Women Treat You As A Lover Or Provider

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Women will treat you how you perceive them. Not many will acknowledge this. But women will act how you act to them. So treat them as a girlfriend or sweet girl and she will act pure and like an angel to not be seen as "a slut" or someone naughty. Treat them like a slutty, dirty sexy woman who craves sex and she could be one of your sexy mistresses or you her lover for the night, and the same woman will be a wild woman indeed.

Women treat you as a lover or provider

A slutty woman (all women have an inner slut and love acting like that in the bedroom) will be like that to a man who treats her as such

ALL WOMEN ACT LIKE PURE MADONNA'S WHEN THEY ARE REALLY SLUTTY NAUGHTY GIRLS AT HEART

But they are worried about the slut label and thus present the anti slut defence. They feel they have to act as society wants them too. Thus the paradox of not wanting to be sexual with a guy who shows an interest in them or displays value as a prospective boyfriend or provider. She decides to take it slow. She doesn't act naughty or sexy around him. She may even keep the guy waiting as an orbiter. It all boils down to this concept.

ARE YOU A LOVER OR PROVIDER?

Women will say they don't think like this even though they do. For unless you are in a solid relationship (which is the ultimate aim for both man and woman), then more often than not a woman will act differently to different people and not actually act as she says she wants.

This is evolutionary biology at its basic.

A provider will see this:

Women Treat You As A Lover Or Provider

She presents herself to him as a nice innocent girl. She will act that way around him. Maybe flirt, but she will hold back on revealing her slutty side. And she will go on many dates, extracting the benefits of a boyfriend from him, without giving him the sex unless she's totally committed to him. She trades sex for other benefits.

The guy might actually be a really nice guy, charming and be into her. He might actually text her nice things, listen to her and actually do all the things women say they want:

- He treats her well

- He listens to her

- He is there for her and a presence

- He takes her out and pays

- He is her cheerleader when she is down

- He cares about all her problems

Yes I know he's not really a great guy. He was sexy and it just happened. Oh that other guy? I really like him. Yes he's relationship material. I'm going to take it slow.

He acts as the perfect companion perhaps. Now unless the guy becomes her boyfriend, she tends to string him along. And this is wrong. Especially if at the same time, she meets other guys and sleeps with them quickly, very quickly.

So you have to strike a balance between being like a boyfriend, but being purely sexual as well. That way with a push/pull, she feels like she has to work for you. And then she commits and reveals her inner sexy side.

A woman will postpone sex with him because she fears he might think her slutty (the very thing he wants to see from her) or that he might "leave after sex".

The lover on the other hand:

First he sees this:

Women Treat You As A Lover Or Provider

And very shortly afterward (on the first day/date/moments meeting her) sees this:

Women Treat You As A Lover Or Provider

- The lover isn't looking for commitment.

- He is purely sexual and just states what he thinks without subtlety.

- He escalates fast

- He does not care about her personality or interests

- He does not text her nor really reply to her texts that much at all

- He does not care about her problems

The woman acts very different to his guy. She acts like the inner slut she really is. This guy is talking dirty to her, so she acts dirty. She trades sex for sex. Fast.

There is none of the "oh he might leave after sex" is there?

And to those who think that some women wouldn't be dirty like that, well there are women who will behave one way to one guy and another to another.

Whilst the nice charming guy takes her to a nice meal, pays for a nice gift, treats her sweet and texts her back, she's enjoying all that whilst dreaming of getting a cumshot facial, being fucked hard against the wall or from behind by her lover. In short she dreams of being a naughty slut. And the lover treats her like a slut.

Innocent women are often the naughtiest.


Some women who act sweet with a serious prospect and at the same time act unbelievably dirty with a lover. With the former, she'll act like a good girl. With the latter, she'll be saying things like "Yes I'm your dirty slut" - "Fuck me, fuck me harder!"

THE NICE GIRL/BAD GIRL PARADOX

Women will often have very very dirty sex with a lover, yet don't reveal it to a nice guy? Isn't it paradoxical? The way to see that side is to show her you value her sexual side. For you are what they supposedly want right? A nice caring guy. So make sure you give off the vibe of a ruler who has a harem of mistresses who are extremely hot and very naughty. And they provide you with hot dirty sex at will.

So then if your nice lady won't show you her sexy dirty slutty side, then another woman will. Suddenly the woman will chase and be turned on by your attitude of abundance as well.

The reality is, that every woman is a bad girl and wants to be one. Imagine a world where she is actually a dirty slut for a nice guy? I mean that would be hot for both sexes wouldn't it?

A woman seems to not be sexual with a guy who treats her special?

EVERYONE WANTS TO BE THE LOVER

Even the woman, for it is the lover who gets the sexual benefits and hot steamy arousal. Remember, compliments validate her ego, but don't help you be a lover. For some twisted reason, she then deems you lower status as she seeks what she can't have or desires males who are desired by other females, not those who actually show care for her. She feels sexual desire for the man she can't seem to woo. This man must then bed her fast and hard, otherwise by displaying too much interest and talking to her about her dreams, interests etc., if her sexual arousal state goes down, the logical good girl side takes over to not act easy and may even view him as a potential partner given his interest in her.

You have to bring out and enforce her bad girl/slutty lover side, not her good girl persona for society.

THE TRUTH OF HOW MEN ARE TREATED

As an orbiter, you get what is virtually the illusion of love. The woman will give you a "girlfriend experience" without the sexual component. In fact, even this may be in doses so as to keep you wanting more and reeling you in like a fish. It only happens if you keep giving her validation and support.

If you want a demonstration of whether you are valued, does she text you on special occasions? Does she initiate texts?

SPECIAL SITUATIONS

There are situations, e.g. college/uni/work where you can't just hit on women immediately. They might even have boyfriends (probably who are in the provider category ironically). That's fine. Be a respectul man, and there is no problem befriending her. When she becomes single, be flirty with her and be sexual. Just build it up gradually.

The friendzone does exist but it's complicated.

- A guy who meets a girl who has a boyfriend and is in her social circle, or a caring friend - is NOT friendzoned. Nor is he ruled out if she ever becomes single. He is totally an option if he so chooses. But he may have to work harder to flirt and be sexual than if he simply bumped into her from scratch. But it's still a decent position to be in. He must demonstrate he is a fun guy as well though, not just serious provider material, if he is to succeed.

- A guy who meets a brand new girl at a bar, who makes his intention clear, who ends up going on solo and group meets, but doesn't see her sexual side quickly is friendzoned for sure. Especially if she leads him on. When the woman does this she is so WRONG. She is using him as a provider whilst not being a lover to him.

- A guy who meets a girl who is single, and doesn't reveal he likes her and this continues, is FRIENDZONED. This also applies to a girl. This makes it very hard to get out of, though much easier if you're a girl. Note, this does not apply if you meet someone when taken as in the first point.

- A girl who is friendzoned can get out like they walk through automatic doors. A guy will have to take a leap of faith and climb out of the pit of doom.

WOMEN CAN BE MAD

Seriously you meet a guy, he showers you with affection, sends you sweet texts, makes an EFFORT that he wouldn't do with a guy friend. Women, clearly he LIKES YOU. Don't pretend that it isn't clear. Would you do that to a guy you didn't like?

So don't use guys. Sometimes guys are that nice that they don't just state bluntly "You are fit, let's bang". Yet if they don't you say they never made it clear? He's texting you ffs. Why do you think he is doing that?

LOVERS IS PREFERABLE AND WOMEN GET ATTACHED TO SEX

They often feel closer suddenly to those who bed them. A flaky girl will suddenly be texting you often after you bed her. She won't be "accidentally" not replying to your texts anymore. That girl who asks you how you are by text then ignores you? She'll be not only replying but begging to hear about your day. That friend who was acting pure toward you? She is going to be so slutty to keep you interested. That cute girl at the bar who thought she was above you? Well she is going to be "below" you a lot to make sure she outdoes every other girl you have your eye on.

The truth is that women also love sex. You need to tell them that, but NO ONE KNOWS HOW.

Women will be extremely dirty with those who make them feel that. This also applies to those who have known each other for years. But make sure every interaction is sexual. Just give that sexual vibe and you will get it back.

WOMEN WON'T ADMIT IT BUT THEY WILL ACT VERY DIFFERENTLY TO THE SAME COMMENT MADE BY TWO PEOPLE BASED ON THE VIBE

You look so hot, I bet you're a dirty girl," said the nice guy who had been caring to her for all these months and texted her back and listened to her, whilst looking at her seductively. She then proceeded to take it slow, or ignore him.

You look so fit. Damn you are hot girl," said the guy who just came out of nowhere eyeing her up and down. He had no interest in who she was, or what she liked. Nor did he reply to her texts or send her a sweet message. She had dirty sex with him, loving being called a "slut" in the process.

LEAVE YOUR COMMENTS BELOW ON HOW TO BE SEEN AS SEXUAL AND NON JUDGMENT.

Hope u enjoyed.

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  • Chief16
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    You know why guys don't get women, because once they meet them, they just wanna bang them without understanding them at all,
    And that's why so many women are distrustful of men, sure, there are a few women who would want to sleep around and this only applies to them.
    Just think about what you are saying and think about your mother or your sister, or some woman who you don't see as a sex object, you'll understand what I mean.
    Is this still revelant?
    • Anonymous

      Incorrect. SOME guys don't get women because they just wanna bang.

      The ACTUAL nice guys who ARE interested in them as a person AND find them extremely attractive want to see their fun slutty side. But for some reason, a lot of women act pure around them and hold it back, only to then go and be extremely dirty with brand new guys. The former guys were guys who were into them, interested in their life, text them sweet things etc. The latter guys are guys who are just a bit crazy and dirty, not into them, not texting them back etc.

      There's nothing wrong with seeing the girl you fancy as someone sexy.

      Thoughts?

    • Chief16

      Lol dude, it maybe because I've never had this issue with women, but I feel it's kinda rare that woman would an actual good guy for someone else, women like that are
      A. Feel extremely insecure, don't think they deserve a nice person.
      B. Dude, I hold my own on my beliefs, ain't no chick who wants a bad boy worth my time. Have a filter, some god damn standards. You'll never feel that way.

    • Anonymous

      Actually that is a point. Maybe just forget such women right? I think when you start to meet more and more women it becomes easier. Then you just forget these crazies who behave that way. That is a good point. It's hard when you are in an environment e. g. uni, work etc where your social circle or number of women you meet is limited. But that is a point. Hot girls are girls who are both physically attractive and also NICE. Now a nice girl will be bad (sexy bad) with someone who deserves it. That person is someone who is nice to her, not someone who rolls up, gets her horny and gets the sex, whilst the great guy who sent her sweet texts, and made her feel great as a person is wondering what just happened.

      What is your recommendation for this situation:
      Guy meets girl at uni when she has a boyfriend. She is really very innocent and nice. Out of respect he doesn't hit on her. After uni, she keeps in touch, they really click and hit it off.

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  • kaylaS91
    I'm pretty amused that you spent so much time throwing all these random, not very related quotes and such into a take in an attempt to hide the fact that you've been rejected after you took a girl smiling at you or 'catching' her looking at you more than once as a sign of interest, only to find out otherwise after you'd already gotten emotionally invested.
    Is this still revelant?
    • Anonymous

      Haven't been rejected by no one tho haven't gone for many either lol.

      So women aren't slutty with a brand new guy who is purely dirty with her, doesn't care or replies to her texts compared to the boyfriend material great guy in her social circle?

    • kaylaS91

      well I've evolved beyond the point of thinking there's anything morally wrong with a woman sleeping with more than one guy in her lifetime, or with a guy who is 'purely dirty' whatever the fuck that even means so..
      I don't see what you're trying to say.

    • Anonymous

      Who said anything was wrong with a woman choosing to sleep with people?

      People should be free to do express themselves. The point is "So are women slutty with a brand new guy who is dirty, doesn't care about her in terms of texts, etc, versus a guy who is great, lifts her spirits, texts her sweet things, and is boyfriend material and in her social circle"?

      Can you expand on that, since you seem to be saying they are sexual with the latter, when it seems the vast vast majority are extremely slutty with the first random lesser sweet guy (i. e. the opposite of who women say they want) and keep the slutty dirty wild side hidden and act innocent with the second guy.

      Explain

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  • aliceinwonderland69
    Human being are 3 dimensional individuals not 2D caricatures. There are no maddonnas or whores, nice guys or bad boys. The world is not a movie and this is a very immature way of looking at things. It is possible to see someone as a provider and a lover.
    • Anonymous

      So a woman doesn't act innocent with a nice guy in her social circle who flirts with her? And then proceeds to be ultra dirty with a sexual man?

    • Some might. Like I said people are individuals.

    • Haha I agree except the very last part is not true for me personally... someone who depends on me for what I can provide them turns me off.

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  • RationalMale
    I don't think your take needs any additional comments, really. The key to really see how girls are is what you said--being nonjudgmental and acting like it's fine. Then the oh so gruesome details of her past escapades spill forth.
    To you I say
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    • Anonymous

      Firstly that gif is so good!!!

      Secondly, thanks. Yes I think women just need to be themselves to the nice charming men who they say they want and who do want them. These guys are actually confident and into them, but also more subtle and gentlemanly. They listen to her, and text her sweet and fun stuff. So come on women, clearly they're into you. Be your dirty selves. By rewarding a random guy who isn't doing nice things with sex, it just makes everything twisted and everything is messed up.

      Thirdly, that gif is really good!!!

      Fourthly, I agree with the non judgmental thing. The thing is say you're in the social circle (had to given you went to uni together) and now she becomes single. How do you actually convey that non judgement of her being a sexy dirty woman?

    • Yeah, if you treat then the proper way, women will act shameless. Consider--how many women openly loved 50 Shades of Grey, both the book and movies? And that was a BDSM porno! I read a few pages!

      Flip side is, how many regular guys, like those regular girls, would ever flat out buy porn and say how much they love certain porn actresses on their facebook page? We rightly recognize those guys as weirdos, or creeps, etc.

    • Anonymous

      1. Yeah nice point about 50 shades. Given it's so popular and bought by women, well, does that mean all women want hard sex? =D

      2. So what do you make of HOW to convey to her you are non judgmental?

      3. Could you explain what you mean if you treat them proper they act shameless -example?

      4. What about this - great confident (and nice) guy meets innocent sweet and cute girl at uni. She already has a boyfriend from outside. Out of respect he doesn't overtly hit on her. He can't help hang out with her given they work together. They also click and hit it off. She admires his drive/passion. He thinks she is cute as well as smart. She elects to keep in touch with him after uni. They exchange sweet texts a lot, despite distance, she visits and makes it a point to catch up with him alongside other friends (he's one of the only guys). At one point, she's pretty much mutually initiating texts with him and very complimentary of him. He lifts her spirits and he is boyfriend material I guess.

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  • Goldie757
    The fact that you think there are only 2 types of women in the world is worrying.
    • Anonymous

      There is only 1 type of woman in terms of their behavior. (Forget the women who use people and the guys who use people for that matter).

      And that woman treats guys as two types, possibly 3 if you count people who aren't attracted to her (guys she can't and won't get).

      Pls clarify what you mean?

    • Goldie757

      You're simplifying human behaviour. People are individuals and behave and react differently based on a large number of factors e. g culture, religion, morals, upbringing, past experiences etc. You cannot group large parts of the population into 2 or 3 catergories.

    • Anonymous

      I agree. That is a good point. People are individuals. Ok let's say:

      1. Girl meets guy A when she has a boyfriend (So from the guy's perspective he meets this great girl when she already has a bf). They both work together at uni. He can't avoid her. They admire each other at work and also hit it off given their personalities. He thinks she is very cute, and is nervous round her. He doesn't hit on her given her status. He is unsure what she thinks regards being attracted to him. They become friends/social circle. She chooses to stay in touch with him after uni (texting, meet ups etc) despite distance.

      2. The girl then becomes single. Guy A has always been caring to her, uplifts her and she finds him sweet. She also finds him really fun when they are together. He is unsure how to behave or text her now. Now would he be viewed as potential sexual material?

      3. A new guy who meets her when she is single, who isn't as sweet/interested in her? How is he viewed?

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  • rjroy3
    Poorly put together, but it's all very true. Witnessed it plenty of times lol. But it's not so bad when you think about it. If a hot girl and an ugly girl walk up to you individually and try for a hookup. You're likely only going to respond positively to the hot girl. Girls are similar, it's just more about how he presents himself and less about the looks.
    • Anonymous

      Lol thanks. Yes it seems crazy paradoxical though? I mean I'm not sure about that. I mean although most guys would rate or say "I'd totally bang her yeah", when it comes down to it, unless you're really just a guy looking for lots of casual flings, would you really just sleep with someone without some type of connection? First date/first meet sex is totally cool but if you click with the girl. If you don't then it's unlikely you'd just bang for the sake of banging. instead you'd next her and try to find someone you are into. It's different if it's some type of fantasy girl you already knew, but a newbie?

      Plus, if a woman is in a guy's social circle and makes the effort to send him texts, cheers him up and makes him feel great, hell that would be taken as a sign of interest, not her being normal. Other women or guy friends probably don't do that (if they do, then you really have a great life for sure, hang on to them).

      So explain how a woman would

    • Anonymous

      not feel the urge to have sex and be sexual with a charming guy in her social circle who presents himself well, texts her, uplifts her etc versus a new guy who she doesn't know as well (maybe only for a bit) and who isn't as witty etc?

    • rjroy3

      Lol to answer your question, yea a lot of guys would as long as she was hot enough. I forget the show, but it was a hidden camera show. Hot girl walks around and just tries kissing guys. At first the guys backed up and we're like, "what are you doing? " because she just lunged in before they knew what was going on. After a few guys she learned. She made eye contact with a guy first. Gave him the look. Then went in for the kiss and he let her.

      That's most single guys lol. We just have to know what's up for the most part lol

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  • AdamThomas
    Girls will always deny it but it's the truth. I've had close female friends admit this to me, and I've seen girls act one way towards a guy and act completely differently towards a different guy based on what they wanted from the guy, sometimes that guy was me.
    • Anonymous

      Followed you for that comment! =D

      Yes I agree. It doesn't really make much sense though. I really don't get why a charming guy who is confident and presents what they want from someone does not get to see her sexual side. And he gets the texting mind games etc. The new randomer or a guy she knows less well gets the slutty girl in her and she doesn't play games?

      What do you make of this scenario-
      1. Girl has a boyfriend. Meets a guy A at uni. She really clicks with him and finds him sweet. He thinks she is brilliant. Holds off from hitting on her out of respect, but finds her both cute and nice. Can't avoid her given they work together, so in her relative social circle (not besties but good friends). She values him. She chooses to keep in touch with him after uni (texting meet ups etc). She finds his texts sweet, he uplifts her and is fun. He is also boyfriend material.

    • Anonymous

      2. Remember guy A met her when she had a boyfriend (so she was not single). Now she breaks up with her boyfriend at some point. Despite distance they are still keeping in touch. She moves back to his location or vice versa at some point later. Now is this guy in her social circle ruled out from being sexual material? They didn't meet initially when she was single, but she is now. She acts fun around him, but hasn't shown a slutty side yet mainly her innocent side with bouts of a little schoolgirl fun in her.

      3. New guys she met later on, some when taken and others from when she was single from the start enter her life. She acts a little more slutty around them? Guy B is in a hobby club with her. He tends to take selfies with what he brands hotties in the groups including the girl. She hangs out with this guy and other guys like him a lot?

      4. Since becoming single, she plays a little more textey mind game with guy A as well.

      Thoughts?

    • Anonymous

      Well?

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  • VegasNewFallout
    since i was blocke don someones answer im gonna say it in here: don't take girl advice from girls. If you want to catch a deer, you wouldn't ask a deer how to catch it since its never had to catch itself, it's only been caught. Youd ask the hunter.

    Take girl advice from guys, not from girls. girls will naturally make you intoa cuckold with their shit advice.
    • Anonymous

      LOL I like the analogy. That's a good point.

      It seems like women say they want a nice sweet guy. Yet the guy who is in their social circle and like the man they claim they want - he doesn't see her slutty side. It makes it hard for him to read whether she likes him too. Whereas a guy who just enters her life, who isn't as sweet to her, she acts slutty/sexual around him.

      Yeah that really fits with a woman saying, "oh I would sleep with a nice guy and not the one who isn't interested in who I am". LOL.

      What do you reckon of this example:
      Guy meets girl at uni who has a boyfriend. They guy and girl really click. He is respectful and doesn't hit on her given her status. She finds him exciting, fun, uplfiting. She chooses to stay in touch with him after, texts and meet ups. She later breaks up with her boyfriend. Now is this guy now a possibility? Cos she still acts pure around him (even though they do have fun times). Whereas guys she has just met recently, she acts naughty/dirtier around?

    • Anonymous

      Well?

  • NotTheFBI
    Lol well according to what you say that explains a lot then. But I guess I'm seen as both... more often the second one but honestly I don't why tho. Whatever it is, I hope I keep doing it :v

    Nah I'm just kidding I know exactly what I'm doing. :P
    Interesting MyTake by the way.
  • WeeGeeTheSecond
    ...
    This is just so much bullshit. I never thought i'd see an article that would mix bad dating advice with "evolutionary biology facts" as a coverup. Its the worst thing since "not masturbating releases pheromones".
    Treating women well, listening to them, caring for them, for their problems, never got them to feel the same for me. Ever.
    They will never look at you as anything more than a friend. Believing that women are mirrors just proves how you barely have a single drop of experience, and also doesn't know shit about psychology.

    Please, go outside. And go read Freud, for fuck's sake.
    • Anonymous

      Ok so you're saying that acting nice and they won't mirror you, but actually be their slutty dirty self then with that nice charming guy in their social circle?

      Or would they be dirty with a totally random?

    • Anonymous

      Yet you haven't actually suggested ANYTHING that a guy should do then lol

    • Anonymous

      The attractive guy friend - someone funny, exciting and hot.
      The douche guy friend - objectifies women, less good looking, not sweet

      Yet she would probably act innocent to the first guy even though she likes him more and be sexual/slutty pose like a cheerleader round the 2nd guy

  • GreatnessRevamped
    You are not wrong with your assessment, but people are more complicated.

    If you plan on being in a LTR, then you will become the provider and the lover, especially if she's pregnant. :D
    .
    • Anonymous

      Yes that's true in a long term relationship and also people who end up together with their ones.

      But in terms of dating, and single life, and also just interactions between women in your social circle or the people you know, this seems to be the case, and its messed up isn't it?

      3 guys:
      1. Boyfriend - they met early. She acts pure around him. He is caring + providing. They end up breaking up.
      2. Fun guy in social circle who she knew before she broke up - he makes her feel great. They click well. He listens to her, sends sweet texts and raises her spirits. He also would make great boyfriend material. He is also a little wild sometimes. Neverthless, she keeps her inner slut hidden which he has never seen, at least for now. She doesn't act dirty with him.
      3. Random new guy or entry to social circle. He is just crazy. He isn't interested in who she is unlike guy 2. He isn't caring like 1&2. He doesn't text her that much at all. He is just a fb friend, but she acts dirty round him?

    • Listen, man, if you keep getting hung up on how and why women act in certain ways you will never succeed with them, just like guy 1 and 2.
      Guy 3 doesn't give a shit.
      He actually interacts with her sexually, something 1 and 2 are missing.

    • Anonymous

      So explain "interacting with her sexually"? What is he doing the others are not, in particular guy 2? Let's say guy 2 meets her when she has a boyfriend, and now the girl is single, just to clarify. Guy 3 also meets her when single from the very beginning.

      Guy 3 isn't sending as cool texts, etc. So explain your thoughts?

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  • idkwtftoputhere
    I'm a slut w/ everyone so I don't know wtf ur on buddy
    • Anonymous

      That's good. You're the 1% exception.

    • Yeh cuz I'm SUCH a special snowflake!!

    • PhilRubio

      You are babe😘❤️

  • ConsultantIsBack
    Um omg thank you for posting my #1 celeb crush melanie iglesias 😍
    Time to fap now lol
  • Metlahaed
    I get the Lover but I want and treat women as the provider. EXPLAIN THAT.
    • Anonymous

      Only you can?

  • Octavius
    No thank you. Whatever girl I may be with needs to be a friend as well as a lover. I can't just have them as one. If a girl is turned off by me being nice then good for her I lose nothing by it I'll just find someone (because yes they are out there) that appreciates kindness and respect and wants that in a relationship with a guy.

    You are still holding women up on this pedestal with this approach. You still don't see them as your equal you see them as something you have to deceive and conquer. I don't have time for that crap. Partnership is about seeing each other as equals. Not one proving themselves to the other that they're worthy.
    • Anonymous

      Well said. And to be honest, this is the only way GIRLS WILL LEARN. Next them.

      Any girls who do this are messed up. Who tf would treat nice charming guys in your social circle or not like that and be all slutty and sexual around new guys who don't care about them or text them etc as much. That's plainly pardoxical and unkind.

      One thing tho what do you make of this

    • Anonymous

      1. Girl has a boyfriend. Meets a guy A at uni. She really clicks with him and finds him sweet. He thinks she is brilliant. Holds off from hitting on her out of respect, but finds her both cute and nice. Can't avoid her given they work together, so in her relative social circle (not besties but good friends). She values him. She chooses to keep in touch with him after uni (texting meet ups etc). She finds his texts sweet, he uplifts her and is fun. He is also boyfriend material.

      2. Remember guy A met her when she had a boyfriend (so she was not single). Now she breaks up with her boyfriend at some point. Despite distance they are still keeping in touch. She moves back to his location or vice versa at some point later. Now is this guy in her social circle ruled out from being sexual material? They didn't meet initially when she was single, but she is now. She acts fun around him, but hasn't shown a slutty side yet mainly her innocent side with bouts of a little schoolgirl fun in her.

    • Anonymous

      3. New guys she met later on, some when taken and others from when she was single from the start enter her life. She acts a little more slutty around them? Guy B is in a hobby club with her. He tends to take selfies with what he brands hotties in the groups including the girl. She hangs out with this guy and other guys like him a lot?

      4. Since becoming single, she plays a little more textey mind game with guy A as well.

      Thoughts?

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  • rescuemyheart
    Hah... look at you trying to understand women xS
    • Anonymous

      Can anyone? =D

      What are your thoughts?

    • dudeman

      women are very easy to understand. think of them as children and it all makes sense.

    • Anonymous

      @dudeman Lol there should be a course at uni for it right?

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  • samhradh_leannan
    Well, this is clearly nonsense.
    • Anonymous

      How's that? Run through each section and show me what is true and what is false

    • First of all, you're claiming that this applies to ALL women, which is never possible for anything. But even as a general rule, I don't agree with the theory. It certainly doesn't apply to me, OR to any woman that I personally know well.

    • Anonymous

      A lot of women though, even the good girls tend to be sexy and dirty with men they know less. E. g. would a woman choose to reveal her dirty side to a guy who is in her social circle, makes her laugh, sends her sweet texts, uplifts her OR
      a guy who just entered her life (knows him less than the first guy), is crazy sometimes, and sexual and not as interested in her or as sweet?

      She normally opts to reveal that slutty side to the second guy whilst acting pure and innocent to the first guy.

      Or even follows the logic of sleeping with a guy she doesn't know that well quickly and holds back on the nice charmer in case she appears slutty.

      No logical sense.

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  • I'm sure there will be butt hurt girls saying none of that is true, but it's a reality we all have to face at one point.
    I can best be seen as a provider if I have a huge dick, huge bank account and a huge house.
    • Anonymous

      What about this., pls explain

      The attractive guy friend - someone funny, exciting and hot.
      The douche guy friend - objectifies women, less good looking, not sweet

      Yet she would probably act innocent to the first guy even though she likes him more and be sexual/slutty pose like a cheerleader round the 2nd guy

  • fiodor99
    this guy knows his shit. do not ever expect women to admit the realities you present here though...
    • fiodor99

      they dont even realise it themselves. their conscious brain tells them they want the provider nice guy. they keep fucking the asshole me. go figure... .

    • Anonymous

      Thanks. It is a bit shocking tbh. And it does not make any sense. Ironic that most women will not admit this. They claim they want a nice guy and someone who cares/listens/texts them sweet stuff yet are not dirty with these guys.

      Take:
      1. A boyfriend. He's caring, but not that exciting. - She acts pure around him. Eventually they break up.
      2. A great fun guy in her social circle. Now he is great boyfriend material. He is also really fun and outgoing. Makes her laugh. Listens to her, texts her great texts. She really gets on well with him, and finds him sweet and charming. She still keeps her fun slutty side hidden for now so as not to be seen as a slut.
      3. A brand new random guy or new entry to her life/social circle. Now this guy isn't interested in her, certainly no texts etc. He is just crazy in bursts. She finds that funny, though it's not as fun as guy 2. And he's not as serious as guy 1. Now this guy, she just acts slutty with and her dirty self.

      WTF?

    • Anonymous

      Yeah point they seem to not know what they want

  • red324
    This is worded bad. Should be more like a relationship guy will see the first girl, a player will see the second girl.
    • Anonymous

      Ok but WHY? The relationship guy, the nice one, the one she wants supposedly and one who actually CARES about her, does not see her slutty dirty side? WHY?

    • Anonymous

      Why?

    • red324

      Because the relationship guy cares about what makes her who she is, like what her hobbies are, why she chose a certain career, school. etc. He'll also fall in love with her little quirks like or example she's a terrible driver and gets lost or she might be clumsy. While the girl may find this totally embarrassing, he finds it adorable.

      The player on the other hand doesn't care. He may ask questions to get to know her, but he really has a secret agenda and just wants to get with her and move on to the next one.

      Does that help? Sorry I forgot about this question.

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  • damnwinter
    Oh man... this take started off wrongly, with the very statement that people don't have their own personalities, and their personalities depend on how they're treated. Namely, women, though it doesn't matter that much, this goes for both sexes - sometimes, (a lot of times) people DO have personalities, regardless of the other person. There is only so much that one can do to influence the way we are.
    Also, you know, the way a person acts in the bedroom will never make them a slut. It's awesome to have fun in the bedroom and experiment! As long as you're faithful and your sex life doesn't hurt anyone's feelings.. you don't deserve to be called a slut.
  • FatherJack
    Somewhat agree , reality is way more complex... women are as puzzling as Rubiks Cubes sometimes , confidence is key here , also , thinking back to my past , always did consistently better meeting / dating women on nights out when , ironically , that was NOT my goal & was just focused on having a good laugh. This seems to be a slant on the " Nice Guy TM v Bad Boy TM " , in how the individual woman perceives you at first. A guy being too overtly sexual with a woman at first can backfire , women take much more " warming up " then men do.
    • Anonymous

      Yes good points. Ok what about, guy meets a great girl who has a boyfriend. They can't avoid her since they're at uni and they work together. They both have a great rapport, she has fun with him and he makes her laugh. He avoids hitting on her given her status but is still fun around her. She keeps in touch with him after uni, texts, meet ups etc. She later becomes single.

      Now in this case, would the guy be an option sexually for her? And from the guy's perspective?

    • FatherJack

      I would beware of " Rebound Syndrome " in this case , she may have some attachment to her ex , trust your instincts ( I fucked up when I did NOT trust my instinct when the hormones shouted louder !! )

    • Anonymous

      Nah she has been broken up a while now. So to answer my point about is he an option from her view?

      And from the guy's perspective what to do text wise and in person wise?

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  • COCOCHANEL
    i usually push for a relationship no matter what he does
    • Anonymous

      So would you be more sexual/dirty and maybe a one nighter with a complete random guy who you barely know or a guy from your social circle whose sweet and cares?

    • Anonymous

      As in sex on impulse (doesn't necessarily have to be just once)

  • Bunny212
    What a load of sh*t
    • Anonymous

      Why?

      So women don't act dirty with a totally new dude than with a social circle guy who is boyfriend material?

  • A_Lolita
    I agree with you... Please don't hate me. 😅
    • Anonymous

      Nice, so why, pls explain?

    • A_Lolita

      I don't even know why. We're so complexed, we don't understand ourselves.

    • Anonymous

      Lol ok i see ur point

  • Entruder
    Man.. Melanie Iglesias has a cute ass smile
  • Shaft50
    'Pure Madonna'?
    • Anonymous

      Some term on google. I. e. a pure angelic girl who is innocent.

  • Anonymous
    This is not fair, She gives nice guy nothing but lover everything.
    • Anonymous

      Agreed

  • Anonymous
    A lot of the girls here are pissed off or trying to dismiss your post nonchalantly because you're hit the nail square on the head and revealed their secret.
    • Anonymous

      You have defined the truth so well! =D Well said.

      Yes I think it seems like this is the case, but it seems totally paradoxical does it not? So they would be sexual with a guy who shows up and isn't interested in her versus a guy in her social circle who actually sends her sweet texts and cares about her. Makes no damn sense?

      What do you think?

      Also:

    • Anonymous

      What about:
      1. Girl has a boyfriend (A). Then meets new guys at uni including guy (B). She really clicks with guy B. He finds her incredible, tho out of respect he doesn't openly hit on her. He can't help be around her given they work together and in the end is in her social circle. She chooses to keep in touch with him after uni (texts and meet ups). She loves his sweet, witty texts. He lifts her spirits, makes her feel great and is boyfriend material. He makes her feel fun. She acts pure and innocent and doesn't exude sluttyness let's say. There are great texts and interactions in person.

      2. Guy A is caring, but eventually the relationship breaks up. The girl is now single. Now would she consider Guy B to be more fun/sexy around/with?

      3. She still is pretty innocent around guy B and they still keep in touch despite distance. She also meets guy C in her new city and is a bit more slutty/fun around him despite he doesn't care as much or is interested in her as guy B?

    • Anonymous

      Hahah the trouble is how do you then crack a girl who is say a friend and who becomes single?

  • Anonymous
    Just a word bullshit
    • Anonymous

      Why so?

      Is it not true that a woman will act totally slutty with a random new guy who just talks dirty than a great boyfriend material male in her social circle who is caring to her?

    • Anonymous

      No, she ll just think the random guy is a creep who only want sex from her

    • Anonymous

      1. Yet she acts dirty/slutty with new random people versus the male in her social circle?

      2. What about: Girl has a boyfriend (A). Then meets new guys at uni including guy (B). She really clicks with guy B. He finds her incredible, tho out of respect he doesn't openly hit on her. He can't help be around her given they work together and in the end is in her social circle after uni as well. She chooses to keep in touch with him. She loves his sweet, witty texts. He lifts her spirits, makes her feel great and is boyfriend material. She acts pure and innocent around him although there are fun moments. But she doesn't exude sexiness let's say. There are great texts and interactions in person. Guy A is caring, but eventually the relationship breaks up. The girl is now single. Now let's say:

      3. She still is pretty innocent around guy B and they still keep in touch. She also meets guy C and D who

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  • Anonymous
    This is so true, and of course women are going to deny it
    • Anonymous

      Yeah why tho?

      Why are they not slutty and dirty with the nice charming guy?

      E. g.
      Guy 1 - Boyfriend - serious, sometimes fun. She acts pure around him so as not to be seen as a slut. She breaks up with him.
      Guy 2 - Fun guy in her social circle. He is also boyfriend material. He listens to her, sends sweet texts, raises her spirits. He is really fun and someone she really clicks with. Despite this, she keeps her slutty side under wraps for now. She holds herself back.
      Guy 3 - Random new guy or new entry to social circle. Just crazy in bursts. Not interested in her that much, just a fb friend. No listening to her. Not that good with texting. Just invited to the party. She does feel fun around him and releases her slutty dirty fun side.

    • Anonymous

      Why?

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