No, Great Casual Sex And Cuddles Does Not Mean That He Wants More Than Sex

Anonymous

As a woman who has had casual sex in the past many times before I try my best to offer advice on gag to women who ask if their friends with benefits wants more.

My answer will be and will always be

No, great casual sex and cuddles does not mean that he wants more than sex

Sure a woman can go in thinking that she does not want a relationship and does not want to get serious but sex releases a ton of that hormone in a woman's brain that makes her think that she has fallen in love

"But but some women can have casual sex without getting attached too..."

My response to this is that just because a woman does not get attached or clingy after sex does not mean that she will not feel that way.

Women who have sex without attachment tend to get demonized in the media. A man can want sex without attachment but if a woman wants a fling and moves on quickly from it all of a sudden she is a cold hearted bitch.

No, Great Casual Sex And Cuddles Does Not Mean That He Wants More Than Sex

Girls, if you are having casual sex with a guy, no matter what you want to label it: no strings attached, one night stand, friends with benefits, or fuck buddy it is still casual sex and the guy only wants sex from you. He is just using you for sex.

"But but she agreed to have sex with him."

Did I say that she did not agree to have sex with the guy? No I did not. If a woman expects more out of casual sex she is setting herself up for pain and heartbreak.

Some guys and girls will say that it's possible to turn casual sex into a relationship, but why would any girl want to take that risk by giving herself away plenty of times to many guys in order to get love on return?

Getting cuddled and having awesome sex does not mean that he wants a relationship. I have had casual sex with guys who were really good and really bad.

No, Great Casual Sex And Cuddles Does Not Mean That He Wants More Than Sex

To those girls who can have sex without attachment after good for you, I wish I was like that when I use to have casual sex. Now I stopped having casual sex because I realized I could not do it. It really gave me low self esteem.

And guys, do not think that I have forgotten about you. I already know some guy is going to assume that I think all men only want casual sex.

Guys if you have casual sex with a girl and she contacts you the next day, it does not always mean that she likes you. And guys if a girl has casual sex with you and does not get emotionally attached and clingy, don't act like it's world War 4 because men do the same thing too.

No, Great Casual Sex And Cuddles Does Not Mean That He Wants More Than Sex
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  • Azara

    if someone is not sure if their friends with benefits wants a relationship all they need to do is ask. there no need for all of this melo drama. i think the most damaging a thing person can do is ask other people. one bc they dont know. two bc they can't seem to think fro themselves. most people talking bout friends with benefits have script they've memorized. and are incapable of hearing about the actual situation.

    so anyone in a friends with benefits who thinks it might be moving forward TALK TO YOUR PARTNER.

    friends with benefits is no different than casual dating. there's no reason to assume it will or it own too anywhere. there no reason to assume anything. COMMUNICATE.

    titles ultimately dont matter its the content that counts,. i also think people whoop enjoy sex and were secure dont see it as 'giving it away' so they re not worried about turning friends with benefits into a relationship or just keeping it as is. people who dont like casual sex, dont understand this so they think they need too help show either people see the light. when really its just different preference. and anyone can be hurt in a 'relationship' it takes two seconds to end one even if you thought you were in love and headed towards marriage. there's no certainly in anything bc hums are fallible. people will get hurt. in the mean time they can experiment with different kinds of things until they decide whats right for them... like you did.

    and yes women can feel attached, and act not attached, as can men. thats part of the reason friends with benefits are never really sure what the other wants. bc any one at any tim can feel nothing and cove it up. hopefully they talk it out. instead of playing games, or asking opinions of people who are not involve and can not not help.

    yes e releases hormones as does everything we do in every second of our day. and the hormones and the affects are very unclear and widely disputed amongst scientist. the reason we know more about fe ale hormones is bc the bond between infant and mother is studied and is appropriated to sexual relations... but it is not a study of the bond between female and male. and man. or male and female. most often not even study of human human. its rats. or voles. or other rodent.
    Is this still revelant?
    • Azara

      hormones released during breast feeding in rodents, becomes cultural ammunition against women having control over their sexuality.

Most Helpful Guy

  • Chief16
    And that's why I always tell people not to indulge in casual sex, too many 'what ifs'. See when you create your own problem, that's not something you go about asking or giving advice about, because more often than not, people who make the problem know the solution, they just want reinforcement.
    Is this still revelant?
    • Anonymous

      I never blamed anyone

    • Chief16

      Who said anything about blaming anyone?

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  • ObscuredBeyond
    Any gal willing to go through the trouble of leading me to the bedroom should go in with the understanding that it won't be casual. I want a wife, not a deposit box. If all I want is to throw out old seed and make room for new, there's a toilet for that.
    • Anonymous

      well that is good

  • Stacyzee
    Casual sex relationships are complicated.
    They are definitely a learning experience.
    No one walks into a casual sex relationship knowing what cards to play or how to operate towards the person afterwards , you learn with each relationship.
    I say , what worked in my past was not making myself vulnerable in any way.
    Vulnerability opens the doors to exposure and hurt.
    Close that door and just enjoy the experience for what it is and move on from that day.
    • Anonymous

      thanks for your reply! I like your mytakes

    • Stacyzee

      Thanks :) <3

  • CrazynKinky
    Can this just be for both genders because this happens with guys too. You should know yourself well enough to know if you can handle casual sex if you don't and you have it stop blaming people for you getting hurt.
    • Anonymous

      I never blamed other people

  • abundantlyrich
    Things that start from down under doesn't elevate ... people always come here asking as if we are oracles that would say yes to a possibility of a relationship.

    Stop contradicting yourself all the time. Stick to the program.
    • Anonymous

      I'm not contradicting myself at all

    • I wasn't referring to u

    • mainereed

      I like this statement about "start from down under", its very accurate! In the moral sense, i mean first thing he/she thinks is getting in their pants not personality, quality as a person or their interests. bug also plain physical activity also goes just in that area too.
      Ill use it, thanks.

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  • Spiorad_Aisce
    Unfortunately I have to agree with you - friends with benefits only works if the two participants are fully agreed and committed (I see the irony too) to the casual nature of the arrangements - Once any stronger feelings develop the question has to be asked I want more, will you give it? - Two things can happen (1) The other person walks away so it is hard but try and move on (2) The other person agrees then the tough part do you trust they are telling the truth.
    Total disclaimer here I have never entered a friends with benefits arrangement because of my nature I would find it very hard for such an arrangement to exist without deeper feelings on either side. So I would prefer either to be in or out of a relationship than some emotional minefield (grey area) of a physical relationship with a friend.
  • bluenose1872
    'He' is a big bloody generisation by the way. I bet most guys have went from casual sex to intimate feelings. Your both giving each other insane pleasure and seeing each other naked when no-one else does. How more intimate can two people get as when we put parts of our bodies in each other. If you can't develop some kind of rudimentary feeling towards a person your that intimate with then you might be a sociopath or something. I've had sex partners I've developed feelings for. You just have to do it regular enough and it happens in spite of you. Men develop intimate feelings more often than women do by the way. It's usually the woman giving the man the cold shoulder instead of the other way about. That's what happens when society spoils you
    • Anonymous

      Lmao I'm not a sociopath and I'm straight so why would I put she? I do not sleep with women

    • I'm not talking about who your shagging ffs. Im talking about you've got every man roped into the same category, walking hard ons with no feelings. Plenty of men get feelings for the women they sleep with even if it's not intended. The players aren't big macho men. There's guys that sleep with everybody to prove to themselves they're not gay. There's guys that do it because they're misogynistic. There's guy that do it because they've got inferiority complexes and don't think a woman will be interested in the everyday, sober them and they split before. There's a ton of reasons behind it. Most of them are boring in the cold light of day and they know it so they never come back even if they want to. There's things in life that are a paradox. What you see outside is the opposite of who's inside usually

    • Anonymous

      So you are trying to justify why Men sleep around lol ok

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  • Prof_Don
    Not everybody is built for casual sex, and most people that aren't have to learn the hard way.
    • Anonymous

      Yep...

  • ThatBritishLad
    I want a cuddle._.
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    • Anonymous

      I'm not a slut

  • Anonymous
    'Women who have sex without attachment tend to get demonized in the media.'
    Any evidence to support this statement?

    Also you said that if you're having no strings attached sex with a guy he is using the girl. Using her for what? Sex? Well to me in that situation the two people are using eachother for sex. If either person in this situation expects more then thats their own problem should they not recieve it.
    • That's exactly what she said *facepalm*

    • Anonymous

      @ClariceOwen23 it just annoys me how if people are having sex the guy is using the girl. theyre using eachother

    • Anonymous

      Lol you did not read it properly

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  • Anonymous
    I'm just wondering how many World War's you think there have been...
    • Anonymous

      I know you are trolling, because that world War comparison was an exaggeration obviously. Lol grow up

  • Anonymous
    Agree 100%.

    friends with benefits sometimes turn into relationships. Just not very often. And friends sometime turn into relationships. Just not very often.

    Most of the time in friends with benefits, the man isn't interested in more. If he was, he'd have made it known. She often doesn't want more either, though there's a better chance she does.

    Most of the time in 'friendship', she isn't interested in more. Often he may not want more either, though there's a better chance he does.
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