Also, your last sentence-esque thing you wrote literally does not make sense. I think you meant two separate ideas: 1) "Feminism has many valid arguments." and 2) "Just because you want to get through life without and criticism does not mean you [won't] say any BS." I agree that the reality is that not everyone will treat you nicely. However, when people you trust turn on you, it's not unreasonable to no longer trust them.

    • Excuse me Grandpa if you want to be in your Middle Ages. By law everyone has a right to dissent and as J. S Mill said any society that completely suppresses ideas runs the risk of losing what might turn out to be very important information. Do you think when Elizabeth Stanton and Lucretia and other feminist leaders demanded the right to vote they were considered very honourable? They were cast out of polite society and thought of as retards. But if it weren't for them most of women would be making sandwiches and popping babies, that's it. So try being open minded instead of its all "lies and misandry" hahahah you haven't see the misogyny on GAG. One guy here said his wife can only go to the gynaecologist under his supervision like wtf? And many women haters like him are very much active here I get daily hate from online Men Against Feminism groups and I do not give two flying fucks if anything it makes me more determined. And I believe in equal rights and if I see any girl making BS

    • And giving feminists a bad name I immediately call her out. I support both men and women and just because a few berserk women have taken center stage doesn't mean we all are like that! Are all muslims terrorists even though almost all terrorists are muslim? Yes sire it means just because she's scared of being criticised for being a feminist doesn't mean she will just say BS about us. Got it?

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  • Based on my experiences I am somewhat in agreement with only 10, 18 and 21. Girls who are promiscuous hang with other girls who are. I can point them out because somehow how they act looks like they have penis swirling their heads like those cartoon chirping birds. Also women who’s constant claim to fame is who she knows, specifically bouncers and DJs, usually means she’s hooked up with them. Lastly, Daddy issues, this is a given. If they have issues with Pops you are sure they have been trying to resolve it with as many dicks as possible.
    The rest of the list is garbage in my opinion.

    • Wrong take?

    • @Transigence haha yeah... how did that happen? oh well =)

    • It happened because you have 3 browser containers each with 25 tabs open. Get dominion over your shit, brother :)

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  • Paid to rape? I'm surprised people do that.

    • I'm not surprised politically activated feminists would do that. Unless you are knee-deep in sexual politics, you would never believe what depths they will sink to.

    • @Transigence It's kinda hypocritical though. I mean, they claim there's a rape culture, and they more actively attempt to enforce it than any other person ever o-o

    • All of their theories are objective-driven propaganda, and always have been (or are derived from it). But they are seriously just pulling shit out of their ass these days.

  • I'm glad that you kept your ability to think for yourself and didn't become brainwashed. Many people get sucked into movements like this and never get out. It is also interesting to me to get a first hand account of someone on the inside of feminism. I have watched some of Christina Hoff Summers speeches and youtube videos. I am very sceptical of the AEI whe it comes to other things but what she said about gender issues seemed reasonable and factual to me. I hope you can use this as a growing experience and be happy and successful good luck :).

  • How can you hate feminism? You should hate feminist extremist, like their are LGBT extremist, religious extremist. progressive extremist. You hate something that literally made it so you can be comfortable now. You hate feminist? lets go back 60 to 70 years , trust me you would have wanted feminist on your side.

    • Things change, and feminism change. Democrats supported slavery back in the day, now they are the ones that support minorities the most. Republicans wanted to abolish slavery (Lincoln was a Republican), but now it seems that they wanna make things harder for minorities. Things change, and even though they did good once, doesn't mean they're still good today. If today's feminism was like the one in the 60's-70's, I would supported, but it's not like that anymore.

    • @AleDeEurope things change , yea. Doesn't mean what a group stood for has changed. To say that is ridiculous like I said their are extremist in all groups if you don't understand that then I'm sorry, Democrats in their own right still stands for slavery, they are " progressive" yet support using social structures to identify people likerace religion, gender. all of theses things where used to hold people back , still do if your progressive you would stop using a social structure

    • That's like saying "Only some KKK members are bad people. Just because some of them think black people should hang doesn't mean all of them do" Do yourself a favor and get yourself away from a hurtful label.

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  • Excellent myTake. You went through the process of seeing first hand what radical, angry feminism is all about and came out the other side. I admire you very much for writing this.

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