I often notice how women don't find the "Submissive" male attractive by any sort. However, I feel the whole concept around the submissive man is severely misconstrued. In this take, I'm going to dispel the myths many women, and even other men, have about submissive men.
Misconception #1: Submissive men are "spineless."
Not even remotely close. Like the following examples below, imagine spinning the gender. Do submissive women get labeled as spineless? See? Doesn't make sense. Just because a man wants a woman to have more control in some areas doesn't mean he doesn't have any firm foot hold in his life at all. In fact, one can argue that a submissive man has a lot of inner strength, for he is letting himself become vulnerable to his partner, especially in a culture that promotes men to be the dominant ones.
Misconception #2: Submissive men let women walk all over them.
This thought likely comes from the idea that a dominant woman will want to control the thoughts and decisions of her Submissive partner. Again, such an irrational way of thinking. A submissive man can still pursue his dreams and ambitions, and yes, even decide on most, if not all aspects of his life in a Dom/sub relationship. In fact, he's choosing to BE the submissive. Just becuase a guy wants a woman to know how to take charge in bed, and even in other areas in life doesn't mean he wants to forefit his own feelings and thoughts.
Misconception #3: Submissive men are pocket ATMS
No. Just no. Exploiting a man who's submissive for his money is entirely disingenuous. Some may consent to this, to which I won't have an opinion of. But for everyone else, we don't want to spoil you by throwing our hard-earned money away. Sure, we'll treat you to something nice here and there, as long as you reciprocate equally. Fair is fair. But the key thing to know is that this isn't prostitution. It's an insult to us who genuinely want this kind of relationship and all you can think about is how to leech off a hard-working man.
Misconception #4: Submissive Men lack masculinity
Depending on how you define masculinity, this isn't really an issue regardless. Either masculinity has zero role when it comes to being dominant, or that it's not even a big deal to have a slightly greater feminine side. Everyone has a masculine and feminine side to them. Some men are more feminine, and some women are more masculine. Doesn't necessarily make them gay or lesbian either. Likewise, your masculinity and feminity fluctuates regularly.
Besides, why let the whole ideas of masculinity and feminity define who you are at the core?
In all, there's no shame to be a submissive male. I am one and I'm proud to be who I am. Sure, I do have a dominant side that can be unlocked by the right woman. However, I will strive to find the right female counterpart that works best with me, both in and out of bed.