I'm just gonna be straight and to-the-point here: when we guys are being upset and start talking on and on about how we think it's so much easier for chicks to get a date, get sex, how they're more attractive, "have more options," etc., we're really just feeding their egos. We strategically think pouting about it will make females apologize for these advantages we think they have, when in reality they're really just eating it up when we're letting it bother us. We foolishly entertain it and validate it for them.
Women know that a lot of guys think they're struggling and "have to work" to appeal to women, and women are getting off on it. And especially when guys today want the girl to approach them first and all that stuff, they don't realize it but they're entertaining girls' egos, because these guys are basically crossing their arms and pouting: "Fine. Nothing I do works, so I'll just let her pick me instead." Females enjoy how these guys are upset at being rejected or unable to get a date, and we keep entertaining it by crying about it. It just tells them that they have the power.
Also, when a bunch of guys are all after one woman, that definitely lights up her ego - more than one woman has outright said they do love being desired by multiple men. So when there are "desperate" guys out there trying to get the girl, it really just entertains her ego and encourages her to "play hard to get" more and more, and gives her a power to "choose." Just think about it: if 10 guys are all openly and anxiously after the same woman, that gives her a sense of control over the situation, and she's really just having a ball with it. Those guys are giving her the power to pick which one and hide it from the other. And this is blowing her head up like crazy. And when you're disappointed that she didn't pick you she's getting off on that too.
So when we're crying and talking about all these options they have, how much better looking women are, getting rejected, and yada yada, we only entertain them. Guys are saying, "It's hard to get a girl/It's hard to get laid," and females are basically going, "Yep, that's right, it is hard to win us over. Keep believing it, and here's what you need to do/understand to win us over....." They take our complaints of struggling in attracting women or getting a date, and build on it, wanting guys to work harder and harder to appeal to them. Basically the way they see it is: guys feel lost or like they have to give an arm and a leg to get a girl, so they can capitalize on that by trying to have all the power, by making guys think: "If you want me, this is what you have to do."
Women and the media have built up gawdy and pretentious images of their character with the "standards" philosophy, all the talk of how "complex" and "mysterious" women are, and how "picky" they are, so it's got guys feeling like they have to climb mile-high ladders to appeal to women and feeling hopeless about getting the girl. In turn, women are seeing this and enjoying how torn up guys are about it. And all those gawdy pretentious images about their character just encourage them to have more "high expectations" that men "need to understand" in order to get the girl. It's a joke that guys are letting themselves be played at.
And honestly? All women's talk of standards and high expectations is bullshit. A woman will date a guy of low-value character if money is involved, or even if he uses his penis really well. And if they really had that many standards they wouldn't keep getting into so many bad relationships, and instead of looking at any lack in their own character and emotional development they'd rather just blame guys. But the media sides with them and tells them what they want to hear instead, that the problem is with guys, not girls.
So what can guys do about all this?
Stop going on and on about women have more options this, it's so hard to get a date that, girls can do this and guys can't, guys get rejected, etc. Stop feeling sorry for yourself and giving yourself over to their egos. Do you notice how females don't show guys attention like guys can show them? This is because females don't want to ever give up any attention on them just to give it, and they see it as weakness to show open interest or attraction to guys. And in the same way by us talking about how we have to work to appeal to women and be more attractive, we give a different kind of attention that they enjoy.
So if you stop making it as if women have all these advantages in the "playing field," they might begin to humble themselves, and you might start having more confidence.