The Role Of Sex In A Relationship

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THE ROLE OF SEX IN A RELATIONSHIP

In the pyramid of importance things in a relationship, sex certainly has a ranking. My advice to people is that, though sex is important, it is not the ultimate. For example there are things that stands higher than sex, and these includes Love, Kindness, communication, understanding, and respect. It is odd to have sex with someone who does not communicate, respect, love, or understand you. But if the listed attributes are in place, then sex becomes an act of, admiration, appreciation and bonding. But today a lot of people place the cart before the horse, by placing sex before love, and when things do not work out, this is becomes the reason for emotional hurt.

Outside procreation, sex is an act of sharing, so couples should be consciousness of this fact and understand that whatever affects them emotionally, physically, mentally has an effect on their partner and on the relationship as well. Sex requires cleanliness, if you ignore your personal hygiene and health, you are simply putting the life of your partner at risk. Sex requires a peaceful environment, some couples avoid their homes and partners because of lack of peace. Most of these couples stay late and only return home when their spouse are asleep. Such should not be a lifestyle. Whatever is the problem, try and settle it through dialogue and communication. So couples should endeavor to make their homes a peaceful place for them to relax, and share. Sex also requires understanding, one should try and understand what is good for the partner, the best moves, and the best positions that are comfortable. Do not be selfish when it comes to sex.

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  • Anonymous
    Love, Kindness, communication, understanding, and respect do not magically make a good or even tolerable sex life.

    This isn't to say sex is more important than those, but it isn't less important in the long run either, and it's also not just something that automatically can work out.
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    • dipta

      May not magically make it good, but are a great start. Assuming there's sexual attraction and both present similar values in life, I don't see why they would be incompatible.

    • Anonymous

      @dipta People's idea of how much and what sort of sex they'd like to have given real life conditions (i. e. not when on holiday with free time all day) varies really widely. On top of that, masses of people have sexual hangups or fetishes or whatever and little to no interest in actually working to compromise or find a way to meet each other's needs, in spite of claiming to have love and communication.

      Ultimately if they're in love, but one is submissive and wants sex twice a day, and the other is uncomfortable with bdsm and likes to have sex a few times a month, love and understanding are not going to fix things.

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  • HookingSwan
    I knew I'd like reading this.

    Very nice set of MyTakes that you have been posting. I will be looking forward to reading any future ones.

    😊
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  • shessoheavy
    I am asexual. Relationship don't even need sex or sexual attraction to be intimate and of primary importance, though obviously then certain can. Even relationships involving sexual activity and sexual attraction can be intimate in non sexual ways.
  • FatherJack
    Good take , the biggest problem between the genders is mismatched libido's , women desire sex far less than men on average , due to both biology & social conditioning , there are some exceptions to this general rule.
  • Spiorad_Aisce
    Great take - Sometimes I do not agree with all your ideas but on this one, I a 100% agree.
  • azanun
    I want to have sex because i want to become a mother
  • Marinepilot
    I'd say this post stated the place of sex in a relationship very well. Nicely stated. Well done.
  • Anonymous
    Good ideas. The article can be greatly improved by formatting, though. Maybe make bullet points next time instead of having one block of text?
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