5 Things Every Camgirl Gets Sick of Hearing from Men

Having been camming since I was 19, I can honestly say I've probably heard it all. Guys aren't shy about asking a girl in my line of work literally anything that comes to their head..here are 5 of the top offenders.

5 Things Every Camgirl Gets Sick of Hearing from Men

Can I watch?

So we're on a date. I'm sitting 2 feet away from you. I say I'm a camgirl and your first question is...can I watch? No. Because there's work and then there's play. When I turn on the camera, I'm working. When you ask to see that, I stop seeing a potential romantic partner and start seeing a customer..and out goes any chance you had of having actual sex with me.

Can I join you?

On the same strain as the last one, but even more grating. How would you like it if I came into your office and asked to help you with those feasibility reports? Just because you know how to rub one off doesn't mean you'll be able to put on a show my viewers would enjoy. And even if you could, it's MY business and I never asked you to be apart of it. Couples shows can be popular but I am strictly a solo act.

Will you satisfy (blank) fetish?

No. I will not sit on your face or let you lick my toes. Sex worker does not mean sex slave. When I'm offline, I'm offline. I have my own likes and dislikes like anybody else and being a camgirl doesn't change that. In my own sex life, I do what turns me on personally. Just because my job is pleasing men sexually doesn't mean I'm obligated to please all men sexually.

If I pay you will you...?

Learn the difference between escort and webcam model. It's apples to oranges. And to make this one short and sweet: even if I would, you couldn't afford it.

Do you enjoy it/does it turn you on to be on camera?

Does waiting tables make you full just by being in the presence of food? It's a sexual atmosphere but my arousal is not really important. It's a fantasy. I'm getting paid to serve others sexually. I don't do it to get turned on, I do it for the money. Simple as that.

Now you know what NOT to say if you ever meet or date a girl in my line of work. The best questions to ask are truly none at all! If she wants to discuss it she will. Otherwise it can be a very draining line of work. Some girls love it, but it's best to let her set the tone.

Like anyone, when you're out with friends or on a date the last thing you want to think of is work. And that's what I want to stress, camming is work, not play. So respect that fact and you shouldn't have any problems!

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  • This is a common issue with artists or "celebrities" - many people can't see them as PEOPLE, and can only see their persona. And while that's fine during an official "meet & greet", it's a big turn-off when you are on a date and trying to have a REAL connection with someone in your personal life.

    I used to have a boss who liked to have business meetings in strip clubs. Now, I appreciate a naked girl as much as any guy (and maybe more than most), but I never found strip clubs to be a "good value" financially. So, while my co-workers were spending sizable portions of their paychecks, I would *talk* to the girls, like PEOPLE instead of like strippers. My co-workers thought I was some kind of player because I would often have one or several girls sitting and talking with me, for free, and even got some free dances. My "secret" was that I didn't treat them like strippers, and that was so refreshing to them that they were actually happy to talk to me.

    No one really wants to take work home with them - and it's even worse when you actually work from home (I know this from experience), and, yeah, I can totally see why you'd want to keep your job and your personal life separate.

    Plus, if those guys had actually been cool about it, chances are that they'd have eventually gotten a lot more than a web cam show. Unfortunately, too many people don't know how to delay gratification, so they lose by being unwilling to "lose out." Dumbasses...

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  • Interesting take! Nice to have other girls speaking up for how being confident in our sexuality does not magically add numbers to our sex-partner count in itself, nor does it create a willingness to suck each and every dick or satisfy any kind of fetish. 😩

    • Yup! It's really exhausting being automatically classified as kinky. Guys here camgirl and it's like their brains instantly download a list if stereotypes xD

    • *hear

    • exactly! quite ironic because many of those types will also be the ones to call you a slut or whatever, failing to realize that its guys like that who help you be able to profit and make money off of camming. :P

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  • No judgmental comments/questions like "you seem like a nice girl" or "why don't you do something else for a living?"

  • I do understand fully what you are saying however you come a across as a a bit selfish. The upset and missed of whinging tone is very unattractive. What it sounds like your saying is I exploit men men for money because men are the weaker sex when it comes down to all things sexual ( which I agree ) with. However when you of duty his natural sexual inquisitiveness things that most guys want or would like to do are out of bounds.
    It is sad to me to hear a young fit intelligent woman speak and think as you do. It will be a very negative thing in you making and keeping relationships. Eventually it will really limit the number of men prepared to try and respect in you in a relationship.
    Right now money is more important to you but as your looks fad and you find yourself on your own you will regret it.
    However I always want to see people happy and you deserve to be happy good luck and I wish you well.

  • We're all different and we all have different values and beliefs; I'm sure that mine differ from yours greatly. I just don't understand you. If there are a lot of men in the world who would still be interested in dating you after you tell them that your job is to please other men sexually, it's likely that they really only want to have sex with you. Is that what you want? Since making money is all you really care about and being a camgirl does nothing for you sexually/ emotionally, would you quit if a guy was actually interested in having a relationship with you and offered to pay you a salary to not do cam shows?

    In my opinion, being a "camgirl" isn't a job and exposing yourself on camera for money isn't something to be proud of. You can't just do anything, call it work, and expect prospective male partners to respect you properly. If I was on a date and I told the girl I was with that I was an assassin, I can't be upset when she get's weirded out, asks me to kill someone for her, or asks me how many people I've killed; it's common sense that when you reveal what you do for a living, questions in relation to your occupation may be asked. I'd ask you is"why". Are you doing it to make money for college? Do you even want a man to want to be in a serious relationship with you? I apologize for seeming kinda hostile towards you, but I don't like what you do for a living. I wish that you had more respect for yourself and that you treated your body like a treasure that you'd only share with one special person instead of whoever is willing to pay to see it.

    • To the first part.. if I met a guy and we fell in love and he said to me "you know Abby this makes me really uncomfortable, I'd rather you found other work before we get serious"... if I really loved him and I knew he loved me, I would absolutely being willing to find another job until I could find a career.. as long as I could count on his support. To the 2nd part, you don't think it's a job because you've never done it. It can be an extreme grind. It's physically and emotionally draining. I worked in the kitchen at a huge restaurant out of highschool... the big difference is this pays better. But when I sign off I feel every bit as exhausted as when I clocked out at work :/ and I'm not proud of it... like I said, it's not a career or a lifestyle.. it's a job And umm yeah actually. If you were legally allowed to be an assassin and a girl asked you to kill someone.. that would be a girl you dump and report to the police xD bad analogy xD

    • And yeah actually I do want to be in a relationship. I'm in love with someone as we speak (who SAYS ge loves me too). If things get more serious (and I hope/think they will) I will get a real job and drop the camming for good

  • I understand your frustration, and I would agree with your list of annoying questions, especially in the early parts of dating/meeting someone.

    However, question 5 is a very valid and common question regardless of line of work. Everyone asks whether someone else enjoys their work. You don't get a free pass because you're a sex worker. I've met some women (not romantically met, just through network of friends) that did sex work and some said they enjoyed it and some said they didn't but the money was great. Ok, good to know either way. I don't like my own job but the money is phenomenal. The woman I'd be interested in dating has a right to know this.

    The others questions are stupid and annoying and disrespectful.

  • Wow, is that something that you can make good money at?

    • It's a very active and growing market

  • I agree with you. I'd be pissed off by this questions too. In my opinion, #5 should be replaced with "what's your channel/website?"

    • That's pretty much the same as #1

  • Sorry, but I have little respect for cam girls. I would never date one, but if I did find myself out on a date with one, that would be a good enough reason for me to walk away there and then. Why? I'd always be wondering if you might be recognised. I could imagine people saying, "Look at that guy with that cam girl". Thanks, but no thanks. Huge deal breaker.

    • Just thinking, you have chosen more than a career. You have chosen a way of life which will follow you for the rest of your life. It will take a brave guy (or one that has the truth hidden from him) to settle down with you. It will take just one guy who lives near you to recognise you and the revelation will spread like wildfire. Not many guys will be able to handle that. Equally, the guy that doesn't know the truth could end up with a nasty surprise from a third party who does know!

  • I think there's a part of men that find this to be a turn on for their partner to be a cam girl - along the lines of her being in Playboy (when it had nudes). It's proof that your girl is hot beyond what you think, because so many others desire her sexually, not just yourself. But I imagine that would get old after a while, wondering if the guy you are sitting next to at the ballgame is dropping $200 online to watch your girl gorge herself on a dildo the size of her arm.
    I suppose communication in a relationship in this line of work would be key, to clear up any misunderstandings or chances for resentment to fester. You notice I used "think","imagine","suppose" because I'm not a camgirl and have no idea what I'm talking about LOL

  • This was so cool to read :)

  • How did you get started in it?

  • Kudos to you for being so brave, but I have one question. Does it ever concern you that there is a high possibility of men taking pictures of you and putting them on the internet for other people to see?

    • It's already happened a lot.

    • And it doesn't bother you?

    • It does but it's the life I chose

  • I think the whole thing is degrading. I didn't know what she meant by a camgirl. But now that I know, you shouldn't be frustrated by that because, after all, you are a slut and a whore to them. You are deegrading yourself by being one, so if they ask stupid questions, remember, this is your job, if you want to get paid, you have to take it. My advice: Save yourself and run from it, because they are likely recording it and posting it on porn sites, which distribute it to other porn sites. So, in the end, the guy gets gratification and he is probably making a profit from you without your knowledge.

  • I don't have issues with you or anybody else being a camgirl, I have an issue with you expecting guys you date to just know what you do and do not want to ask them.

    I'm not saying some common sense shouldn't apply, but seriously, guys can't read your mind.

    • I'm not saying they should. That's why I wrote this

    • Are you planning on dating someone here? Because if not then this is a poor platform to air your grievences due to the lack of exposure. If a guy asks you if he can watch and you automatically stop seeing him as a romantic interest and start seeing him as a customer without so much as saying something like "I'd prefer something with feelings" then you're expecting too much.

  • Do you like your job?

  • How can I date a porn star, cam girl, or a stripper? I get it all the time. One way you won't date one is holding her profession against her. She is just like everyone else... wants to date someone who respects and cares about her.

    Unfortunately with a profession like yours comes negative and judgmental feelings. Some guys will be cool with what you do... most however will not. Some don't want to date a Police Officer because it is too scary to have to worry about a loved one day in and day out.

    There are some though that take advantage in much the same way and say "Can I ride in your police car?" or "Can I shoot your gun?" The only difference is they aren't writing articles trying to educate the population on what not to say to a cop on a date. It's called dating mature people and leaving the idiots alone. Date better people... I promise they are out there.

  • I agree with your point of view in that the type of work you do there has to be a line between professional/personal. To me it would be a major red flag if a person became overtly interested in blurring the line. What a man's thoughts on your line of work are part and parcel of the getting to know you process, the same way as any people discussing their occupations. 1 - 4 are things that are probably in the man's mind and some other red flag would appear if he was talking to a woman of any occupation. 5 to me is a misconception that has pervaded popular culture, I am fairly sure 98% of webcam girls or similar jobs are done for financial reasons but society bombards young men with advertisments/stories of girls who really really enjoy these types of jobs and the money is just a bonus. A guy with a more societal mature attitude would have the sense to know 5 is a fallacy created to promote the industry and the discretion not to ask it. If the girl does feel that way, she can raise the topic in her own time much the same way a female accountant can tell a date she loves being a dominatrix or something similar.

    • I think camgirls are partly to blame. I see so many saying how they love it but I can see the lie in their eyes. They need to say that to be okay with it. I'm personally like.. money is money. It's a stepping stone toward a more stable job and future. That's all. Its not a passion or a career. This was a very well thought out and understanding comment and I really appreciate it <3

    • Saying they love it is part of the job, a way of advertising the industry - It is always very interesting to see anybody who works in the adult industry being interviewed (promotional pieces versus documentaries) , the interviews "On Camera" and "Off Camera" - They are usually two totally different people.

  • interesting, i didn't know this was a thing.. that seems like good pay for little work, kudos to you :D

  • You deserve respect. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise.

  • No seriously... can i watch? I mean, why would everyone get to see that but me as a future boyfriend right?
    This is exactly why i couldn't ever date a camgirl, it wouldn't tick well on my loyalty scale.

    • I wouldn't want my boycriend to watch because I want him to see the person not the fantasy. The girl on the camera isn't real. The girl lying next to you is.

    • Makes sense, still i don't think i'd like to share her with the whole world like that even if she is just a fantasy to them. I get they don't get to know you on the emotional level, i'd still feel weird that everyone got to see you on a visual level.

    • Sone guys feel that way and it's understandable. I would hope they would appreciate the fact I wanna do something else soon and be able to accept what I have to until then but if not I get it

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  • These seem like issues you've had during the initial dating process rather than after being in a relationship with someone.

    Unless you're unwilling to satisfy the sexual compulsions of a man you're with? Either way you seem very unsatisfied with your work for some reason or ashamed of it on some level, maybe both?

    It's probably good you're making this sort of thing clear ahead of time for interested parties because as you know guys can be and often are quite perverse, I can vouch.

    • I will say though if there's one thing I've learned about girls it's this: if you make them feel comfortable there is a much better chance she'll play along.

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