I am a man, I have never cheated.
The majority question this, struggling to accept the concept of a man being faithful.
The scutterbug ruminating through 21-century circles underpins the cynicism, portraying man as having an egocentric, have our cake while eating it mindset. Loving having a woman dedicated to us 24/7 while we still sow our wild oats. Justifying our actions by embracing the cliche 'variety is the spice of life' as a means to maintain the interest in our relationships.
Faithfulness always an ideal, never a reality meaning monogamy is found in the mystery section of every males library. Superficial reasoning leading to convenient pigeonholing with this inevitable label:
'All men are cheats...'
The sense of 'right' or 'wrong' as part of a males makeup never entering new age considerations with the moniker omitting a full understanding of the males mindset.
To a large degree we are governed by our 'other head', but only a few allows it to lead to an act of self-betrayal. One where you could just choose to be single and bed as many women you want, rather than be attached and run the risk of the stress that goes with the act.
The other side is what commitment truly means to us. Using my example; I lived a youth of promiscuity followed by getting married at 19 and only having eyes for one. I can barely remember many of the women I slept with, but I toss and turn every night craving my ex-wife near. There is a pleasure in promiscuity but also a seeming loneliness that behind closed doors strips you bare leaving a gnawing legacy.
When you are with a woman in a relationship that you adore, the sense of completeness is palpable. On an intimate level, it is all about her and the yearn for the oneness of the body to compliment the feeling you worship in the union of heart, mind, and being.
There is never any need, or desire for 'extracurricular activities.'
If the feeling dims and the sands of time run out on what you were sharing, cheating never enters the equation. With respect for self, as well as your partner occupying front row, and centre in communicating and trying to bridge differences or thanking for the memories, and leaving.