Sex in Porn Compared to Sex in Real-life

kaylaS91

If you view scenes from porn as how you’ll expect sex to be in real life, prepare for a rude awakening. Well, rude depending on how seriously you and your partner prefer to go about monkey business.

Sex in Porn Compared to Sex in Real-life.

1. LET'S NOT TAKE OURSELVES TOO SERIOUSLY, HERE...

In real-life life, there’s going to be a cacophony of various sounds from time to time. Be it ball-slapping or the girl’s juices making their presence known on each thrust, or the more dreaded potential for queefs (…not that there’s anything wrong with them in the first place). Believe it or not, but it’s also not unheard of for one or both partners to get an elbow/knee to the face during position changes. The latter of which often result in embarrassment for the female but

Porn? There’ll be occasional ball-slapping thrown in but other than that, it looks/sounds pretty picture-perfect overall. No bed-creaking or queef, in addition to which the guy’s dick will just know where to go. No time will be wasted poking around in search of that forbidden fruit..

All this soft touching is boring! Real grown-up women only have an orgasm by going from 0 to full penetration! Now fuck the shit out of me even though I am not properly lubricated and am also not that turned on by you personally, because that feels great!"

2. MONKEY BUSINESS WHEREVER YOU PLEASE

You’re at work, be it in the office or even doing construction work? Not a problem. Limitations are nonexistent in porn. Get as frisky as you place, and hell- maybe your boss will even join in.

Real life? You’ll get slapped with a charge for public indecency and more than likely lose your job.

Sex in Porn Compared to Sex in Real-life

3. LOVE-MAKING OR TORTURE CHAMBER?

It’s almost a guarantee that if anyone were to be in an apartment right next to where porn is being shot, they’d have pretty legitimate reasons to assume that someone’s being murdered in the room next door whatwith all the shrieking going on.

Sex in real life? A much quieter activity. In my own experience, the only sounds you might hear will be a little bit of dirty talk every so often. Occasional moans if they hit the spot just right, but not surpassing a volume so high that you’ll wonder if the neighbor’s heard.

4. PICTURE-PERFECT EVERY GODDAMN TIME

In porn, everyone seems primed and ready, physically speaking, at any particular time. End of the day and still at the office? Doesn’t matter that the porn-stars are supposedly caught in the middle of breakfast, or working on their morning coffee. In the land of porn, coffee-bloat doesn’t exist. Conveniently enough, the girl also got a bikini wax just last night.

"Women don't have hair anywhere except their head, and I guess their eyebrows! Also, we don't go to the bathroom, and when we cough, tiny fairies jump out of our mouths and toss glitter in your eye!"

Whereas in real life, you might be working with a 2+ day stubble down below in addition to dealing with a food baby masking your otherwise decently defined abs/waist. I remember that back in the day, after I’d first gotten with my boyfriend, I’d often even take a raincheck on sex till the next day as I hadn’t tended to any unwanted hair down below for longer than usual.

Sex in Porn Compared to Sex in Real-life

5. EVERYONE KNOWS WHAT'S UP

In porn, knowing how to give the perfect blowjob seems to be an innate skill possessed by all. Which includes making sure to hit all the right spots with full enthusiasm, and never leaving the family jewels feeling left out. Which is by all means, fine and of course true for some women (myself included.)

Let’s not forget, though, the amount of time spent finding out how to suck a dick just right. Whether that be browsing Yahoo! Answers, GaG, reddit, or… I don’t know, just asking your own boyfriend to give you a bit of guidance?

"Is this working? It seems like it is. Do I need to do something with the balls? I should maybe ask Yahoo! Answers, since they are clearly the authority on everything. Man, this is taking awhile. It will be awesome when I can breathe again."

6. HAPPY ENDINGS FOR EVERYONE

Another thing that you can almost guarantee to get in most porn clips is that each participant will reach orgasm. At least once.

Reaching the ‘finish line’ may be reality for some couples once in a while. However, if you base your expectations of what you’ll experience with your partner in real life off of that, prepare to be disappointed. Unlike in porn, your partner won’t always know what spot to hit at exactly the right time with just the right amount of pressure to get you to cum nearly instantly.

With real life comes stress, fatigue, and other such stressors that can oftentimes put a damper on funky time. In other words, he may be able to get it up or she’ll agree to go along with things for the benefit of the other. You may simply go through the motions or toe the line forever, without being able to go fully over the edge. One’s mental state plays a very large role in sexual pleasure, making the idea that sometimes, try as you might, it’s just not going to happen that night.

Sex in Porn Compared to Sex in Real-life


In short, the way sex is depicted to be like in porn differs quite a bit from how it generally goes down in real life. I wouldn’t say it’s any better, though. For me, the messy and not so graceful moments during sex can make the moment even more specific. Sure, porn can provide a sex session that’s seamlessly edited, no poking around. Getting straight to business, not having to worry about anything embarrassing or shame-inducing happening, while looking straight out of a movie.

However, to be able to have minimal concern about how you might get an accidental elbow to the stomach or wherever, with the occasional queef, and to follow that up with a kiss, knowing they’re yours?

That’s what I’d call true love.

Sex in Porn Compared to Sex in Real-life

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Most Helpful Guy

  • Chief16
    Simple really.
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    People want the easy way out. Making love takes time, affections ought to build up, you've to court partner, you need to connect emotionally and then when you're ready to drop your guard and give everything you got. Sex is amazing. That's the reason I quit porn.
    1) There's no embracing or rarely any kissing of any sort.
    2) They only show the genitals.
    3) Most of porn show male absolutely dominating the woman.
    4) Child porn, dude. Sick, sick stuff.
    5) Its good for some forlorn fantasy once in a while. To see how the grass is greener on the side.
    6) Porn is never ever gonna beat pure dirty sex. Its one off those rare acts in life where you get a win win if you do it right. Nothing is more gratifying than keeping yourself happy by keeping your partner happy.
    Is this still revelant?
    • kaylaS91

      exactly, you're pretty spot on with that much more concise version of mytake. Which also pretty much sums up why I've never been into casual sex.

      Way too much pleasure on the solely surface level, lacking any of the additional pleasure and satisfaction that comes when you pair the physical pleasure with the emotional sort.

    • I don't "love love" any of my partners and yet we still like emotional, woman dominating me (sometimes), dirty, sex.

    • You don't have to be in love to have great sex.

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  • rescuemyheart
    Sex is a lot hotter with all its little flaws. It gives the human element and its much hotter to fuck a person than in object (which is how pornstars come off, being overly polished).

    The little vulnerabilities and imperfections are apart of connecting with another human being you care about and learning about a side if them that isn't generally seen. At least thats sex, for me
    Is this still revelant?

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  • pavlove
    you missed some:
    -in porn people tend to have sex in positions that look good to someone watching instead of most stimulating to the partner or person giving
    -size is exaggerated in porn
    -almost every persons body part is exaggerated and perfect. there are never any variations in vaginas for instance which led to a sharp spike in labiaplastys at the advent of free porn
    -guys can seemingly go full erection without coming for over an hour and a half
    -probably a lot more
    • kaylaS91

      well of course I'm not going to cover ALL the differences in a single take. I did mention the last 2 though.

    • I think the "positions" one is likely the biggest difference... in porn they make something look ideal but to actually do them may not work very well or be comfortable at all. And yeah the way vaginas look too. And it just seems extremely emotionless which is usually unrealistic.

  • Joc4Position
    “All this soft touching is boring! Real grown-up women only have an orgasm by going from 0 to full penetration! Now fuck the shit out of me even though I am not properly lubricated and am also not that turned on by you personally, because that feels great!"

    -Nobody

    Like really who thinks like that? I hope nobody XD. Though I will say there are plenty of females out there who are into rough 0 to 100 penetration with no lube.

    Yeah in porn they take at least an hour to “prep” everybody up. They’ll fix the pornstar’s makeup. Make sure the guy has all his drug injections and is shaved. Make sure the pornstar is shaved. They even literally take showers before they shoot. They try to look as clean as possible. You mentioned hair I know that a lot of females have little bristles of hair on their arms. There are certain Latinas who can have somewhat hairy arms. Not in porn though. That shit gotta go. No 5 o’clock shadows for the guys. I’m actually okay with all that really though. I mean I understand why they’d do all that. It is vastly different than real life though.

    Although I try to take a shower and be clean before I have sex. Meaning no shadow. No hair around the private area. In some cases though I might not be like that. I mean at the end of the day I think of it this way… we’re going to get sweaty. That’s going to happen. In porn they take breaks and get wiped off and shit. In real life they don’t.

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    No kidding. They’ll fuck anywhere in porn. Just like walk down the street (porn logic) see a random chick “Hey you look nice. Let’s fuck.” The chick’s like “Okay.” LMAO! They shouldn’t even have storylines. Who watches that part anyway?

    With that said I have had public sex before, and it was at her workplace. I know other people who have done it in public. Public sex does happen. Still it’s very very risky, and it isn’t like in porn where it’s the boss you’re having sex with like in the office or something.
    • farm4.static.flickr.com/.../...9435_d149c6e485.jpg
      I actually hate the cameras in porn. They do this wide angle shit that pisses me off. Her ass ain't that damn big. His dick ain't that damn big. Hell that ROOM ain't that damn big. It ticks me off because everything on those cameras look massive. It kind of ruins it for me. It takes ever more realism out of it.
      I remember us talking about sex being relatively quiet. It depends on the partners, but generally it’s true. Actors in porn are told to be loud and onoxious. To over exaggerate. To holler and scream at the top of their lungs. Some partners may do that in real life. I’m sure some purposefully make noises so that the people next door can hear them. There will be noises from bodies clashes. There will be moans, some talking, and yes maybe even screams. There might even be some sound from girls giving sloppy bjs or choking (many people are into that). In any case generally sex is no where near as loud as in porn.

    • Actually in porn I have heard queefs. Maybe it is rare though. Ball slapping I hear a lot in porn. I think the bed creaking is about 50/50. Most of the time the beds they use are high quality beds, and I imagine that may be why the beds don’t creak as much. Of course positioning is very very smooth in porn. That’s how it’s supposed to be. Switching from one position to another. In a lot of cases they don’t even show the switch. They just go right to the finished project where all they have to do is put the dick in… in which they’ve probably already practiced off camera so that way it’ll go in smoothly. There are moments where the dick will come out and they’ll put it back in. I’ve noticed that if the dick keeps coming out the girl will switch to a bj and then they’ll go back to intercourse.

    • I guess this keeps “the stroke” so to speak going. In porn they don’t want anything to look like they are setting up. You know like a play. In a play they don’t show you them changing scenes. They usually have a big ass curtain they are behind.

      As far as happy endings people have to realize that even in porn a lot of those guys can’t cum. I know I know you’re saying “What the fuck are you talking about?” What I mean is that they can’t just cum. They struggle to cum. In porn they have fluffers who are people off camera who do things unscripted to try to get the guy to cum. Given the fact that the male pornstar may be with a girl he doesn’t like. Maybe he’s hard from the drugs but not actually turned on. There are many possible reasons.

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  • LaurenGrace
    Real life sex is much better and a lot more intimate and even much dirtier/kinkier if you let youself be free to your desires. You dont have to follow a certain format there's really no lmits to what you and your partner/s can do together and its speacal to you
  • FakeName123
    https://i.imgur.com/VCwXOn7.jpg

    All those words summed up in a single picture.
  • matheus_mb
    That's why the only porn I watch is the one recorded with amateur cameras by common people. You see real things and not something made by the industry to show you something that ain't real.
    • kaylaS91

      Very true. Shame that for most videos like that, there's generally quite a compromise in terms of video/audio quality. :/

    • matheus_mb

      Yeah, unfortunately there is. But I think that the pros of his kind of porn overcome those issues.

  • Spiorad_Aisce
    Good take - Successful editing - At 5.02 girl loosens her hair in a passionate frenzy - At 12.24 they switch positions and hair still tied up ( hmmmm that means it is not a straight run OMG that means everytime they change angle, they stop, go over choreography, timings, camera zooms and where camera is pointing, retouch up make up, towel down, damn heartbroken).
    There are an awful lot of folks very thankful that real life sex isn't anything like a porn shoot, thank you very much.
  • pervertedjester
    You reminded me of this https://youtu.be/evDAi77IDhY
    • kaylaS91

      hahahahaa that's pretty spot-on. :P

    • I've done the eye thing a few times in jest because of this video makes me laugh.

  • sp33d
    It always cracks me up how she starts moaning Right away and wouldn't shut up until the end of the scene where she takes a mouthful or something. It's almost comedic.
    • kaylaS91

      ugh you and I in the same boat... it sucks because I love hearing the ball slapping or noises some of the guys will make so I've resorted to watching more handjob-based videos so that shrieking and all doesn't completely kill my ladyboner. 😑

    • sp33d

      ladyboner :D :D :D wow, that's innovative

  • Bluemax
    "... and hell- maybe your boss will even join in."

    EWWWWWW!!!

    But seriously...

    (Standing ovation ) Bravo! Bravo! ( Tossing a rose on the stage ) Bravo! Bravo! Excellent take!
  • ManOnFire
    I'm pretty sure most people in this day and age know that porn and real-life sex are different. 99% of the porn I've seen is a drag anyway and wouldn't be how I do the stuff in real life. I don't want a girl slapping my dick against her face, or wanting me to throat fuck her, or riding on top of me, especially with her from behind. It just doesn't even look fun.
    • kaylaS91

      Yea so you'd think but based on some of the questions asked on here or advice given, it's apparently not so widely known.

    • ManOnFire

      @kaylaS91 Look around you. This is a site half full of people who've never had sex and are still curious about it and think porn is real - even females are watching it and talking about how hot it looks and how they want to try it. And some of the people have a particular fetish for a particular act they've never done and think the way they see it in porn is real.

      This site isn't reality. It talks about REAL SUBJECTS, but it's demographic is different from your average individuals. Although a lot of people here have had sex a lot of this site is still full of people who are virgins, never been in a relationship before, or just inexperienced with life period. Which isn't even entirely a bad thing, but I wouldn't make fact out of them.

  • Dimmu
    i dunno
    i would say porn and scientific books made me better sex partner
    • kaylaS91

      yeah of course. I'm just saying that I don't think having the type of sex depicted in porn is any better than what sex is actually like in rl.

    • Dimmu

      two different things
      porn is a movie
      sex is love

    • kaylaS91

      exactly. :P

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  • Phoenix98
    Nice mytake, personally never had any magical expectations when it comes to sex like some people do, as we all know like you said movies, porn etc make it out to be almost fairy tail like which I'm sure for some it might but is overall not a realistic view on it. Of course the partner you have while doing it and how you feel about each other I think makes a big difference. And the more you do it with that said person the better it gets you get their rhythm and so on and so forth down etc.

    I was going to post this video on what realistic sex looks like that I've always found quite funny but @pervertedjester beat me to the punch lol.
  • Prince_teddy4u
    Awesome. Liked it. One more point to add. Size of the partners. We're not 6 packs guys, I need it girl on top for a reason.
  • AmericanPoet
    I wanted to respond to this MyTake earlier with a simple word: FINALLY!

    Good MyTake. I read way too much garbage n this website about sex from people who only learned it from watching pornos. Like these morons who claim to throat fuck all the time and how girls love it. Ya ok, I was with friends once and a buddy talked shit about it. Clearly never did it but saw it in a porn and pretended he had. A chick friend of ours went to his fridge and took out a brat (yes I live in Germany), came to him and said open up I am going to jam this down your throat 50 times. He stopped talking about it.

    None of it is real, nothing. What idiot pulls his dick out to now jack off for a minute so he can cum on her face as she sits there gapping like a starving baby bird? I'm all about experimenting and having fun but some things they do in porn is just stupid.
    • kaylaS91

      thanks, glad you enjoyed it. :)
      However, regarding your point about how throatfucking and finishing on the girl's face is not real? It certainly is for some. My boyfriend and I do that occasionally, for example. Perhaps we're outside of the norm in some respects but it does happen in reality once in a while.

    • it isn't the norm, that is my point of "not real". The only reason people even do this is because porn discovered the "money shot". If it's something you want to do, go for it but it's wrong for people to think that this is how sex is supposed to be.

    • kaylaS91

      I'd never seen throatfucking before doing it, not had my boyfriend.
      How sex is 'supposed to be' varies greatly with each person. You can't be telling me that a couple that has natural dynamics of dominance/submission between them, or is a couple more in touch with their sexual side, has the same sex as a couple that's vanilla af, now are you?

  • Artist10
    Good article, porn is so fake its the reason I dont even bother, doesn't come close to what real sex and relationships are like.
  • It could be like porn for some people for others it could be terrible. Sex is always different for each and every person.
  • This_is_my_username
    Bravo girl bravo! Great mytake
  • Dandeus
    People should also understand just how much optical illusion technique goes into making a guy's dick look big in porn.

    -Wide angle lenses
    -Low angle shots
    -Close up shots
    -Shaved pubic hair
    -Casting guys of average or below average height
    -Casting guys with narrows hips
    -Casting petite girls

    And of course, many guys in porn also use penile injections.

    That's not to say that guys aren't legitimately well hung, but all of these techniques are used routinely to make them appear even more well endowed than they are.

  • Randomperson123456
    Unless real life sex consists of a girl with a camera in front of her...
  • BeatingTime
    it can get pretty close if guy is enough attractive looking
  • aliceinwonderland69
    This funny and interesting cos I don't watch porn.
  • CBryan
    I think porn is depressing...
  • Anonymous
    preach sista
  • Anonymous
    They don't acknowledge the girl going through the pain from having rough sex. :P
  • Anonymous
    If a person is a virgin, I think it is better that they be a bit ignorant and naive rather than filled with porn ideas about sex.
  • Anonymous
    Interesting take.

    I always wondered what was the difference between porn and sex in real life, and now I'm enlightened.
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