“Margaret Atwood, the Canadian novelist, once asked a group of women at a university why they felt threatened by men. The women said they were afraid of being beaten, raped, or killed by men. She then asked a group of men why they felt threatened by women. They said they were afraid women would laugh at them.”
DISCLAIMER: Don't be a moron and read this before you read the Take,
1) My dear Misandrists and Misogynists, this Take is not for you, so kindly stop reading.
2) Yes, this Take will generalize many women, not most women. Now say it with me "MANY, NOT MOST".
3) Let's stop with the Nice Guy Shaming. K? Its become worse than slut shaming.
4) And yeah, this will be a medium to relatively long Take.
So assuming you've read the above let's get on with it. First of all lets get this straight
#1. Women can be assholes.
#2. Women can be just as vile and crude as men.
#3. Yes, women can be stupid.
#4. Any other person who objects to the above has probably never met another person in their life.
See, what I find wrong with most people today, is the fact that we complicate women so much that we build this illusion in our minds that women are some kind of puzzle to be solved.
And this is the root of all our problems. Questions like
Can men and women ever truly be just friends?
Are stupid. Why? Because they escalate simplicity into complexity. Yes, in my experence, it is possible to build rapport with women and just stay as friends. A question that you should probably be asking is this,
Can men and women, whilst being friends be sexually attracted to each other? Or better yet can men and women just be friends while being sexually attracted to each other?
Exxcellent, I assume you understand what I'm getting to. Its perfectly possible that you can be sexually attracted to the other sex. After all, that's what the opposite sex is for, where I think most people make a mistake is this.
#1. Think Love and Sex are the same thing.
Now don't get me wrong, I firmly believe that you should only be sexually intimate with the person you love, or want to be intimate with. However what this does mean is, Love and Sex are mutually exclusive. #Factz
#2. Mistake Affection And Attraction.
Whenever you hear someone go 'I've been friendzoned'. Understand this only happens because of two reasons
A. You just don't go out on a random notion and ask someone out, before asking anyone out, you've to be fairly certain that they're attracted to you and interested in being 'more' than friends, without making yourself more appealing, the chances that you'll date a friend is very slim.
B. Affection is not attraction, sure your friend might spend more time with you, sure you maybe an important person to them, but..... that simply just might mean that the connection you've established is more sibling like than anything else. I might care for you and love you in a sort of an affectionate way and this is very different from the feeling I think that translates into attraction.
Why you shouldn't be 'nice' to women.
Now if you got the basis of what I was getting to, you will probably have no trouble in understanding what I'm going to say next, Let me break it down.
#1. Many people go about saying 'you should treat women right' but then beg your pardon, what's the right way to treat a woman? Its subjective and depending on where you are and who you are with, 'right' can vary dramatically.
#2. What I think is the 'right' way to treat women, is to be as you're to yourself to them, basically not to be self conscious and insert a superiority or inferiority complex over them.
#3. I don't think I've ever heard any woman go
"I wanna grow up and be a lady"
Not in this day and age, anyway, chiefly because look at all the ridiculous unsaid rules that society enforces on women, stuff like bio-clock, pressure to have kids blah blah blah, so on and so forth.
Do you want them to live upto so many ridiculous standards and then some that they'll probably choke, it can be suffocating to live upto expectations of society, I will not deny this. But then lets use this.
Only be nice to women who are ladies.
#4. Do not patronize, sympathize, degrade or debase women, in my opinion they just vary from simply giving them entitlement all the way down to shaming them. What I truly believe women require is empathy or anyone for that matter, ad this where all them 'Nice' guys get it wrong.
#5. If you're gonna use Chivalry as an excuse to treat women 'nice' if you're a guy, or to be treated nice if you're a woman, don't bother. The Code Of Chivalry was never made for women in the first place, it is written writ of the unspoken rules of combat and conduct towards children, elders, other men and so on and so forth. Chivalry is dying because it has become a double standard these days, who is to blame? Everybody.
Phew, thank you for reading, Ciao. #BeingNiceSucks