Reasons to Be Celibate for Life

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Reasons to Be Celibate for Life

Often, you may hear or read about staying virginal until marriage. Well, let me tell you about a similar life path - being celibate for life. Here are reasons why you, assuming you are virgin, want to stay celibate for life.

You find women/men a distraction

You are a busy person. You don't have the time to find a partner and settle down, let alone deal with all the mind games that your partner may play on you. You know keeping a girlfriend or boyfriend requires time, effort, and energy, which is why you just don't do it. Instead, you use up your time to do what you have to do and what you want to do, and a relationship is just not one of those things.

You don't want to have sex... ever

You live in a society in which too many young people are having sexual intercourse or contact outside of marriage, effectively making them unsuitable marriage partners for you. You find your own personal beliefs at odds with your peers. The philosophical incompatibility may not resolve in the marriage, and the future children that result may receive conflicting attitudes about marriage. That said, you think that it's impossible to find a virginal spouse, so you give up trying.

Sex is too worldly for you

As a spiritual person, you want to focus more time on the divine and otherworldly things. Marriage and family life are worldly things or secular matters, and sex cannot be separated from marriage.

You are just not attractive enough

You know you are an ugly duckling. You are not attractive physically, and your personality may not attract a lover. You don't have a sense of humor, because every time you try to be funny, you're not funny. And when you don't try to be funny, it feels like people are laughing at you, not with you.

So, what do you think? Do you think these are all reasons why lifelong celibacy is a viable option?

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  • JustBeingHonest7
    What do I think? Are these reasons for lifelong celibacy?

    Reason 1-this could be a reason depending on your personality and goals. I've been family oriented my whole life and gladly gave up striving for a career. I find family more fulfilling.

    Reason 2-the bold face, yes; your discription, no. The 2 are completely different. Your boldface suggests a lack of desire. Your description indicates that you want to but find someone with your sexual ideals to be finding a needle in a haystack, so instead of being perseverant, you are just gonna say screw it. There's a difference.

    Reason 3-iffy. Technically I believe it is in the bible to "go forth and have children" (or something similar) so technically building a family IS following God's word... and I don't really view family as worldly even if that weren't in it. Wanting that new 70" big screen TV is worldly. Family life, love, raising kids, and everything else entailed in marriage is so much more than words can describe. It is not a shallow ambition.

    Reason 4-no. It is an attitude that may leave you facing lifelong celibacy because you will send any potential suitors running for the hills, though. In fact, I think you might benefit from working through your self esteem issues either with some self help books, maybe a therapist, perhaps even a dating coach or some such. This is a toxic attitude though and I think you should nix it. Even if you plan to be lifelong celibate.

    It also contradicts your "spiritual journey." God gave everyone their own unique set of circumstances, gifts, weaknesses and obstacles. This attitude reflects quiTe the poor appreciation for his gifts and a lack of faith and optimism that he has someone planned for you.
    Is this still revelant?

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  • Chief16
    Is this still revelant?
    • the_rake

      Also celibacy can be voluntary or involuntary. Voluntary if done for ethical reasons (e. g. 'eating bacon is wrong because it's unethical to kill animals') and involuntary (e. g. 'I can't eat bacon because it's too expensive'). For people that are involuntary celebate it's really annoying hearing people tell them why they are better off like that, e. g. because they just haven't found the right piece of bacon yet or e. g. because it would be cruel and unethical to kill an animal, or e. g. because bacon doesn't taste that great anyway.

    • Chief16

      @the_rake I'm sure some people like oranges more than apples.

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  • brain5000
    Not sure I agree with the use of the term "worldly" here, which suggests a degree of experience and sophistication inconsistent with the message of this Take. Perhaps that is picking a nit. Did you mean to say "mundane?"

    I don't think lifelong celibacy is a good thing, unless you truly have zero libido, in which case that is all of the reason you need. "Zero libido" is not consistent with your explanation for "You don't want to have sex, ever."

    Don't hold out until marriage. You run the danger of living life wondering what another person might be like. Wild Oats are a thing that should be sewn. The church is a thing the powerful use to control the powerless. Don't listen to it.

    Have sex at least once, even if it is with a repulsive, ugly person, which anyone can get, even another repulsive, ugly person. Believe me, I know.

    Yes, a significant other will make demands on you, which can be a distraction. And yes, having sex with a lot of ugly people in relationships you don't want to go anywhere will become tiresome and pointless. Fuck someone anyway. All of that doesn't preclude a cheap, one-off, one-night stand.

    Go forth and fuck. Once. Be human, the way the Lord made you.
  • PinkT15
    Honestly, these are good points but personally I know that I couldn't stay celibate my whole life. I'm Christian so I believe in having sex after marriage but sex would be a important factor in my relationship with my husband, too important to give up. Do you plan to be celibate for life?
  • Why on earth?

    "You find women/men a distraction"
    -Prostitutes/escort service. That's what professionals do

    "You don't want to have sex... ever"
    -Asexual

    "Sex is too worldly for you"
    Sex is not a bad thing. I'm religious, I believe in god. My religion is okay with me fucking girls, my god sent me to fuck girls.

    "You are just not attractive enough"
    -So, should I cut my dick then? Sorry, I'm not a loser.
  • BuchitaBuchys
    I think I'll be celibate for life. I just don't want to date anymore. And I don't want casual sex.
    Or celibacy a virgin exclusive thing?

    I enjoy sex and orgasms, don't get me wrong. But I just don't find anyone who catches my attention to date.
    I'll just masturbate lol
  • Gerduxas
    Ehhh... I mean, I totally respect people who don't have sex up until marriage, but celibate for life? You might as well become a nun. Sex is great, these people are missing out not only on the fun, but also on the health benefits a sex life can offer you 💁
    • It can also offer numerous painful, unsightly, and even deadly diseases.

    • Anonymous

      @Anno_Domini Chlamydia is known as the silent disease, because infections are usually asymptomatic. However, the lack of symptoms is what makes it so successful at making the host's reproductive system infertile AND spreading to other individuals. Fortunately, it can be and is often treated with antibiotics, which also target gonorrhea, another common STI.

    • Herpes, on the other hand, is forever.

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  • 26ukdude
    Its not really something you can just shut off the thought or need for like it is getting over a drug addiction. Its more like food or sleep and we are born with it; sexuality wakes up in people in the teenage years and stays with you for life. I dont think its healthy to surpress such a strong force for good.
  • epiper888
    Ha, sounds like one hell of a pathetic life. sex is one of the top experiences one can have. Telling someone they should give up because there an "ugly duckling" is ridiculous. How about improving your self day to day?
  • John_Doesnt
    You women can have celibacy if you want, but men put themselves at risk for testicular cancer if we don't get off somehow or someway. Also, you forgot to point out the fact you wouldn't exist if your parents thought it would be great to be celibate.
  • Billyscotter
    "I'm too ugly to have sex... ever" is a terrible reason to give up on trying to have sex. I see a lot of ugly parents.
  • DodgersGM
    As to reason #3, you don't see love and sex as a spiritual connection between two people?
  • godfatherfan
    That is both sad and such bullshit. Welcome to the world of low self esteem and low self worth. I had almost none most of my life up to 2 years ago. but when I was young, even though I had little, I still met the love of my life. I spent 25 years with her. Unfortunately she threw me an her family away. It was a lot of work with a very good therapist to raise me to what I am now. It was also getting online on POF and TInder and having success at dating that raised both. We are not meant to be alone. it is in our DNA to be with someone else. Find a therapist and go to work. Fake it til you make it. Because everything you wrote is just bullshit.
  • hummingbirdfish
    I get this; however, I think it could have been phrased differently. Many different types of people pursue celibacy. For me personally, I am not a virgin. I'm a single mother. But after that experience, I refuse to ever enter a sexual relationship again without establishing trust and love first. Essentially, I want a man who believes in courting a woman. This is unlikely to happen to me because I already have a child and the expectation from men is for me to put out since I'm "used goods". Needless to say, I'm " too good" for that concept and hold myself to a higher self worth than society. There are also other left field scenarios that could lead to a decision to pursue celibacy (potentially) for life.
  • Hannah591
    Ugly people still get laid. I don't recommend you writing more myTakes.
  • Intraluminal
    I agree with you completely. There are persons for whom life-long celibacy is a perfectly reasonable choice.
  • Spiorad_Aisce
    Celibacy is a hugely important decision. The first 3 are fine if you are busy enough or spiritual enough to lead a life like that. The last reason I am not so sure about, to totally withdraw because you feel you are not worthy seems a bit defeatist. I know it is something a grandmother would say but I believe there is someone for everyone. I think there is a special beauty and personality in everyone. I don't believe any person's looks or personality predetermines their sexual, romantic or emotional happiness. A strikingly beautiful person may have people physically desire them but not want to stay with them. Nobody is perfect in this world not even close, we just all muddle along as best we can. With luck, we find someone to share it with.
    • brain5000

      There is someone out there for everyone. Question of course is: how much does she weigh? Do you want to have to smell that every day?

  • TheOldMan59
    I wouldn't recommend celibacy, given the proven health benefits of regular sex.
  • TheInvisibleMan
    I am celibate but not by my choice. However it looks like Im gonna stay this way till I die so Im looking for a way to accept it :/
    • Anonymous

      There you go. I hope my take is helpful. It is actually written for people like you, changing your mindset and hoping that you won't feel bad about being involuntarily celibate. :)

  • BrownBoyBrownies
    ''I'm a celibate cause I don't give a fuuuuuck''

    ~Epic Rap Battles of History: Martin Luther King Jr. vs Mahatma Gandhi
  • bluenose1872
    I can't believe people think like this. Your an individual trying to pair off with another individual. That's all that matters. Who are you to judge them. Why value shit over substance. A careers bullshit. Money's bullshit. Society is bullshit. Fashions bullshit. It's all man made bullshit. The only thing that matters are people. That's all. The best things in life are free. The people at the top try and convince you the worldly things are priceless because basically that's all they'll ever have and they want to taint us all as well. Misery loves company. When you fall in love nothing else matters. John lennon said all you need is love and he was right. Fuck everything else
  • ConsultantIsBack
    This website is so fucking weird sometimes lol
  • zagor
    I'm not a virgin by any means, but I think I may take up celibacy out of laziness...
  • DarkHumorRUs
    Sounds like bullshit.
  • SunsetRose
    This can't be real...
  • dominiquois
    Interesting...
    • Also like to add there is nothing wrong with asexuality but the ugly duckling thing is not accurate. There are plenty of ugly people who have sexual relationships.

  • Nik1hil
    I still can choose celibacy
  • Maxemeister
    This would be a curse no human should have to bear
  • skeptic007
    GOD told me make a big family that's what ill do
  • Anonymous
    Mmm. Been involuntarily celibate all the way up to age 29 and counting. Haven't had to talk myself into taking the barrel of a shotgun out of my mouth for a while, though, so that much is good.

    I'm afraid we aren't all quite so "zen" about it as you are. If you're happy with it then good for you.
  • Anonymous
    people can't even fathom hat you say here. especially the spiritual aspect. that talk is not for the masses... .
  • Anonymous
    I don't find that sexual frustration is helping me religiously, at all. I honestly think that if I had a permissible outlet i. e. marriage, I would be able to concentrate on my religion much more.
    I'm guessing your Christian?
    • PinkT15

      I feel the same way. I'm Christian. What's your religion?

    • Anonymous

      @PinkT15

      Hey. I'm Muslim. I guessed the author of the MyTake was Christian as Christianity seems to be the main religion which advocates celibacy.
      Do you plan on remaining celibate or getting married at an early age or anything else?
      It's interesting to know that both of us experience the same difficulties despite the difference in faith..

    • PinkT15

      I plan to remain celibate until I get married. I don't plan to get married anytime before my 20's which is why it's so hard. I basically have at least another 10 years. What do you plan to do? Does your faith believe in masturbation?

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