I know this will sound strange but this my take about my take. Actually, it is about the reaction to my take. Long story short: I have had a severe retroactive jealousy problem for one year and a half. I wrote a question here about it. In the process of finding a way out of this I’ve come across a lot of stuff in the internet. I noticed something annoying among the usual replies to people in the same situation as me. The “you have to accept her as she is” idea was the most popular answer. As I thought that’s totally wrong I wrote a myTake explaining that if you are in a situation were you can’t get over your girlfriend’s sexual past you have an option. You can quit and get yourself a girlfriend without a sexual past, or at least not too much of it.
It looks like that blowed up some minds and they freaked out about it. You can see in the comments there how many people insulted me. But isn’t it true that you can choose your girlfriend having your own criteria? Let’s see. You meet someone you find fairly attractive physically. You get to know each other and then you realize this person is totally opposite to you regarding politics. Every talk ends up in an argument about it. Eventually you stop seeing this person. Isn’t it natural? Of course it is because even when you look for someone different from you, at some point you need some compatibility degree. Or to put it the other way around, you can’t have a partner if you two are incompatible.
If you go back to myTake you will be surprised to find out that there’s a lot of people there trying in vain to sustain the idea that “you can’t look for a girl who is virgin”. As ridiculous as it looks. They believe you can choose to date blonde girls only. You can go for bounty girls only, or emo girls only. But you can’t ever think of choosing virgin girls only. Because it is somehow forbidden. Don’t tell me, I’ve nothing to do with that crazy idea. There is several theories according to the comments there. Let alone the messages containing some sort of insult and nothing else.
One theory says that you can’t choose to date only virgins if you are 30 years old because 99% of girls at that age aren’t virgin anymore. Let me say that I doubt about that number. Even when the comments weren’t that precise the basic concept behind them was that it is way too difficult to find a 30 years old virgin girl. Even if that was true, how do you deduce you are not allowed to do it from that assumption. That would be like saying people can’t play lottery because chances are they will never win. Needless to say it’s way more easy to find a thirty years old virgin than winning the lottery.
Another theory holds that only a virgin guy is allowed to choose virgin girls for dating. Or more in general only virgins should get virgins. This one is amazing. Can you imagine that? You know where that comes from, sure you do: poor dates poor, rich dates rich, white dates white and so on. And then those people called me archaic. Give me a break.
There is one theory affirming that if you want to date a virgin then you don’t care about anything else except that. Like if I were to date a serial killer girl, knowing she is a killer because she is a virgin. Do they read their comments before submitting them?
This one has to be quoted “if you only want a non-virgin girl, that's up to you. Everyone else is just entitled to call you an asshole for that if they want to”. Like, “I’m sorry but we will have to stone you to death because you committed adultery”. Is it written in the Bible?
I could keep going identifying other attitudes from these user that I find pretty aggressive. But the point is just a few of the commenters went on disagreeing in a civilized manner. You can barely find a couple of them which made a rational argument, explaining why they don’t agree with me. That’s sad.
If a guy wants to date virgin, he is not looking for underage girl. That comes from the minds of whom made those horrible comments. He is not saying that non-virgin girls are “sluts” nor “used goods”. He isn’t telling other guys that they shouldn’t date non-virgins. He is only having a preference which has no more or less value than any other preference. Do you think a guy choosing blonde girls to date is insulting brunettes? Where are the rules that tell us which preferences are allowed and which aren’t written anyway? Everyone have preferences. Everyone choose not to date certain people. And they do that for the reasons they think are worth. Which implies that the guys and girls from the comments I mentioned are hypocritical.