Women will treat you how you perceive them. Not many will acknowledge this. But women will act how you act to them. So treat them as a girlfriend or sweet girl and she will act pure and like an angel to not be seen as "a slut" or someone naughty. Treat them like a slutty, dirty sexy woman who craves sex and she could be one of your sexy mistresses or you her lover for the night, and the same woman will be a wild woman indeed.
A slutty woman (all women have an inner slut and love acting like that in the bedroom) will be like that to a man who treats her as such
ALL WOMEN ACT LIKE PURE MADONNA'S WHEN THEY ARE REALLY SLUTTY NAUGHTY GIRLS AT HEART
But they are worried about the slut label and thus present the anti slut defence. They feel they have to act as society wants them too. Thus the paradox of not wanting to be sexual with a guy who shows an interest in them or displays value as a prospective boyfriend or provider. She decides to take it slow. She doesn't act naughty or sexy around him. She may even keep the guy waiting as an orbiter. It all boils down to this concept.
ARE YOU A LOVER OR PROVIDER?
Women will say they don't think like this even though they do. For unless you are in a solid relationship (which is the ultimate aim for both man and woman), then more often than not a woman will act differently to different people and not actually act as she says she wants.
This is evolutionary biology at its basic.
A provider will see this:
She presents herself to him as a nice innocent girl. She will act that way around him. Maybe flirt, but she will hold back on revealing her slutty side. And she will go on many dates, extracting the benefits of a boyfriend from him, without giving him the sex unless she's totally committed to him. She trades sex for other benefits.
The guy might actually be a really nice guy, charming and be into her. He might actually text her nice things, listen to her and actually do all the things women say they want:
- He treats her well
- He listens to her
- He is there for her and a presence
- He takes her out and pays
- He is her cheerleader when she is down
- He cares about all her problems
Yes I know he's not really a great guy. He was sexy and it just happened. Oh that other guy? I really like him. Yes he's relationship material. I'm going to take it slow.
He acts as the perfect companion perhaps. Now unless the guy becomes her boyfriend, she tends to string him along. And this is wrong. Especially if at the same time, she meets other guys and sleeps with them quickly, very quickly.
So you have to strike a balance between being like a boyfriend, but being purely sexual as well. That way with a push/pull, she feels like she has to work for you. And then she commits and reveals her inner sexy side.
A woman will postpone sex with him because she fears he might think her slutty (the very thing he wants to see from her) or that he might "leave after sex".
The lover on the other hand:
First he sees this:
And very shortly afterward (on the first day/date/moments meeting her) sees this:
- The lover isn't looking for commitment.
- He is purely sexual and just states what he thinks without subtlety.
- He escalates fast
- He does not care about her personality or interests
- He does not text her nor really reply to her texts that much at all
- He does not care about her problems
The woman acts very different to his guy. She acts like the inner slut she really is. This guy is talking dirty to her, so she acts dirty. She trades sex for sex. Fast.
There is none of the "oh he might leave after sex" is there?
And to those who think that some women wouldn't be dirty like that, well there are women who will behave one way to one guy and another to another.
Whilst the nice charming guy takes her to a nice meal, pays for a nice gift, treats her sweet and texts her back, she's enjoying all that whilst dreaming of getting a cumshot facial, being fucked hard against the wall or from behind by her lover. In short she dreams of being a naughty slut. And the lover treats her like a slut.
Innocent women are often the naughtiest.
Some women who act sweet with a serious prospect and at the same time act unbelievably dirty with a lover. With the former, she'll act like a good girl. With the latter, she'll be saying things like "Yes I'm your dirty slut" - "Fuck me, fuck me harder!"
THE NICE GIRL/BAD GIRL PARADOX
Women will often have very very dirty sex with a lover, yet don't reveal it to a nice guy? Isn't it paradoxical? The way to see that side is to show her you value her sexual side. For you are what they supposedly want right? A nice caring guy. So make sure you give off the vibe of a ruler who has a harem of mistresses who are extremely hot and very naughty. And they provide you with hot dirty sex at will.
So then if your nice lady won't show you her sexy dirty slutty side, then another woman will. Suddenly the woman will chase and be turned on by your attitude of abundance as well.
The reality is, that every woman is a bad girl and wants to be one. Imagine a world where she is actually a dirty slut for a nice guy? I mean that would be hot for both sexes wouldn't it?
A woman seems to not be sexual with a guy who treats her special?
EVERYONE WANTS TO BE THE LOVER
Even the woman, for it is the lover who gets the sexual benefits and hot steamy arousal. Remember, compliments validate her ego, but don't help you be a lover. For some twisted reason, she then deems you lower status as she seeks what she can't have or desires males who are desired by other females, not those who actually show care for her. She feels sexual desire for the man she can't seem to woo. This man must then bed her fast and hard, otherwise by displaying too much interest and talking to her about her dreams, interests etc., if her sexual arousal state goes down, the logical good girl side takes over to not act easy and may even view him as a potential partner given his interest in her.
You have to bring out and enforce her bad girl/slutty lover side, not her good girl persona for society.
THE TRUTH OF HOW MEN ARE TREATED
As an orbiter, you get what is virtually the illusion of love. The woman will give you a "girlfriend experience" without the sexual component. In fact, even this may be in doses so as to keep you wanting more and reeling you in like a fish. It only happens if you keep giving her validation and support.
If you want a demonstration of whether you are valued, does she text you on special occasions? Does she initiate texts?
There are situations, e.g. college/uni/work where you can't just hit on women immediately. They might even have boyfriends (probably who are in the provider category ironically). That's fine. Be a respectul man, and there is no problem befriending her. When she becomes single, be flirty with her and be sexual. Just build it up gradually.
The friendzone does exist but it's complicated.
- A guy who meets a girl who has a boyfriend and is in her social circle, or a caring friend - is NOT friendzoned. Nor is he ruled out if she ever becomes single. He is totally an option if he so chooses. But he may have to work harder to flirt and be sexual than if he simply bumped into her from scratch. But it's still a decent position to be in. He must demonstrate he is a fun guy as well though, not just serious provider material, if he is to succeed.
- A guy who meets a brand new girl at a bar, who makes his intention clear, who ends up going on solo and group meets, but doesn't see her sexual side quickly is friendzoned for sure. Especially if she leads him on. When the woman does this she is so WRONG. She is using him as a provider whilst not being a lover to him.
- A guy who meets a girl who is single, and doesn't reveal he likes her and this continues, is FRIENDZONED. This also applies to a girl. This makes it very hard to get out of, though much easier if you're a girl. Note, this does not apply if you meet someone when taken as in the first point.
- A girl who is friendzoned can get out like they walk through automatic doors. A guy will have to take a leap of faith and climb out of the pit of doom.
WOMEN CAN BE MAD
Seriously you meet a guy, he showers you with affection, sends you sweet texts, makes an EFFORT that he wouldn't do with a guy friend. Women, clearly he LIKES YOU. Don't pretend that it isn't clear. Would you do that to a guy you didn't like?
So don't use guys. Sometimes guys are that nice that they don't just state bluntly "You are fit, let's bang". Yet if they don't you say they never made it clear? He's texting you ffs. Why do you think he is doing that?
LOVERS IS PREFERABLE AND WOMEN GET ATTACHED TO SEX
They often feel closer suddenly to those who bed them. A flaky girl will suddenly be texting you often after you bed her. She won't be "accidentally" not replying to your texts anymore. That girl who asks you how you are by text then ignores you? She'll be not only replying but begging to hear about your day. That friend who was acting pure toward you? She is going to be so slutty to keep you interested. That cute girl at the bar who thought she was above you? Well she is going to be "below" you a lot to make sure she outdoes every other girl you have your eye on.
The truth is that women also love sex. You need to tell them that, but NO ONE KNOWS HOW.
Women will be extremely dirty with those who make them feel that. This also applies to those who have known each other for years. But make sure every interaction is sexual. Just give that sexual vibe and you will get it back.
WOMEN WON'T ADMIT IT BUT THEY WILL ACT VERY DIFFERENTLY TO THE SAME COMMENT MADE BY TWO PEOPLE BASED ON THE VIBE
You look so hot, I bet you're a dirty girl," said the nice guy who had been caring to her for all these months and texted her back and listened to her, whilst looking at her seductively. She then proceeded to take it slow, or ignore him.
You look so fit. Damn you are hot girl," said the guy who just came out of nowhere eyeing her up and down. He had no interest in who she was, or what she liked. Nor did he reply to her texts or send her a sweet message. She had dirty sex with him, loving being called a "slut" in the process.
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